The nature of the Alpha male is often poorly understood. First and foremost he is a leader, protector, provider, enforcer and arbiter of justice among his pack. He has the physical and mental strength to establish the rules and enforce compliance, but he only does so when necessary. Mental and emotional strength are at least as important as his physical characteristics. His authority comes from the fact that others want to follow because he provides a stable and orderly environment where everyone knows and accepts their place. He takes on the responsibilities and obligations and expects the benefits and indulgences that come with being at the top of the hierarchy.
Alphas rule as they see fit with little regard for outside expectations. They defer to no one and do not subscribe to the ideology of others. And they emphatically do not feel compelled to fit any stereotype or prove themselves beyond the limited requirement to establish their rule. It is beneath the true Alpha to puff out his chest to impress his friends. Nor does he go around telling everyone he is an Alpha.
The Alpha male is more rare than most people think - less than one in ten men. Lots of men rule their particular roost, but do so based upon the values or rules set out by others. Those are the strong Betas on which society is built. The Alpha male is the one setting those values and rules for the whole pack. Neither gender or race is a good predictor of who will be an Alpha - there are approximately as many female alphas as male, black as white etc. - but this discussion and story is about Alpha males.
Among many species all the females of the pack explicitly belong to the Alpha male. In others he is simply regarded as their ideal mate. In any case, in the Alpha male led group females view any opportunity to be with him as a source of status. They do not expect to be his exclusive or primary sexual partner and if they are granted such status it will be entirely at his prerogative. The females accept this unconditionally and seek to make themselves as desirable as possible in order to keep his favour and earn additional status. Meanwhile the Beta males are below the attractive females in the hierarchy and a casual sexual experience with them will lower her status. If she gets together with a Beta it will be on her terms and often only if there is some other benefit such as finding a provider and exclusive partner once she knows she will not gain favour with the Alpha.
In humans this dynamic is somewhat suppressed by the rules of society, but it is just below the surface. Although we think of our modern world as monogamy oriented with pairing being the overriding objective, that isn't quite true. Single women tend to enthusiastically share the sexual experiences of the Alphas and ignore the Betas. To the extent that the Betas do enjoy some sexual experiences it is on the woman's terms and implicitly as a second priority to any sexual attention sought by the Alpha.
Once the women are ready for monogamous commitment (for practical reasons or because that is what society dictates) they realize that there are not enough Alphas to go around so they decide which characteristics are most important and choose from among the Betas. When a woman is asked what she wants in a man she will usually focus on things like romance, stability and a good provider. The truth is that she also wants a rocking sex life and the powerful Alpha. But she has come to grips with the need to make trade-offs and convince herself, her man and society that she isn't settling. No woman wants to admit that she chose her ex-boyfriends for sex and her husband for stability but that is often the case. At a minimum, different criteria are applied. We have all observed it in real life. A lot of what Beta males regard as inconsistency in women's behaviour is in fact just a reflection of the reality that there are a different set of rules for Alphas. Those women know they are sharing the Alpha and accept that as the natural order.
No matter the circumstance it is in the nature of every Beta female to submit to the Alpha male. Whether or not the societal forces of restraint prevail the natural instinct is to "present" her sex, give the Alpha what belongs to him and be proud of the elevated status that comes with being desired by the pack leader. That doesn't go away with marriage. In fact, many women are far more inclined to give themselves a free pass for cheating if the man is a true Alpha.
For those women that follow their instinct, there is no holding back or playing coy with the Alpha male like with the other men. She knows she must seize the opportunity and usually finds that she can tap into her inner slut with surprising ease.
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Doug is from lower middle class blue collar family. They are decent hard-working people with no privilege and limited financial stability.
What his parents could not give him in worldly gifts was more than made up for with his natural gifts. He is the very rare specimen who not only looks the part of an Alpha male - as a grown man he is 6'4", 220 lbs. and hung like a moose - but also has the unique mental and emotional strength that sets him apart from others. He is a smart, personable leader that just naturally earns people's confidence.
In school he had a wide group of friends but wasn't part of any clique. Most people got along with him and instinctively wanted him in their circle of friends but he never subscribed to the artificial exclusivity that often defines such groups. He played sports and got along with his teammates but had no time for meatheads and zero tolerance for those who would disparage his less athletic friends.
The people he didn't get along with were the Beta males who resented his status. He didn't rub it in their faces but nor did he deny it or adopt a self-effacing attitude.
In many ways his group was his pack where anyone was welcome so long as they behaved themselves. By junior high school even the teachers noticed that his immediate surroundings always seemed very calm and ordered. And the other kids knew that his was a bully and harassment free zone.
Doug instinctively sees women as equal but different. He has the sex drive and desire of five men, but that desire is not coupled with any negative assumptions. For him there is no conflict between wanting to fuck women and seeing them as equal and in many ways superior to (Beta) men. He sees the differences as highly desirable and part of their innate beauty, not lame reasons to attribute inferior status. But to be fair it is easier for him. Most guys are raised to believe that men are supposed to be the Alphas, but they are not. They try to compensate and women don't buy it. Women are deferential or even submissive to Doug because he is the Alpha male not because being male makes him the Alpha. Secure in that role he has no need to prove it which makes his status all the more self-evident.
His guy friends often say that women's panties seem to magically fall off in his presence, but they have no idea of the extent of his sexual experience. Like most guys who maintain the opportunity to fuck a lot of women he is discrete. There is just something that happens to women around a man like Doug. They all look up to him.
Nevertheless, he is not what you would call a "player". He has no interest in talking anyone into sex and finds the willingness to manipulate or be manipulated to be an unattractive characteristic. As an Alpha he acts with clarity and directness and expects the same of others. Of course it is easier to adopt this attitude because women usually approach him. In fact, he has much greater respect and desire for forthright women who know what they want. Whatever that might imply about her sexual history is of no consequence to him. He regards most men who care about such things as narrow-minded, insecure and/or lacking respect for women.
Also his view on respect is incongruous with most men's attitudes. When most men speak of treating women with respect they are referring to politeness and decorum based upon societal norms. Opening doors and not using dirty words is decorum and perhaps chivalry but based upon an accepted set of standards and assumptions that are inherently patronizing. Respect involves not presuming to know what she values, taking the time to find out and accepting what you find regardless of how it fits with expectations because she is a whole person with the absolute right to be who she wants to be.
In sexual terms, women open up to Doug because he accepts them and respects their right to be who they want to be. Whether they choose to be virginal or a dirty slut or anything in between he respects them for making their own choice, not based upon what choice they make. His openness and acceptance has a natural way of allowing everyone around him to be themselves. This is inherently comforting and appealing and part of what makes him the Alpha. It brings out the more adventurous aspect of everyone by making it ok.
A woman's relationship status is largely irrelevant to Doug. She is an equal with the absolute right to make her own decisions, not her husband's possession or a person obliged to uphold traditionalist views. If her conduct is particularly deceitful or callous towards her husband he may find that unattractive but he doesn't automatically assume that to be the case. Females have been throwing themselves at him from a young age and lots of them had boyfriends or husbands or some guy who thought he had a claim on her. It isn't up to him to keep them from dropping their panties. If others don't like it they should do something about it.