"And so now we are going to talk about toxic masculinity," the instructor said.
She meant, of course, that she was going to talk about it and the couples on her detox retreat were going to listen mutely. She had forbidden them from talking that morning with a vow of silence.
The instructor, who might have been Amazonian in appearance were it not for her fondness for floral print, spoke with exaggerated gestures that jangled her earrings and billowed the sleeves of her blouse. Her morning lecture was exhaustive on the topic of chakras but now she had turned to the need to draw out men's feminine side.
A man near the back tried to catch his girlfriend's eye to exchange a wry smile, but she looked on absorbed as the instructor listed her "radical plan of action" that she expected each couple to carry out.
"Now, men," she said. "You are going to experience a blossoming. I want you to open your minds and accept that you are not the decision makers today."
She turned to the room with a beatific smile. "Would a couple like to volunteer to lead us?"
His girlfriend raised her arm and sprang to her haunches.
"Perfect," the instructor said, striding towards them. She took each of their hands in hers and led them to the front. "Everyone, please watch closely. We're all going on this journey together and you'll be doing this when we do our break-out sessions in a few minutes."
She asked his girlfriend to distribute a silk scarf to every couple and told them to make a slipknot at each end. "Women, I want you to do this now. You pop his wrist in, like so, and he holds it up next to his neck, just like this."
She wound the scarf around the base of his throat - "not too tight, of course" - till there was only just enough length for the other loop to secure his free wrist.
"So this makes our men a little more biddable, and we're going to take that a bit further by asking him to share what mother earth has given to him. Okay?"