Chapter 41 - Mix and Match
In a society where the primary purpose of sex is to have children, it seems that monogamy rules. This may be necessary when one considers that right now in our society children are often home for 18 or more years before flying the coop. Monogamy seems to provide stability for this long-term task of rearing children to adulthood in a continuous nurturing environment. The price that monogamous people pay for their stable home is a marriage that often grows stale and lifeless.
Because Ted and Carol could not have children, they did not feel so bound by this constraint. While Ted and Carol would not have liked the idea that they "used" other people, the fact is that they brought other people into their sexual relationship for the purpose of keeping their relationship vibrant and fresh. It brought variety into their marriage that they otherwise would not have experienced.
I would imagine the majority of monogamous people who would look at Ted and Carol's marriage would not approve of what they did. But Ted and Carol did not have children. So if they miscalculated by bringing others into their marriage, it might destroy their marriage but there would be no children suffering from their mistake. Those people who are monogamous and properly so for the sake of their children and their family probably do not understand why anyone would want to put their marriage at risk just for the sake of variety. There was more than just variety.
There were several appeals. Pornography was something that they enjoyed. It provided visual sexual stimulation. There seems to be evidence that strong emotions attached to any stimulation greatly enhances the effect of the stimulation. So when watching pornography which features people with which one has no emotional connection, there is some stimulation going on. But if the pornography one is watching has the additional element of featuring one's husband or wife, with whom there is a great emotional attraction, the stimulation is greatly increased by the emotions that accompany it.
Then, in Ted and Carol's case, there was the emotion of jealousy. Jealousy is a rather strong emotion. Neither Ted nor Carol would try to kid anyone that when they saw their spouse receiving and giving sexual pleasure with someone else that there was no jealousy. There was. They kept it in check, and when their spouse returned to them the emotion connected with the jealousy was transferred to the reunion with their spouse and the great relief they felt when their spouse was safely back in their arms. Pillow talk about their infidelity allowed them to relive that emotional relief.
There was fear. It's related to jealousy but not the same thing. Again, in their choice of partners they tried to control for fear, but there was never a guarantee that either Ted or Carol was immune to ever being seduced out of their marriage by someone whose skills at seduction or intent to seduce they had seriously underestimated.
And then there was the variety. No two cocks are exactly the same, or vaginas. Nor are a person's style of foreplay, or their movements during intercourse or their favorite positions or how they spend the time after climax with their partner.
All these things combined fueled the life of their marriage. Sometimes they even experimented within these extramarital partners with whom they played. Some times Ted and Rose would double date with Carol and Jason. There was a fair amount of controlled jealousy there. It upped the ante by more than they thought it would when Jason asked Rose to dance with him for the first time. There was a time that Jason fucked Dorothy while Karl fucked Carol. That really heated up the night.
One of the hottest nights was when Jean and her Fuck Buddy, Ralph went on a double date with Carol and Jason, except that they exchanged partners in the middle of the night. Before the end of the night Ralph had fucked Carol in the playroom in front of Jean and Jason, and Jason had fucked Jean in front of Carol and Ralph. This spurred some rather intense feelings that led to really hot sex when Jason reclaimed Carol and Ralph reclaimed Jean. And during this time Ted and Claude were watching what was going on, so that when Ralph and Jason left there was an even more intense coupling as Ted took back Carol and Claude took back Jean, both of them in their respective marital beds.
These extra marital events were more the exception than the rule. Ted likened it to going to a concert - Carol thought it was more like going to an amusement park. In any case it was great fun when you did it, but you wouldn't want to do it all the time. Over the next few years a few more young guys were brought in to join with Ted in fucking Carol until she was all fucked out. But besides
Jean and Claude, Connie and Terry, Jason, Rose, and Karl and Dorothy, and a few of the men Carol had taught how to fuck, no one else was needed in this circle of intimate friends.
However, two more people are worth mentioning. To get to the first one, we need to go all the way back to the time when Carol had suggested that they open a Day Care for their employees. After all the study had been done on this and it was handed over to HR for implementation and shortly before the Day Care was opened, anyone interested was invited to help decorate the rooms that would be used. Mrs. Wainwright took great interest in this project, and came down to help with the decorating. When she met Carol, Carol was in her "grubbies" - old clothes from her "industrial size" days. Mrs. Wainwright thought that this daycare was a great idea, and because Carol had thought of it and did all the spade work necessary to make it a reality, she was favorably disposed towards her right from the start. They worked well together. Mrs. Wainwright was also one of those people who was uncomfortable with long periods of silence. Carol, on the other hand, was a good listener, so Mrs. Wainwright kept on talking incessantly in a stream of consciousness as random thoughts came to mind.
So it was not surprising that in the middle of the conversation somewhere she said, ". . . and after our last child was born I said to Franc (Francis Wainwright), 'No more, we're done having children, there's no need to be sleeping in the same bed.' He grumbled and complained a little bit and talked about being faithful as faithfully doing it and I told him, 'That's not the way I ever understood it. It has always meant not having anybody else and I'm not interested in anybody else. I just don't enjoy the act. We've had five children. That's enough.' Once in a while he gets cranky. At first I didn't understand. He handed me a book telling me about how men have needs. So I told him to take care of himself. He could use porn or read dirty stories and play with himself, whatever, I really didn't care, just so long as he did not take time from the family. 'Just don't tell me about it, I don't want to know.' So periodically he disappears into his office for a few extra hours every night for a few days, and then he stops being cranky and life returns to normal. Talking to my girlfriends, a lot of marriages have times like that. A number of their husbands start drinking. I'm happier with Franc just disappearing into his room late at night for a few nights. Know what I mean? . . ." and then she was off on a new topic. At the time Carol only thought "TMI."
While Carol and Mr. Wainwright kept most of their interaction professional, nevertheless he did talk a little with Carol about Ted when Ted was courting her. During that conversation it came out that Ted was a diesel mechanic, but had roots in automobile mechanics. This fascinated Mr Wainwright, because, for sentimental reasons, he had kept the first car he had ever owned. He drove it only infrequently, but always wanted to keep it road worthy. He tried to maintain it himself. The older the car got, the fewer mechanics there were who were used to working on an ignition system that used points and a condenser (for instance). So Mr. Wainwright would sometimes give Ted a call about his car if it didn't seem to be running right. A few times he took it over to Ted's house where Ted had a full set of tools and some diagnostic equipment.
Once Carol was close to finishing her training under the close watch of her predecessor, Judy, Judy told her that once in a great while, she might be asked to go on a business trip with Mr. Wainwright who would need her secretarial skills as he negotiated with others. Carol inadvertently made this even more necessary as she digitized more and more files which she could then pull up through the internet to her laptop. Carol also had become proficient at writing up contracts that usually passed the scrutiny of the attorneys with only minor revisions. So there were days that would find Carol and Mr. Wainwright at the airport early in the morning, landing at their destination later that morning, going into negotiations before noon, working into the early evening hours and catching the last flight home. But there were a few times when they had to stay a day or two overnight at a distant destination in order to get the job done before coming home.
But Carol did not connect these dots for years. Not until after she and Ted had gone by air to southern Florida for a vacation in which Dorothy was the Cougar to Ted's Cub, and Karl was Carol's
Sugar Daddy. It was shortly after that that Franc had called up Ted to consult him about a problem with his car. The car was still running, just exhibiting a hesitation before accelerating. Ted told him to bring the car over.