My assumption of you, the reader, is that you are a woman whose husband or boyfriend is sexually submissive. He may have expressed an interest in exploring this with you. Perhaps you are already exploring this dynamic but are looking for additional suggestions to try with him. You may also be a man who hungers to submit to a woman but need something to show her to give her a better idea of what being submissive actually means.
I'm also assuming that both you and your partner are heterosexual. Some of you may be bisexual or bicurious, but I am focusing this article on purely monogamous activities. Sexual activities with others outside the relationship are beyond the scope of this article, but they can be a delicious addition if the relationship is secure and both partners are willing!
There are strong themes of BDSM and sexual domination in this article. It's somewhat the nature of the kink. If those don't interest you then this is probably not the article for you. This is not an exhaustive list. It is also very likely that every single suggestion in this article will not apply to your man. It's up to you to pick and choose the appropriate ones that will arouse both of you, while avoiding the ones that will deter his submissive nature. Don't be surprised if you find some suggestions in here that are totally disinteresting while reading others that apply perfectly!
Preface.
Sexually submissive men hunger to be controlled and directed. We desire to be in sexual servitude to our woman, and for her to take the lead in directing sexual activities. We also often have a strong affinity for humiliation to some extent. I will describe several activities and scenarios below, but there are two primary topics that are staples - dare I say
requirement
- when exploring with your sexually submissive man:
1.
Anal Penetration.
Honestly, allowing someone to penetrate us anally is one of the most submissive acts that we submissive men can perform. It's a combination of both pleasure and vulnerability. It's something we crave, it fulfills a very basic need, and should be used by the female in the relationship. I'll describe various methods and related activities below.
2.
Cum Eating.
It's not typically normal for a man to consume his own seed, yet we often do it anyway. Nature's intention is for us to inseminate a woman in order to propagate our DNA. The fact that sex is pleasurable for both of us ensures survival of the species. Being forced to consume one's own ejaculate is preventing that. It registers at a very strong level in our brains. I'm not saying that a woman should never receive her submissive man's semen during sex. Many women enjoy the taste of cum, and are turned on by feeling their lovers ejaculate inside their mouths. Having a man cum inside you is a very intimate part of lovemaking. What I'm saying is that outside those activities, while exploring your man's submissiveness, he should always be made to consume his own cum.
Orgasm Ownership/Denial.
You own his cock. The semen he produces is yours and yours alone. You will make it absolutely clear that he is never to self-pleasure without permission. He is never to waste his semen, that you decide its final use and destination, and that you dictate when and if he experiences an orgasm. Just temper this with a merciful attitude. It's OK to deny him release, but be sure to reward him occasionally when he has excelled in his devotion and servitude to you.
Body Hair.
Removal of body hair, specifically pubic, rectal, and underarm hair, adds an interesting dynamic to the situation. The submissive male should be instructed that he is to remain hairless in these areas at all times. This hair is a very important secondary sexual characteristic for a man when he enters puberty. It is an outward sign of his male sexuality, and you are removing it from him. It's also inconspicuous in case the male wishes to hide his submissiveness from the rest of the world, which is usually the case. Periodic inspections by you, the dominant female, add to the erotic value of this.
Analingus.
