I spoke at the Exxxotica Expo. My topic was cuckolding.
I had everything planned out, as far as what I was going to say. I told those who attended my seminar when I got to a certain point that I would take questions.
My lecture went as follows . . .
What is a cuckold? A cuckold is a man who gets turned on by the thought of, or the action of, his wife or girlfriend having sex with other men.
When people think of someone who takes part in cuckolding, they think of a loser, a type of person you might describe as a wimp. The truth is men who can share their wives with other men are risk-takers. Cuckolds are bold, confident, and they challenge social norms.
Men who take part in cuckolding, as cuckolds, suggest it can help create profound and positive life changes -- both in the short-term and long-term.
Over the long-term, these experiences support sustained well-being. Benefits include realizing that emotions, such as fear and jealousy, traditionally considered negative emotions, do not constrain a person.
These reflections can often change everyday lives -- cuckolds describe no longer being bored with life or sex. They also report seeing other people in a much more positive way after being cuckolded.
Cuckolds often describe extraordinary sensory experiences of the sort not usually available in everyday life. During cuckolding, the senses become enhanced.
Of course, when taking part in these types of activities, risks are always involved. Perhaps this is why non-participants find it hard to understand why anyone would willingly allow themselves to be cuckolded -- unless there is something not normal about them.
What's not normal about enjoying sex and wanting to share that experience with others?
Cuckolds also have a well-tuned knowledge of their own physical and psychological capacities and limitations. Cuckolding is not for men who give in to fear or are afraid of taking risks.
Cuckolds can shine a light on what it means to be human -- and what other human beings are capable of. To realize this, as a society, we need a cultural shift that accepts cuckolding as beneficial, along with a change in view that recognizes cuckolding as an example of what is possible when a couple communicates and trust one another.
Cuckolds are often successful business owners, college-educated, well to do people. These people are laid back but focused and not afraid of taking risks.
A cuckold's brain may be naturally lower in levels of dopamine and/or serotonin, according to research from Monasterio.
Dopamine is a neurotransmitter that helps manage your brain's reward and pleasure centers, plus it regulates physical and emotional responses.
The neurotransmitter serotonin regulates psychological and bodily functions, including mood regulation, sexual desire, sleep, and social behavior. When out of balance, both can lead to depressive feelings, fatigue, anxiety, and more. But instead of sitting on the couch and brooding, many cuckolds fix this by having their wife have sex with other men. Problem solved.
Moments before the wife has sex with another man, a cuckold feels a surge of fear and excitement. Their heart rate spikes, and their insides rumble. When the wife is entered by another man, those feelings give way to an intense rush. Then comes deep focus.
The cuckold must place himself to get the best view. Then, he must watch the other man make love to his wife, a few times, often for hours or more.
Cuckolding forces emotion out of the cuckold, and that primary emotion is fear. So, the person who has difficulty with emotions goes into cuckolding to feel emotions.
If a man has difficulty experiencing and expressing emotions in everyday life, then cuckolding becomes an exercise in empowerment, conquering the most primal emotion of them all: fear. They get a strong sense of living life to its fullest, reaching their full potential.
Humans are social creatures by nature. Even those who are introverted still need some level of socialization to stay well-adjusted emotionally.
Studies have even discovered that socialization is critical for cognitive functionality, another area where cuckolding receives high marks. Cuckolding can strengthen the bond between a husband and wife. It can also give the two of them the many benefits of socialization.
Exposure to stressful encounters, like cuckolding, can physically change your mental make-up to help you better handle other stressful situations.
We all have an amino acid called neuropeptide Y that, among other things, assists with the regulation of anxiety, acting as a natural sedative. Researchers from Yale Medical School tested whether it's possible to increase our natural levels of this stress-beating chemical by monitoring the biological data of cuckold men who have watched their wives have sex with multiple men.
Interestingly, researchers discovered that these men did have higher amounts of the chemical in their bodies than men in monogamous relationships, suggesting that one can become a more resilient person through exposure to stressful experiences, including participating in cuckolding.
What makes cuckolding so attractive to some men?
Thrill:
The thrill is the single most attractive factor that attracts many to cuckolding. The adrenaline rush is what differentiates it from any other type of sexual activity.
The thrill derived from seeing another man ejaculate into your wife is paramount. The cuckolds are fully exposed.
Cuckolding is also widely condemned for the same reason, as many don't think it worth it to put their relationship in harms-way just to see their wife orgasm with other men.
Pushing The Limits:
Cuckolding is about pushing limits. Cuckolding is about living life on the edge. Cuckolding is about getting out of your comfort zone and just going for it.
The cuckold allows another man, or other men, to do for and to his wife what he may never be able to do himself. He is giving his wife to other men for their pleasure. And his wife is doing what society says is just wrong.
Accepting Your Short-comings:
When you see another man please your wife in ways you possibly never can, you become very aware of your short-comings. Along with becoming aware of your short-comings, you become keenly aware of the talents and blessings bestowed upon other men.
Cuckolds consider it pointless to strive to become someone you're not. To keep up a façade over time is exhausting and strips you of your authentic self. You are who and what you are. And cuckolding is a way of helping you understand just where you stand.
Taboo:
For some, nothing titillates like the taboo. Doing the impermissible can lend itself to some of the best sex ever. For many cuckold couples, it feels so good to be so bad.
