Roger's Side
I wasn't surprised when Ben asked me to be his best man. Hell, I couldn't remember a time when we hadn't known each other. We had played child's games and later baseball and basketball for junior high and high school. We had double-dated, shared clothes, loaned each other money, and never kept count. We were that rarest of friends, friends from childhood who were still close as adults.
The bride-to-be, Bonnie, had been my girlfriend first. But it had turned out she was an airhead. Now don't get me wrong, an airhead with nice tits and a truly world-class ass is a pearl to be treasured. But I had moved on to a skinny girl with no tits at all who could actually talk to me about history and international relations and science.
But it had turned out to be a match, as they say, made in heaven. Bonnie and Ben, such an alliterative combination, had been inseparable since their first date and here we were, going to get them married.
We were all a bit hung over. It had been a GOOD bachelor party. But kind of to my surprise Ben hadn't developed cold feet, so here we were, getting ready to do the deed.
I had been delegated to greet the guests from Ben's side and so I was hanging out in the church lobby, smiling and greeting and directing. There was Mary, Ben's mom who hugged me and was SO serious. Here came Laura, his sister, on whom I had a crush at 12. Gramma Torrie, all 90 pounds of her looking positively regal in her mink and black dress, looking nervous as well I noticed. Cousin Bevvy who had claimed my virginity, and her sister, Margie, who had been my second about 20 minutes later. There came LaVerne and Eloise and Cheryl and Frank and Margaret (always Margaret, never Marge or Margie or Maggie or anything else), and Tom and Carl. Family and friends from the neighborhood we grew up in.
Then it was time and we did the deed.
I stood, proud, at his right, handed the ring at the appropriate time, walked in, and then walked out escorting the matron of honor, not a chore since Bonnie's aunt was a pretty damn spectacular brunette and I had decided I was going to bed her before the night was over.
We did the reception thing, food and drink.
And there was Torrie, Gramma Torrie to Ben and me since, well, hell, forever. I couldn't remember not knowing her. And as she sat it was like there was an invisible shield around her. No one would get closer than about five feet.
"Ben," I said, taking him aside, "what's going on with your grandmother?"
So he told me the story. She was an Alzheimer's widow. I remembered Grampa Chet as a big bear of a man, sort of a jolly Santa Claus without the red suit. But apparently, it had gone bad with the disease.
And I understood. I remembered how bad I'd felt when we went to visit Aunt Rita and she hadn't recognized me.
So my plans changed.
When the band had started that triple run dance, the Chicken Dance and the Hokey Pokey and the YMCA, I went to dance with her.
I didn't say anything, just positioned myself in front of her and offered my hand.