Life can take some amazing turns. For the second time I was supposed to be dead by now.
That first time is a blurred memory, I really do think most of it evolved over time rather than being an account of what happened at the moment.
Badly wounded in an ugly war, surrounded by noise, flashes of lights and men yelling, I seem to remember lying there as a Doctor leaned over me. I have a clear vision of him reaching up and pushing a pair of glasses back up his nose.
I probably didn't look too good, blood and mud all over me, my left arm draped over my right side holding my intestines in as much as I could.
"This one's done." He had said, and turned away to try and help the others.
"I am not going to die." I managed to get out. He turned back to me and looked again. Then there was a blur of faces and after that I remember nothing.
I woke up in a room with lots of other men, bandaged up. Did that actually happen the way I just said it? I don't really know for sure but I think it did.
The second time was about 45 years later, the kind old Doctor patted my arm and told me that what I had planned was what he would do. Go have fun, enjoy the time that was left. That sounded a lot better than being sick as a dog and kicking off anyway.
"Six months, maybe a year." He told me.
That was almost two years ago. There is something about a healthy diet, exercise, and a reason to keep on going that does wonders. It keeps a person alive, curiousity about what the next day may bring is part of it.
The doctor had checked me out and asked me what I had been doing. "Exercise" I told him with a grin, then I told him about Kathy and all of the changes she had made in my life.
"Well, keep it up." He smiled at me, and he actually winked.
By accident, just chasing memories, I had met a young woman with two children. 40 years younger than me, now that is something an old man in my stage of life could not even dream of happening.
Meeting a woman had been the very last thing on my mind, too.
It was just an old bar, a club where I had spent many hours as a young man usually raising hell and having fun. I took my turns up on the stage with my band, screaming out the music of the day and pounding on an electric guitar.
Most of the patrons were far too drunk to realize how bad we were, though. The louder we got and the more off key we got, the better they liked it.
Every single shadow in the place held the ghosts of memories, of moments in time.
I had overheard her on her phone, heard the pain in her voice, the worry. On impulse, I had quietly slipped a couple of hundred dollar bills under my coffee cup and left.
That was a small thing to me, but a big thing for her. It was enough to bridge a gap, create hope.
A gift from a stranger, nothing asked and nothing offered, the kind of thing that does get noticed though.
When she saw me again days later, I was sitting alone, mindlessly tapping buttons on a machine designed to remove money from my pocket. She wanted to say thank you. Curious perhaps? That I could understand.
Perhaps in her mind she saw me at first as a sugar daddy, perhaps? Another thing I do not know. I do know we almost instantly became friends. There were dinners, long walks, an old grandfather figure and a young woman, just enjoying each other.
Just being with her brightened up the gray days of my fading life. Nothing asked and nothing offered, just more moments enjoyed, then left to the shadows of time.
When she decided, she simply took charge. She came to me wanting to be with me, it couldn't be for money or things because I had made it very clear that everything was going to my own son and grandgirls.
I had also long since given up any thought of sex. I could buy that if I wanted but I never was very comfortable doing that like so many others I knew. That was all just me and the way I was, sex was a personal thing to me and it was something that was best shared. It wasn't something that could be bought and sold. All that ever was, was a pretense.
I won't go so far as to say I never did use a lady of the evening, there were the girls available when we were on leave, plus in the years before I met my late wife Dotty I had dated and things happened.
The truth is that a boy must be a boy before he can become a man.
But there is something about waking up with a woman that cares about you that can't be topped.
Watching someone get dressed and stuff money in their purse and leave just made me feel alone and hollow inside.
When I met my future wife Dotty, it was a full dozen dates and some long sessions of necking and exploring before she decided. It was her that decided too, not me. Just like Kathy did.
That first time for us was pretty messy, I knew right off that she was a virgin, well right after it was way too late anyway.
I had never asked and she had never said. In fact, I am not real sure that at that time in my life I would have believed her. In that world and at that time there just was almost no such thing as a virgin, not after puberty anyway.
Dotty was 20 years old, I knew I had found something rare. I loved her beyond reason, and she was the same with me.
I will always remember that first time, the way she had pressed her bare upper body to my chest to hide her breasts from my gaze, shy about that but determined. The first probing touch of her fingers on my loins, the quickening of her breath as she found me. Her fingertips explored at first, there was that wonderful newness. I just held her and stroked her back, let her experiment.
She poked and rubbed my erection with just a couple of her fingertips, almost like she was unsure of exactly what that was or what she was supposed to do with it. Then she pressed it down, released it and it popped right back up, and she giggled. She did that a half dozen times, we both broke into hysterics that left us gasping for breath.