As you get older there are a lot less "first times" in your relationship but the ones that come up have a lot more meaning than maybe if you had experienced them with someone else or even just earlier in life. Some people will say not to worry about firsts and while they aren't wrong, it doesn't make them any less exciting.
Babygirl and I are fortunate in that pretty much our entire relationship has been based on firsts, including the very dynamic we have. We weren't exactly inexperienced when we began; it's just that neither of us really had made it past vanilla-kink with our past partners. Our very first encounters were filled with firsts and paved the way for who we are. I won't recount them here, they are detailed in other writings for your perking pleasure. But because of all we have experienced so far, this story should come as no surprise to us or anyone familiar. Enjoy.
We discussed our kinks in the beginning, and there are many we have now that were added in the last couple of years. For me some were things more taboo than others but always lit dimly in darkest corners of my kinky mind. Things like nursing on a partner, DDlg, wax play, Sadism and Primal play especially, all sparks from a porn I'd seen or more likely something I had read on Literotica. A decade or so ago I met and lost my first kinky friends. I quickly came to realize that my foot fetish and pussy buffet fantasy did not make me kinky in the slightest. I joined FetLife when I met them and have been here off and on since.
Spark. Spark. Spark.
The more taboo things were the bigger the spark. One that has stuck with me for a very long time is watersports. It's been a fascination seated partially in my experience with partners squirting and my immense enjoyment of feeling it on me but if I was honest with myself, could I actually piss on someone? The one time in life I had done that (as an act of revenge) I had gotten in lots of trouble. It's actually an incredibly funny "bet you can't say you've heard that before!" story and while not illegal in any way, it's against the TOS to talk about. I think.
Nope, pretty sure I couldn't pee on someone. That's pretty degrading. And while I'm sure it would feel like a strange hot shower and be kinky as hell, could I actually let someone pee on me? How the hell do you even ask for something like that. Like seriously, "Hey lover, you know what would be super hot? Yeah just release your bladder on me and let's see what happens."
Nope, nope, whole lotta nope.
I'll just watch and read about other people doing it. And that was okay. But the idea never went away. I mentioned it offhandedly in discussions on kink with my Babygirl here and there. For me the interest in receiving was purely tactile based and about bonding. Everything in our dynamic is about bonding and yet had very little to do with bondage.
Sorry, bad Dad BDSM joke.
But in all seriousness, I wanted to see what it felt like to be on the receiving end in a non-degrading way. And I wanted to see what it felt like to do that to Babygirl in the same fashion.