Attention Readers: This is a continuation of the MEXICO CRUISE story, chapters 1-6. To understand the upcoming story it would help greatly to read the previous story. This is Bob and what happens next is the fruits of what was sewn on our cruise to Mexico. It's been a few months since my last entry but my lovely wife reads these first and adds comments as well. We've been busy lately and are just now getting back around to doing our stories. It's our desire to do this on a more regular basis now.
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Walking in the front door of our modest 3 bedroom, 2 bath home in Orange County seemed so surreal after spending the past 4+ days on a cruise ship. However, this time when we walked through those front doors we were different people than we were prior to our vacation
Lisa and myself had planned on spending the trip with her twin sister Dina and my brother Roger who also happened to be her husband. From mine and Lisa's perspective it was suppose to be a nice relaxing vacation with our in-laws which also happened to be our closest friends. By the time the trip was done, we had embraced the polyamory lifestyle and enjoyed sex with Roger and Dina as well as their good friends Jim and Jill. Also, we had met a two other couples that may someday embrace this lifestyle.
To explain briefly the most basic concepts of polyamory, it involves the ability of a married couple to have more than one love in their lives. This is the ability of the couple to share their spouses with others spiritually, emotionally, and physically. Most understand the physical, or sexual part of it, but don't realize that the sexual is heightened in satisfaction as a result of the partners bonding in the spiritual and emotion realm.
We knew that Jim and Jill had gone to Roger and Dina's house for the next two nights. We would be going over later that afternoon. This gave us time to unpack, do some laundry, and take a much needed nap.
It also gave Lisa and myself the most time alone together in several days. Even with all the fun and frivolity of the past several days, we needed this time. We needed time to reconnect with each other and share our thoughts and even our apprehensions with this new lifestyle we had embraced.
Originally we had planned on spending the weekend with the other four because our son, who was getting ready for college in Arizona, would be home and we knew that Dina and Roger had an empty nest already. Before we even got home, he calls and tells us him and his girlfriend are going to Tempe, Arizona to check out the movie theater that he would be transferring to in a few weeks. With this change of plans, we decided to stay home, or at the least, have our home available for any extra sexual activity if necessary.
I helped her unpack and we went through 5 days of mail together. The usual stuff. Bills, advertisements, and the almost obligatory new credit card offers. I'm convinced that they could afford to knock off a point or two on their interest rates if they'd just cut out the cost of sending that useless junk to people like us that just shred it in the paper shredder on a nearly daily basis.
Lisa started a load in the washer and I followed her up to our room. No sooner had we walked in the room she turned and grabbed me around the waist and gave me a huge, warm kiss. She reminded me many times how much she loved me and I returned the sentiments many times over. We were both still fully clothed and hadn't even began touching each other erotically and I was already feeling some growth inside my short pants.
There was something different in Lisa's face. She still had that little cherubic face with the blushing cheeks. The rest of her physical features were the same, yet in her eyes seemed a real happiness that reflected a peace of mind that she now enjoys.
"Bob, as much as I've always loved you there was always a little something missing but I had no idea what it was. I was happy with you and would never had done a thing to hurt you, but there were times when I could have had another guy to talk to, to enjoy a dinner with, just a friend that would give me a different male perspective on life than you did."
"However, I knew that if I let myself get that close to a guy that I'd be opening myself emotionally as well which could have easily led to an affair. For that reason, because of my love for you and to never want to hurt you, I denied myself that opportunity."
I listened in stunned silence as she told me this. I wasn't sure what to say but Lisa wasn't finished.
"Also, I am sure there were times when you could have used the advice and friendship of other females but were afraid of the same thing. I know you've never been unfaithful for the same reasons I have never been."
"I was able to see how you related to Jill and my sis. I honestly couldn't be more happy for you and I hope you feel that same happiness for me."
I sat on the edge of our large California King bed in deafening silence. Lisa looked at me with a look of concern, fearing she had said something wrong or maybe even upset me. In fairness, when I get upset I usually do have a tendency to be very quiet. It's better to be quiet than to start running off at the mouth and be sorry later for something said in anger.
I wasn't upset this time. Far from it. It just took more than just a few seconds for all that Lisa said to me to register. She was right. Being bound to the monogamous ideals that limited us to only one sexual partner also limited us to only one partner to share ourselves emotionally and spiritually. As we had learned on our trip, being able to share ourselves in other ways with a different partner had some long term benefits for our own relationship.
For all our 25 years of marriage, we had espoused the philosophy of monogamy. Why? Good question. I guess it's just what is expected in society as a whole and many religions taught that this was the way that God wanted things. It's amazing what religion can choose to ignore in their Bibles when many men of Biblical times had several wives. Hey, King Solomon had a total of 1000 wives and concubines and God never condemned him for that.
I had been a Bible student in my earlier years. I had been fascinated with theology and very interested in studying how to interpret the Bible. In my studies, I never encountered any direct teachings that commanded us to be monogamous. In fact, God made us to enjoy sex and created man and women for pleasure for each other. So why should we feel guilty when we enjoy seeing a member of the opposite sex wearing sexy clothes or looking sexy? Isn't that how we are created? I had read in great detail about the ministry of Christ and never saw any such teachings.