Nobody ever taught me anything good about sex, not even when I reached the magic age of 18, when Literotica allows writers to consider sex. I tried to find girlfriends and eventually married and had children. I worked and worked, for money that got spent to pay for a house, food, a car, and the usual trappings of middle class life. I read about sex, but mostly it seemed like something that everyone else was enjoying a lot- and I was never really getting very much of.
Even basic ideas such as "what do women enjoy?" were beyond me. When younger, I had somehow developed the idea that women do NOT enjoy sex, but they let men use them for pleasure- either for love or for money (or both!).
Eventually I learned that some men prefer to have sex with other men- which never made any sense to me... but when I learned that some women prefer to have sex with other women, I was even more confused. I understood the idea of fucking an asshole full of shit, or having someone (or some thing? or some animal) suck on a penis until it spewed out its juice. But somehow I must have had the primitive idea that women were just men with amputated penis and a hole for the penis to go into- how God made woman! Not from a rib, but from a guy- cut off his dick and create a new hole down there.
With age and lots of reading, I developed better (more accurate) ideas about what people actually DID (Kinsey's book) and how they could do it better (Masters & Johnson). None of these experts were available to me, and the women I met were not about to tell me what she wanted or tell me how to improve on what I was doing.
So a typical "date" would be for me to take a girl someplace, pay and pay, then eventually take her home and park outside her home- and find out if she wanted to "talk"... and while we were talking I would try to "touch" her. Maybe starting with a kiss, maybe a hug or three, then get my hands on various parts of her body that were not very sexual (back rub?)... and that really did not provide much in the way of success or pleasure in terms of what I wanted sexually.
Paradise by the dashboard lights? If you haven't heard that song, you probably should not be reading this story. Anyway, you already know that I did get married and raised kids with her- so she won and I found myself "waiting' for the end of time, to hurry up and arrive". She had apparently NEVER enjoyed sex, but used it to get what she did want- and if I believed her, she never even pleased herself (masturbation), but as with other things I "learned", that just seemed impossible. But I suppose that if someone enjoys sticking his stiff dick into someone's shit, pretty much anything is "possible".
I attended some seminars on seduction- always SPEED seduction because who has the time to waste on SLOW seduction? Or maybe that is what I had been trying on all those dated before I finally got married?
Then a casual acquaintance convinced me to come to a "different kind of sex lecture"- the guy claimed to be a hypnotist and the idea was to simply hypnotize women into thinking the guy was exactly right for her and thus she would let him do whatever he wanted to do to her, with her, on her... whatever you will.
That actually is sort of the idea behind most speed seduction: find out what women claim to enjoy and just pretend that is exactly what you want. She wants to go on an expensive holiday, just act as if you were already there with her... and maybe she will take off her pants and wrap her legs around you while you are describing the beautiful sand beaches (but don't mention the tar that is everywhere on the beach).
That lecture changed my life. The very next day I went out to the Mall and walked around until I saw a young women who seemed dressed to attract- I went up to her from behind and when close I whispered "Beg me to fuck you."
She turned around and I did not have to whisper it again- when she saw that I already had my cock out and she saw how stiff it was, she just turned around and bent over right there... so I could pull down her panties and start fucking her from behind. I finished very quickly, and even pulled up her panties for her so she could be on her way, as I was on mine.
