Hello fellow degenerates, I know that the posts on this site are supposed to only feature sick fantasies and ads made to live out said fantasies, but before you leave that comment saying "where is the horny OwO" or something let me tell you that this was not my idea but one concocted by one of my playmates.
You see I joined this site looking for adventure four years ago and as a switch I had a lot of fun encounters with both doms and subs and she thought that it might be interesting if I decided to share some of them with you all.
Don't worry I will give them all fake names before any of you stalker types start getting any funny ideas.
But before I start sharing any of my experiences, I will go over some basics of a sub/dom relationship so you freaks don't end up raped and dead in a ditch somewhere.
RULE 1: Keep things legal.
I can't stress this enough. Any of you who want to involve kids, actual animals, dead people or mentally disabled people, get some help, before you do something which you will regret for the rest of your life, because let me tell you that one of my partners who is coincidentally a correctional officer told me that people like that get the worst in prison once the inevitably end up in there and I don't mean just rape. If you end up in there, they will fucking kill your ass once they realise what a sick freak you are.
RULE 2: Safe words exist for a reason.
This is important for both doms and subs.
Let me paint you a quick scene. Let's say that you are a femboy catboy and also a massive buttslut and you are having fun getting your prostate destroyed by your horse dom, when he suddenly reaches for your arms and starts to fuck you even harder. Abruptly it starts to hurt, and you yell for him to stop, but then you remember that this is a rapeplay fantasy and you forgot to set any safe words, so you partner thinks that you are just putting on an act just to make it more realistic and decides to "help you" by covering up your mouth. Later after a rather messy breakup with a guy you thought to be your SO you end up in a hospital and are told that you will need to keep your legs closed for at least six months if you ever want to recover and are left with a nasty psychological trauma and a hefty hospital bill.
Look I know that what I just presented is an extreme case, but it shows why this safety measure is so important and it goes hand in hand with the fact that you need to know your limits. Even if you want to impress your partner during sex, it's not worth it to risk injury or trauma just to satisfy a fantasy.
As for you doms, it's extremely important to respect the consent of your partner, no matter what scenario you are playing out, you must never forget that your sub is an emotional thinking being with their own limits and even though you are in control, you must never push them past their breaking point.
It's also important to say that if you ignore the use of a safe word, you are a disgusting beast and you are not worthy of your sub. During a dom/sub relationship your partner is giving you most of the control and all of their trust. They are willing to basically give themselves to you and to betray such a deep feeling of trust is nothing short of disgusting.
Also even if you have this type of fantasy of ultimate betrayal of your partners trust, there are ways through which you can enjoy them and stay safe. For example, you can set up "fake safe words" along with real ones. This leads me to the next rule.
RULE 3: Know what your partners fetishes are.
This is extremely important. This doesn't affect the safety like the previous rule, but it has the potential to completely ruin any mood you have going with your partner.
For example, most people who get into the sub role have no problems with a dom pulling their hair during sex to show some dominance, I however have an extremely sensitive scalp and it doesn't get me to feel submissive it makes me feel pissed off, completely breaking the immersion. However, when in a role of a sub I love the thought of a dominant hunk holding me roughly down by my neck with one giant hand and patting my hair with the other all the while telling me what sick things they will do to me.
To simplify, we all have our kinks and fetishes, and it doesn't hurt to broaden your horizons once in a while, however you need to tell your partner what you are or aren't okay with before the fun starts.
It's like going to a restaurant and telling the waiter that you want your steak well done, nothing weird or strange about it you just prefer it that way or maybe you just can't stand rare meat.
This goes out mainly to you subs out there. You have every right to tell your partner what you are not okay with. In fact, it's extremely healthy in a relationship and a good dom will respect you enough to quit doing something to you if it makes you uncomfortable even in S&M situations.
So once again subs, don't be afraid to tell your dom what you like or dislike and doms, make sure your partner is okay with what is happening to them or that they are at least curious enough to try such a thing.
RULE 4: Consider hygiene.
Hygiene plays a big part in BDSM, for one I have met some subs that absolutely love when they are dominated by a sweaty and dirty partner because it adds that "wild" and "savage" theme into the intercourse, however some subs absolutely hate BO. And it's not just BO, I once had some fun with a submissive girl that told me afterward, that she was grateful that I brushed my teeth before meeting her since she normally hates the smell that comes out of a person's mouth.
But that is not even scratching the surface, hygiene really comes into play when you use any sort of equipment. Ssome subs absolutely hate it when there are some remnants of sweat or fur on things like collars, handcuffs, ropes, etc. This is especially common with canines such as foxes and wolves.
So, when you want to be a dom, you should absolutely make sure that everything you are planning to use on a sub is clean and ready, because you are not just doing it for their comfort, you are also helping to fight diseases.
However too much hygiene can be a problem too. Once I played with dom that was an absolute clean freak and probably used some sort of strong disincentive solution that made every piece of his gear smell like it came out of a hospital. Now I am not a guy to turn down some interesting clinical bondage, but the smell made me feel very dizzy.
So, I guess there is no one right answer when talking about hygiene, but you should once again consider your partner's feelings on the matter whether you are a sub or a dom.
RULE 5: Normalcy doesn't really exist.
This advice is meant for more than just BDSM sex life, but more so for life in general.
I often get asked things like "Hey Sunny (yeah that's my name and yes, my parents hate me), is it normal if I wanna lick up my boyfriend's musk after he gets home from the gym?", "Yo Sunny, I had a weird wet dream about drinking piss last night, is that normal?", "Sunny, I watched a lesbian porn a few days ago on a dare and... I kinda liked it... is that weird?" you get the idea.