My name is Lisa. I am 43 and have been married to Joe for almost 20 years. The past few years, Joe has been traveling a lot for work. We have been spending long periods away from each other and have definitely been less intimate. It was Thursday morning and he was getting ready to head off for a week in California. He woke up late and rushed out in a whirl wind, he was supposed to get up at 4 am to catch his plane. Unfortunately the alarm did not go off and he woke at 5:15. He ran through the house cursing, grabbing his things and racing off. I managed to fall back to sleep until 7:30.
As I was getting ready for work, I noticed he had forgotten his laptop on the table. Wow I thought he must have been frantic this morning, he never goes anywhere without his laptop. I picked it up to put in the bedroom. I must have touched a button because the screen opened up. It was on his hotmail account and he was still logged in. There was a chat box opened up with someone named Sexylady saying hello to him. I put the laptop down and took a glance through his old mail messages and found many from this Sexylady person who turned out to be a woman named Jenny.
This was how I discovered he is having an affair. At first I was hurt and shocked. I wanted to confront him and yell at him, but there was no way I could contact him. He would be on the plane for the next 4-5 hours. I was crushed, embarrassed and insulted, I wanted to throw him out of the house.
I was so upset I thought about calling out from work but decided I needed the distraction to think about what I should do.
When got to work, I called my best friend Dina. She is currently divorced and I needed to talk to someone for advice. She was outraged at Joe and insisted I come over to her house after work and stay with her for the weekend. I agreed.
After work I stopped at home and picked up a few things and drove to Dina's. She had a glass of wine ready when I got there. We drank the whole bottle. I told her everything. We cried together and discussed all my options. She asked, when was the last time you had sex? I really could not remember. It must have been 6-8 months ago. I felt so guilty. Had I driven him to cheat? The more I thought bout it the worse I felt. I confessed I had not given him a blow job in years.Dina was very comforting and assured me it wasn't my fault. I wasn't totally certain. I still loved Joe and deep down didn't want to leave him but I was also so hurt.Dina uncorked another bottle of wine and I cried some more. I was in no mood to go to work tomorrow. Dina convinced me to spend the day at her house. She has a beautiful pool and told me to make myself at home tomorrow. She had to work but would be home around 5.