Perhaps the greatest hurdle that women face in enjoying sex is overcoming society's imprint on their psyche. At a young age, they are often trained that sex is dirty, offensive and best left to be performed on an "as needed basis". Even as women grow, mature, and become more comfortable with their sexual needs, it can still be difficult to erase society's fingerprints from their minds. Add to that a woman's innate desire to please and the situation can become even more complicated. She wants to please her lover, but society has taught her that many things he wants are "unladylike". Also add in a woman's natural tendency to worry about events far outside of the bedroom and intimacy becomes even more complicated. Men can easily lie on the bed and immediately give full attention to sexual activities. Most women, however, find it difficult to shut of their work day, parental duties, and other commitments. So even as women become comfortable with giving and receiving pleasure, it can be difficult to shut out the world and let her juices flow.
One way to assist a female lover in overcoming all the mental noise she hears in the bedroom is to develop a scenario of submission. If a woman feels that her sexual desires are not under her command and that her full attention is required in the bedroom, she can be freed to focus on the matters at hand. Under her lover's command she is free to experience acts that she enjoys, but is unwilling or reluctant to ask for.
My wife is one such woman. She will do anything I ask in private, but she is often tentative in asking for her own desires to be met. She is interested in anal sex and is also excited by mild discipline and submission. While she may not easily ask for these activities, she thoroughly enjoys them. I developed the following "contract" to help her release her inhibitions. After signing this, she now feels free to experience all the aspects of sex that she enjoys and any guilt or apprehension is set aside under the auspices that I am "making her do these things". This new "contract" has been going so well that I thought I would share it with other readers. Feel free to use and modify it for your own needs.
Contract of Submission