(MMFF)
Linda and I had been married for several years when my company asked me if I would be interested in an overseas assignment helping the company expand into other parts of Europe and Asia. Without making a firm commitment, I said I would certainly entertain the idea and discuss it with Linda. We agreed that the separation would be difficult, but the payoff in terms of future opportunities within the company might be substantial. A few months later, the regional VP said I had been nominated for a leading role in the company's expansion to Turkey and the job would take me to Ankara for about one year.
As I prepared for departure, Linda and I went out for a romantic dinner. Let me say up front that this lady is truly the love of my life β she's my confident, friend and soul mate. Linda is also an incredibly sexy woman with a passion for sex that can only be described as wild abandon. During dinner, I told Linda that I didn't expect her to sit at home for the entire year and to stay connected with her friends. She was free to go out dancing at a nightclub or go down to the pub for a drink and darts. The conversation moved on to other topics like managing the finances and home repairs.
During dessert, Linda asked me how I was going to deal with my sexual needs. I explained that since Turkey was a Muslim country, there was not much westerners could do except to take things into their own hands β literally. When I asked her the same question, she replied that she would probably have to buy some "toys to fill the void," so to speak. We both chuckled as the conversation seemed a bit awkward. It seemed we were both asking each other if the other could or would remain faithful during the separation.
For the remainder of dinner, my mind was going back to the gentle probing question about sex during the separation. I silently debated what I would feel if Linda had sex with someone else while I was gone. Would I be jealous or upset, or would I take a more pragmatic approach if the fling was just for sex and not part of an emotional relationship. I decided to ask her.
"Do you think it's possible for you to have sex with some guy without becoming emotionally involved with him?" I probed.
"What do you mean?" Linda countered. "I think the answer is yes. We had sex on our first date because I thought you were cute, but we didn't become emotionally involved until months later, as I recall."
"Well, I guess what I'm wondering is this. " I took a breath. "While I'm gone, you will certainly get horny. If you went out to a pub or nightclub for an evening and some good looking chap started chatting you up, if the mood struck you, could you have a one-night stand to scratch the itch without becoming emotionally involved with the chap?"
"That's a tough question, Vic." She lowered her voice to be barely audible. "I couldn't fuck somebody I didn't like. I'm not a machine, you know. The difference between a dildo and a real cock is that the real cock is attached to a live human being who has a personality."
"I know, I know. What I'm getting at is this. I figure that if you get horny and just want to get laid, that should be alright if you can do that without risking our relationship. I don't want to lose you because of this separation, but I also know that sex is a need that can't be completely suppressed. I figure if you know you can have sex without feeling guilty about it, and the guy doesn't really mean much to you, then we should be okay."
"Wow!" Linda mused aloud. "This conversation is blowing me away. I'm pretty much stunned and don't really know what to think at the moment."
I laughed breaking the seriousness that had taken over the conversation. This was supposed to be a romantic dinner. "Just remember," I said with a big smile, "that this husband of yours will be fantasizing about you all the time. And you already know that I've gotten off while thinking of you treating another guy to the thrill of your charms."
Linda reached across the table to take my hands. With a gentle rub and a smile that would melt an iceberg, she softly said, "You, my dear husband, just remember that I'll always love you and will be fantasizing about you too. If, and I'm not saying I will, if I did what you have suggested, would you want to know?"
"A part of me says no, but the rest of me says I'd want to know every detail. I think if you wrote to me describing everything, it would be like I was with you watching you. It's like when I hold you while you masturbate. You are giving yourself pleasure and it turns me on to see your body responds to your touch. When you go over the top, watching you during your orgasm is enough to make me come. So, to answer your question, absolutely and positively, yes β and don't leave anything out."
We left the restaurant and drove home is relative silence while holding hands and contemplating the separation and our conversation. When we got home, we went straight to bed and engaged in the most loving love-making session since our honeymoon.