... Ruth:
I like to partner dance. I like the variety it offers. Every leader, usually a man, has his own style and choreography. At an open dance where anyone can invite another to dance, I, a woman, a follower, can dance with many different leaders and be exposed to many different styles and choreographies.
I seek out opportunities to dance to live music. Every band has a consistent rhythm from song to song whereas the rhythm of DJ music changes with each song played. I like to dance to the music of the Big Bands from the late 1930s into the 1950s, e.g., Swing, Fox Trot, Lindy, Rumba and Slow. I like dancing to the music of the Great American Songbook. I can get "lost" in the music and the lyrics. The phrasing of the lyrics in some songs enable a choreography that emphasize the emotions of the song. It's nice. Dancing becomes an emotional journey, more than the physicalness of the dancing itself.
I'm 39, acceptably attractive, bisexual and in a committed, polyamorous relationship, not marriage, with another woman. I have an adopted daughter. I provide world-wide support for hi-tech medical equipment. I'm financially and emotionally self-sufficient. For more about me read, "Ruth 2024".
A few months ago I was attending a dance at which I noticed an older man dancing by himself, executing free style the 6- or 8-count step sequence appropriate to the music. He readily danced to the beat and rhythm of the music. I walked over to him.
"Would you like to dance?", I asked.
He smiled broadly and took my hand and led me onto the dance floor.
"I'm Ruth."
"My pleasure Ruth, I'm Boaz but most people call be "Bo".
As he drew me into the closed partner position, he was pensive for a moment listening to the music, then said, "We're dancing free style an eight count step sequence: step. step, triple-step, step, step, triple step, 1, 2, 3n4, 5, 6, 7n8."
Bo was an excellent leader. He led me into moves that I knew, such as 360ΒΊ turns and throw outs and new ones like the merry-go-round and a waist turn into the handshake position. In a throw out, he encouraged me to "do my own thing". He held his hands out to enable me to reconnect into the partner position when
I was ready
. I liked that. It allowed me to express myself to the music.
At the end of the song, as he was accompanying me back to my chair, I asked him, "I noticed that you don't ask women to dance. They asked you. You're an excellent dancer. I felt good in your arms. How come you don't ask?"
"Well, look around. How many men do you see my age? I've been retired for several years. How many women do you see who appear to be age appropriate for me? Some younger women, like yourself, only want to dance with age appropriate men. I'm too old. If I invite them to dance they generally don't refuse but I'm aware that many only dance as a courtesy. If I sense that they enjoyed dancing with me, I 'll ask them if it would be OK to ask them to dance again. It is too early tonight for me to have established a dance card."
The band began playing the next song. It was medium tempo.
Smiling, I asked, "Would you like to ask me to dance to this song?"
Bo, chuckling, took me into his arms and we danced onto the dance floor.
For the rest of the night I danced often with Bo when the music tempo was slow or medium. Often, I would close my eyes and get lost in the music and being in his arms. For the faster tempo music, I sought out younger partners.
At the end of the dance, as Bo was leaving, he came over and thanked me for the dances.
"I should thank you. I truly enjoyed being in your arms." I leaned forward and kissed him on his cheek, and softly said into his ear, "I hope to see you at the next dance."
... Bo:
When I arrived at the next dance, Ruth was already there. When she saw me, she came over, welcoming me and kissing me again on my cheek. She stepped back. "I'm so happy you're here! My wish was granted."
I leaned forward and kissed her on the cheek, adding, "So am I."
I was radiating. She squeezed my hand.
We danced together often when the tempo was slow or medium. She sought out younger dancers when the tempo was fast. When the tempo is fast, I find myself focusing upon my feet movements and cannot get lost in the music. I do not enjoy it. Dancing, for me, is more than the execution of moves.
... Ruth:
During the last set, the band played medium and slow tempo music. Bo started teasing me. In the closed position, he would often bring us together just far enough apart that my nipples brushed across his chest as we moved. For the slow tempo music he would bring me tightly into his body and push his upper right thigh into my mound. He choreographed his moves to the music pressing harder in concert with the phrasing of the music. I would close my eyes and get lost in the music and his teasing. The subtlety of it pleased me. I would hang onto his body for several seconds after the music stopped.
During one dance in which the lyrics where very romantic and he choreographed his moves to emphasize them with a lot of teasing, I softly said into his ear, "Are you having fun?" "
Yes!", he responded.
I moved my thigh into his crotch and teased his awakening hardness.
"It seems you are enjoying it too", he chuckled and pulled me closer into him.