"Can I help you Dad?"
"Sure! Can you untangle the end there?" I was standing on the ladder, only beginning to put the Christmas lights on the tree, just as I had for the last twenty-two years.
Oh!
I thought to myself;
make that the last twenty-one years.
Rick hadn't been born yet that first Christmas, and that first Christmas we didn't have any lights. Back "BM" (Before Money) we almost didn't even have a tree.
"Oh look! Remember this?" Andrea, my 18 year old daughter said, holding an ornament out for her mother to see. Glancing down at her I saw her unwrapping a favorite ornament from Christmas's past, a ceramic elf with a Candy Cane that was used to hang it on the tree. She turned and explained the significance to Donny, her boyfriend who had been asked to join us for our annual tree trimming party. It was one of the few times anymore where our family all got together, and at least for Andrea, she had a "significant other" that she asked to join us, so tonight we were 5.
Andrea definitely took after her mother. I'd seen her and Mary wearing almost matching bikinis during the summer, and they could wear each other's clothes without a problem. Thinking of your kids as being sexually active isn't normally in a father's thoughts as a good thing, but with the significance of the tree, and that she was exactly as old as Mary had been that night so many years ago when we got that star, the thought passed through my mind. Was she fucking Donny? Was she wearing naughty lingerie for him just as her mother had for me? I heard her giggle and glanced over at Andrea. She was sitting on his lap, and had whispered something in his ear. Donny's hand had started to move on her body, but his eyes rose to me as I pretended not to be looking right at them, and his hand froze. Andrea hopped up from his lap and turned back to the ornaments, leaving Donny with a bulge in his pants. I'd never thought about it before, but I knew without a doubt that he'd be boning my daughter before the night was out.
I smiled to myself, wondering if Rick and Andrea had ever contemplated the idea that, since their birthdays were a day apart and, if gestation periods were perfect, they were probably conceived on the same day of the year, just three years apart. The coincidence was only slightly obscured by Andrea having been born in a leap year. By the calendar they were a day apart, by the exact day count, they were both born on, and conceived on, the same days.
Rick really was a help. After years of being a child, he'd rapidly begun to act and respond recently as an adult. Unraveling and feeding the lights to me as I clipped them to the branches, it took us perhaps half the amount of time that it had taken me some years. As soon as the lights were hung, everyone began to hang ornaments, completing the dressing of the tree in our assortment of ornaments agglomerated over the years.
"Here's the Angel," my wife Mary said, holding it out to me. Unmentioned was the star in her other hand. Rick grabbed the Angel and handed it to me after I repositioned the ladder to be able to put her on the top of the tree. Climbing the ladder once again, I positioned the Angel, and then watched her flop over. Pulling her off of the tree top again, I trimmed the top spire and "shoved the tree top up her ass" as we had so often laughed in the past. With a wire tie and clippers, she was soon locked in place. I stepped down one step on the ladder and turned to get the star which I knew was now next.
"Why do you insist on keeping this Star, Mom?" Andrea said, taking the simple yellow star from her mother.
"Oh, tradition. It's just a good memory. It always reminds us of our first Christmas together." My eyes found hers and I smiled, knowing that identical thoughts were going through our minds about what true significance it had.
It was a simple five pointed yellow star made of construction paper that looked like it had been made by a kindergartener. In reality the young lady had probably been a teen, but her mental faculties had been that of a five year old. Glue had been traced along the outline of the edges, green glitter affixed to the glue, and a smiley face with red glitter placed in the center. A simple loop of yellow paper had been glued to the back which allowed it to be slipped over a small branch.
Truth be told, we had no idea exactly who, or even if it was multiple "who's" that had created the star.
Truth be told, whoever "she" was, she had no idea that her Christmas decoration from so long ago had become a permanent fixture in our family.
22 years prior, we had our first Christmas as a family of two. I was about to graduate from College, and Mary, my high school sweetheart, and I had gotten married on her 18th Birthday, just a few months before. With Mary's job at the grocery store, and my part time work, being able to eat and pay rent took virtually all our money. When it came time to get a tree, we knew that that it wasn't going to happen -- we didn't have any money to spare. No tree and no lights to decorate it, no ornaments to adorn it, we just put the thought aside for later years when we would have a family to share it with.