I've always loved making love to women, but early in life found that giving orgasms is the best. Giving them gives you power you never knew you had and if you are the best at it, you can get whatever you want, whenever you want and for as long as you want. Getting great at it does take time.
One of my first girl friends, a red head, loved getting stimulated orgasms and or oral and was my real teacher, she was verbal and told me what to do and not to do which made me excellent at giving orgasms by finger or eating pussy, both I loved equally. Doing that all the time, made it second nature, I could always tell when they were going to hit their peak, sometimes I would drag it out to make it even better. They would beg me to fuck them as they couldn't stand my tongue teasing them, but having them cum by tongue was so much better than by cock as you can see and feel the cum, the hot cum running down your tongue and they are ever so grateful...
I recently had the experience of giving a double orgasm to my wife. We really haven't had much sex since being married, 10 years. Early on, my large cock injured her by tearing her, but she didn't tell me for a long time. She just didn't have the lubrication needed I guess. She went to the doctor, got estrogen and we bought KY lube which is great, very slippery and she would let me finger fuck her with sometimes two fingers, but I could always lick her clit and she always got to cum.