It was a lazy Saturday afternoon, the temperature well over ninety degrees and the air so muggy you had to fight your way through it. My golden retriever didn't even want to take a walk, that's how hot it was.
Just to chill off I put my bikini and a cover up on, walked over to the swimming pool in my apartment complex, and dipped myself into the tepid water. I spied one man doing laps back and forth, and when he stopped a few feet from me, panting a little, I asked, "Trying out for the Olympics?" When I got out of the water and parked myself on a lounge, I wasn't surprised when he sat a couple of chairs away and said, "Sure is hot, isn't it?" and I replied...
Wait! To understand this story, we have to go back a ways.
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I broke my first marriage, back in my early thirties, when I had an affair. It started out just casual, but after a few months I started to fall a little harder for Randy. He was a generous man, very calm, quite loving. I wouldn't call him the *exact* opposite of my then husband, but they were worlds apart in temperament.
When my husband finally figured it out, of course there was hell to pay. I offered to break it off (I'd always felt a little guilty,) but Jeff wasn't having any of it. To him, I was just a whore. (I'm almost positive he had some one-nighters when he was out of town, but I didn't have any proof.) We scheduled counseling, but Jeff wouldn't show up. Since we didn't have any kids, it was pretty easy to just sign the divorce papers and move on.
Randy and I stopped seeing each other while the drama was going down, although we talked or texted regularly. He didn't want to get in the way of a possible reconciliation. But when Jeff moved out, Randy came over to what was now my place, and we had a wonderful night, the first one where he didn't have to leave.
If you had asked me right then if I was in love with Randy, I would have told you 'yes' without even thinking about it. But my girlfriends and family told me to be careful, I was on the rebound and I might feel differently after a few months passed.
I never completely stopped dating Randy, we'd get together every couple of weeks for a night out, and usually a morning in. On the advice of friends I saw other guys, too. And, yeah, sometimes they'd stay overnight at my place, or I'd do the walk of shame. Randy knew about the other guys, and that sex was a part of it. We talked the situation over, I didn't want to hurt him, but he said he understood, and I should do whatever I had to. I'm sure Randy dated a few other women, but he told me they didn't mean anything to him.
Bottom line, a year and a half went by, and I invited Randy to Thanksgiving, and my sister told me she could see the love in my eyes, I should do something about it. So Randy and I got a larger apartment, moved in together, and tied the knot a couple years later.
It had been seven wonderful years - no, really! We never fought, tension in our marriage was so low it was ridiculous. If there was any trouble, it was the way I spoke to people. I like to make people smile or laugh. For example, if I see somebody with a serious look, I might say, "Oh, pretend you're having a good time." Or if I'm walking Squire and somebody is packing up their car, I'll ask them if they're running away from home. Anything to get a response out of them. The problem is that guys sometimes think I'm flirting with them.
My habit drove my first husband nuts! He'd get all jealous and go off on me, starting a skirmish. Randy never seemed to mind it. I'd met him when we were at one of those functions and he had something with a cherry in it. I told him, "Isn't that an awfully girly drink for such a strong man?" So when I did it with other guys and Randy was around, he'd laugh, particularly if the guy got flustered or tried to flirt with me.
There was this one New Year's Eve a year ago. It was at somebody's house, sixty people crammed into this place, the booze flowing. I had just a little buzz on at Midnight, and after I kissed Randy, well, there were a few other guys who wanted taste my lipstick. For some reason I went off into the den, and this handsome guy followed me in. I spun the globe and told him, "Quick, tell me where Fantasyland is!" That got a laugh, and when he pointed to someplace that was colored blue, our hands touched, and he said I hadn't kissed him for New Year's yet, and I said no time like the present, and then he pushed me up against the desk and well, we were kissing. I knew his hand was on my ass but I didn't particularly care, and just then Randy walked in. He took one look at what the guy and I were doing, said, "Oh, excuse me!" and walked out.
The guy, of course, wanted to keep kissing (and such,) but Randy catching me sobered me up real quick, so I pushed the man away and found Randy in the kitchen. "Honey," I said, "It wasn't what you think."
And my wonderful husband turned to me, gave me a hug and then kissed me, and said, "I'm not thinking anything. It's New Year's Eve. Don't worry about it." We stayed for another half hour or so.
In the car I tried to bring it up again, and Randy just shushed me. "Not a problem, dear."
Of course it was a problem, at least for me. I really didn't want Randy to think I was cheating on him. It ate at me, and maybe a week later, when we were watching something on TV I started. "Honey, about New Year's Eve." Randy just looked at me, so I went on. "I was buzzed, I had too much to drink. And he just followed me into the den, and well, he kissed me. That's all."
Randy's voice was calm and gentle. "It looked to me like you were kissing him back."
I ducked my head. "I guess I was."
"And you feel guilty about it." I nodded my head. "Why? You didn't sleep with him, did you? All you did was kiss."
"Yes, exactly."
Randy was prepared. "Let me ask you a question. If you were in the same situation, but you weren't married to me, would you have slept with him that night?"
He knew enough of my patterns when I was divorced that the behavior was exactly like what he'd known about. "I guess so," I admitted, "but we're married. There's a difference."
"Maybe," he said. "But we both know you too well. Remember the time you let me pick you up when you were married to Jeff? It was a lot like that. And I know you want to honor our marriage, but let's be realistic. There might come a time when you'll be tempted, and I won't be around to walk in on you. Then, you'll have to make a choice. Do you go to bed with him or not?"
"I wouldn't. I wouldn't!" I interjected.
"Oh, don't be so quick. If you're honest with yourself, you know you might, you won't resist the temptation. I'm not saying you will, but if that ever happens, I don't want you to beat yourself up."
I cowered in his arms. "I hope I don't," I said.
"Honestly, I've prepared for this," he told me. "Remember the first few times we were together? Even though you were married, we were having fun. Then, later, when I knew that Jeff and you weren't happy, I let it get more serious. If and when, I just hope you won't let it get serious. If it ever does happen, please be honest with me. Don't keep me in the dark. That way, we'll be able to face it together, and figure out how to make it work for us. Okay?"
"Okay," I sniffled.
Nothing happened immediately. I didn't want it to. I had every intention, that winter, to be faithful to Randy until one of us wasn't here anymore. But the months slid away, and little things happened, were said.
One day we were at Lowe's. I was sitting on a patio couch, Randy was off doing something, and a rather good looking man looked at the piece. I said, "Sit beside me. I won't know what a loveseat will feel like without someone else, will I?" Totally in character for me, and really, I didn't mean anything by it. The guy sat down, and we started talking, joking. Before too long Randy came by, carrying some sort of tool he just had to have. He saw me, walked to the next aisle. I didn't rush but got up a few moments later. "He was helping me see what the loveseat felt like."
Randy laughed. "Oh, imagine what would happen if you were looking at beds."