This is a true story about a woman who meant a lot to me many years ago.
It was 1973, and I was a 24 year old Army enlisted man, stationed in central Germany. I thought at the time that I was really out of the action, sexually, but in recalling those days later, I've realized that there were lots of unique experiences with women on that German tour. Perhaps some day I'll write about the lieutenant's wife, or the PFC's wife, or one of my other close calls. But the experience I recall most fondly is my relationship with Ursula.
Ursula was a fixture on the post where I was stationed. You'd frequently see her puttering around in her white VW bug. Ursula was German, but since she was married to a Stars and Stripes employee, she had the run of all the military facilities.
Ursula was talented in many ways, one of which was her facility with languages. She spoke German, French, and better English than most of the soldiers on our post. Her linguistic ability, combined with a vibrant, pleasing personality allowed her to have a thriving business buying and selling the things that soldiers and their families needed in a foreign country.
She would get used goods on the German economy, like major kitchen appliances, and sell them to the the lower ranks who had brought their wives and families to Europe, only to find that it was really different from the States. Many of these young men were just kids emotionally and had no clue how to function in a foreign country, far from their insulated neighborhoods back. When those soldiers left or sent their alienated and depressed wives home, Ursula was there to buy back the fridge or stove she'd sold them months earlier and place the item with a new owner, making a reasonable profit each time.
You'd often see her on the tennis court, where her skill could easily knock off a much younger male competitor. She had absolutely no problem humbling an opponent, yet she did it in a nice way, usually with words of encouragement for the bewildered soldier.
She was a striking figure on and off the court, with her straight, slim body and long, thick salt-and-pepper hair. She certainly didn't advertise it, but I found out later that she was 45 years old. Ursula was more woman than most of those hayseed privates and corporals had ever encountered. A powerful woman, and highly independent. Though she was only about 5'6" or so, her sharp nose and erect posture gave her the aire of someone much taller. Ursula wore fairly heavy blue eyeshadow and mascara that gave her deep-set eyes an intense quality, which contrasted with her quick smile.
I was frankly scared of her. I would never have thought to approach her sexually, since I knew she could shoot me down in three languages. After all, what had I to offer? An average-looking guy, a bit older than most of the enlisted men ambling about the post. More shy than I would have like to have been. But Ursula apparently saw something in me that she liked.
I can hardly remember how it happened or exactly what she said to me that day. We were at the Recreation Center after work. I used to go there sometimes in the evening and work in the darkroom. (One of the benefits of being in the Army was the ability to buy cameras and stereos at cut-rate prices, and I had acquired a nice SLR and learned to print black-and-white pictures at the Rec.) As I had nothing more interesting to do that night, I was at work on a couple of prints. One of them was a simple study of the textures in the broken body of a tree felled by lightning.
I had finished and was in the game room, sitting in a green vinyl chair, admiring my work when Ursula walked by. I almost felt like I should stand up and salute, she was so impressive. She leaned down to take a look a my 8x10, and I gazed at her B-cups through the top of her white blouse. I think that was the first time she had ever spoken to me directly, although I always aknowledged her when I saw her around.
Ursula was very savvy and very direct. It probably took her an instant to notice where my glance landed, and not much longer for her to make up her mind to give me a try. Maybe she liked the picture, and just in case, I've kept it all these years to remind me of her. For whatever reason, after a few minutes, she suggested, quite out of the blue, that we go downtown for a drink. There was absolutely no chance that I would say no.
Minutes later, we were in her bug rumbling down the cobblestone streets to a small restaurant and bar. Not one of the usual joints where the G.I.'s hung out. I was in civies, but the haircut in those days was a giveaway. Ursula didn't seem to mind that I stuck out in the place. She was acquainted with the bartender in the nearly empty, cosy little bar, and we had a nice drink. When she asked if I'd like to come back to her place, again there was only one possible answer.
I began to learn then about Ursula's situation, but only a little bit that first night. I knew she was a Mrs, but she revealed to me that her husband was quite unconcerned about her sex life. They not only had separate bedrooms in opposite ends of the house, but she rarely saw him except at dinner time. He left every night, and she never knew if he came home or not. And he never questioned her about her activities, much less intruded upon them.