Erogenous Zones The Joy Of Teasing

The key goes into the door, the door swings open and you both stumble into the lobby. Neither being able to keep your hands off each other. Hungry kisses are being exchanged while you struggle with getting rid of that jacket, and she slams the door shut with her foot. You tumble into the bedroom and fall onto the fresh linen sheets. You’re both rearing to go.

Depending on the mood you and your partner are in, you can now choose to either:

a) rip each other’s clothes off, start banging away and getting the release you both want within 20mins of entering the home.

b) prolong everything by spending time exploring each other’s bodies, and then when neither of you can take it anymore; have steamy breathtaking sex.

Now, if you’re anything like me you’d choose answer b). I personally love exploring my partner’s body. Bodies are to me beautiful and fascinating. They’re like instruments waiting to be tuned in the right way. Like an instrument it’ll respond in different ways depending on the way you play it, and who is playing it. When two musicians play the same piece on the same piano, you can still notice the differences in how the instrument responds. Same goes for your body.

I remember one night with my first boyfriend. We were sitting opposite each other talking, and as usual my fingers automatically caressed his arm. I started to trail my fingers lightly over his whole arm, from the shoulder all the way down to his fingertips. As I could see he was enjoying it, so I continued. I held out his arm and continued to trace my hand along it, exchanging trailing the whole hand, the fingers and nails. I also varied the pressure and took note of where he seemed to be most sensitive. When finding that spot I’d work it for a bit longer, then continue and then back again. At times I would kiss the arm or spot. Now and then I’d blow on the spot lightly, and when he started to really get excited I’d run my tongue over it.

I remember him getting more and more excited, and he began to squirm on the bed. When I ran my nails with much more pressure than before, he suddenly started to moan and gasp loudly. After catching his breath he just looked at me with a perplexed expression, and said he just had an orgasm. I just laughed at him, but he insisted he had one, and that it hadn’t been the regular type. It had been one where he didn’t ejaculate, but had felt it throughout his body. He told me he had never cum that way before, with nobody touching his genitals, and he had only before had that type of orgasm by himself. That’s when I realised how many secrets the human body really hides.

Since that day I’ve loved to explore my partner’s body, from top to toe.

Head

Many women love it when their man plays with their hair. I don’t know exactly why we love it, but damn it feels nice! Run your hands through your partner’s hair. Play with it. It’s not for nothing certain countries praise long hair on women as one of their most feminine and erotic features. A scalp massage will also do wonders for anyone. It’s very relaxing, and combined with washing your partner’s hair it’s even better. Then of course, a little tug while being in the throws of passion always works wonders...

Face

First things first; don’t lick your partner’s face like you’re a dog. A friend of mine got into the habit of doing it when he saw me. What can I say? It was wet and not to be a recommended way to show your affection (unless you really are a dog).

Do kiss your partner’s face though. Think romantic featherlight kisses on the forehead, eyelids, nose, cheeks, chin, jawbone and, of course, lips. If you want to feel wonderfully silly, rub your noses together in an Eskimo kiss. A boyfriend of mine used to tickle my nose ridge. He said I made the cutest scrunchy faces when he did that.

Ears. I had no idea why people found kissing and licking ears exciting. Not until a friend of mine one day started to nibble my earlobe, and suddenly stuck his tongue into my ear. First reaction: yikes, what is he doing?! Second reaction: wow, do that some more. Many people are extra sensitive right behind the earlobe.

Nibbling is good, and if you want to use your tongue, see to it that you don’t shove it in too deep. Oh, and no dribbling please.

Kissing. We all love it, and we all want it done differently. I can only say two things really; don’t stick your tongue in too fast and too far, and please don’t slobber all over me.

Throat/Neck

Probably one of the most appreciated erogenous zones apart from the obvious ones. Kiss, lick, nibble, tickle, suck or bite. The choice is all yours. Most people love it when you pay attention to their neck, be it the nape, centre or where the shoulder meets it. Some are so sensitive there, you just have to blow or touch it lightly before they’re all fired up.

Shoulders

I love it when I get a shoulder and neck massage. I absolutely adore it. Helps me relax, and the more relaxed I am, the more prone I will be to let my body override my mind.

Kissing the collarbone is often appreciated and shouldn’t be forgotten.

Arms

As I mentioned earlier, let your hands caress the arms. One at a time or both at once. Remember, the more you concentrate on one area of the body, the more your senses will focus on what’s happening there.

The inner arm is usually more sensitive than the rest of the arm. I’ve noticed some are the most sensitive by the elbow joint. For others the it’s below the elbow and down to the hand where it’s most sensitive. Just trail your fingertips along the arm and find out what works for you. Running your tongue slowly along the arm is also very nice.

Hands

Run your tongue down my inner arm, stop by the wrist for a few seconds, then continue to lick and kiss my palm, before finally taking my fingers, one by one, into your mouth and gently suck them. Don’t forget a light flick of the tongue on the skin in-between my fingers and knuckles. Do that and I’m sure to be putty in your hands. Hey, if it worked for Johnny Depp in “Don Juan de Marco”, why shouldn’t it work for you?

Breasts/Chest

Women know men love to play with their breasts. That’s cool, we love it when you do. The general rule though is that, unless she wants it, try not to be too rough. They’re attached to a body, and not every woman is that sensitive in that area. I recall a girl’s night in when the topic of breasts and sensitivity came up. Though majority of the girls said they loved breast play, there were a few who just couldn’t understand the big fuss. Some women just aren’t as sensitive, and no, just because you’re spending half an hour licking and sucking my nipples, it won’t mean I’ll get more sensitive or have a porn orgasm. It’ll just hurt after a while.

I’m not saying that one shouldn’t play with the breast, but if you notice she’s not really into it, or perhaps need to be stimulated more by rhythmic circular movements, rather than having her tits squeezed, then follow her lead.

When it comes to men’s chests, well what can I say, but hallelujah for hot summer days when they take their shirts off. Some like ‘em hairy while others (like me) prefer them smooth. As men’s chests are limited in size, we don’t have the choices they have when playing with our breasts. Still, the normal kissing, licking and caressing always feels nice, doesn’t it guys?

Oh Girls, don’t forget to pay some attention to his nipples too. Even if yours may not be sensitive, it doesn’t mean his aren’t. Flicking your tongue and sucking his nipples while giving him a handjob can heighten his arousal. Or pinching themlightly while giving him a blowjob also works.

Waist & Stomach area

I swear the stomach is there for nothing else but to put your mouth to it and blow on it, creating farting sounds, while making your partner laugh and deem you as childish. Oh yeah, it’s great to fall asleep on too.

Now, the waist and sides are perfect places to find spots where your partner will start to squirm. For this purpose I’ve found using my tongue is the best instrument. Trace your tongue along your partners side, stop here and there to flick it around. Sooner or later you’ll find a spot where he/she is more sensitive. For the men I’ve done this too, it seems there are two main spots. One is waist height and halfway to the navel. The other one being just by the hipbone, going down towards the groin. The area between the waist and genitals seem to hold many interesting spots. Some guys have been too ticklish, while others went gaga when I worked their particular spot.

The navel. I’ve read many who mention that the navel is an erogenous zone to them. This was something totally new to me, and I’m curious now if it’d work on me. Better find myself a man so I can try it out!

Genitals

There is plenty of information out there how to give great oral sex or handjobs; lubrication, variation, pressure, speed, adding of fingers and a half hour to an hour should make it perfect (and that‘s the minimum time!).

I really can’t come up with anything new to add, apart from reminding the females not to forget the balls. Not all men like it, some find it painful even, but many love it of you play with their balls. Hold them in your hand and massage them gently. Licking them feels great (so I’ve heard!), and work yourself from front till back. The small area between the balls and rectum can be very sensitive.

Wait, I just remembered something. Guys, when you perform oral on a girl, don’t forget that some girls can’t take too much direct stimulation on the clit. Work around the whole pussy area too, don’t just concentrate on the clit. And use your whole tongue, not just the tip of it.

Back

Sigh, am I the only woman who has a thing for shoulder blades? Probably. Anyway, kissing, licking, caressing and massaging are once again fool proof here. Many men and women love it when you kiss/lick down their spine. The end of the spine is often the most sensitive area, so spend some time blowing, kissing and working that hot tongue of yours there.

Ass/Arse

Now, who doesn’t like a nicely shaped arse? Didn’t think so.

Kneading, massaging motions work great on the arse. Parting the cheeks now and then in the process doesn’t hurt either. Running your nails over his roundness, before grabbing him to help pushing in deeper while you’re getting it on, certainly isn’t a negative thing. Neither is blowing lightly and kissing right above where the crack starts.

Some people like a friendly spanking, a rimming, anal fingering or anal sex. Whatever works for you and your partner, but as with everything else; communicate first and don’t do anything the other person isn’t up to. If you’re interested in anal play, do look up other How To essays that deal with this. They give plenty of advice.

Oh yeah, guys if you want to do anal play with her, I think it’s just fair you let her play with you too. Just my opinion.

Legs

The inner thighs are often very sensitive, and is definitely to include in your top to toe repertoire. The back of the knee is another area definitely worth exploring. Don’t forget to caress the calves and if you partner isn’t too ticklish, play with their feet. Personally I’m far too ticklish for anyone to touch my feet. I’d end up kicking the poor guy instead!

When you’ve found your partners hot spots, keep working them until he/she can’t take it anymore. Being a big fan of delaying the main event (don’t you love the power kick it gives seeing your partner squirm and beg?), I usually spend quite some time playing around with these hot spots (naturally focusing extra on the main ones). When I’ve tortured him long enough I start to move in towards his genitals. This basically means running my nails along his inner thighs, closer and closer to his package. Then I normally start with the best teasing bit and caress all around his genitals, while taking in the lovely sight of his rock hard dick.

Ok, so he’s damn hard by now and dying for you to touch him directly. Don’t. Take your thumb and middle finger and put them lightly together. Imagine him lying down on the bed. Now run your fingertips from the back of his balls, parting the fingers to follow on each side of the balls, and continue alongside the sides of his shaft trailing the contours. Trail your fingers back the same way you came. First couple of times, try not to touch the shaft, then do it the third time. Perfect start for a handjob. Then later when he’s even hornier, progress to a blowjob. He’ll love you for it.

For the men, do the same trailing of contours, but along the outer lips. The skin around the pussy is usually very sensitive, as I’m sure you know. Run your fingers up and down along the sides of her outer lips, then when on your way up again, put the fingertips together again and let them go up along her wet inner folds. On the way down go along the sides again, then inner lips. Repeat and then just do whatever feels good for her. When you find something she likes, keep doing it.

If your partner is doing one thing that feels good, then imagine him/her doing two or three things at the same time! Yep, it’s multi-tasking time. When you know how and where to touch your partner, try to combine as many things as possible. Then just follow the old start-and-stop technique. Get your partner to the edge, then stop what you’re doing and start something new or take a break, then start again. When neither of you can take it anymore, have hot steaming sex. Add to this a bit of vocal accompaniment and you should be having a great time!

I hope you and your partner will have a great time exploring each other’s bodies, and please vote and send me feedback.