So a couple weeks passed, then almost a month since the conversation between Hubby and I happened. Maybe a week after we finally agreed on everything I joined a couple of dating sites. I mean it is one thing that nobody ever mentions about being a hotwife... HOW THE HELL DO I FIND DATES?
I know everyone thinks it should be easy and that I probably have lines and lines of guys ready to volunteer. But I can assure you finding a date is the hardest thing about being a hotwife. Firstly, there has to be mutual attraction. Secondly, sometimes it gets a bit awkward when I explain that I'm actually married and he is okay with everything. It often leads to some funny conversations. And finally, so many guys think that this is too good to be true and that I am a fake. Anyhow, I might write an entire blog post dedicated to this.
So after joining a couple of dating sites/apps online I started to get the hang of flirting with potential dates... and i have to say I really enjoyed it. I felt like I was single again. Looking for that fun week, month, year long fling. Often hubby would catch me smirking or laughing at my phone and ask who i was texting. I would just smile at him and say "wouldn't you like to know." I know keeping him in the dark like that was killing him but at the same time I would always notice the bulge in his pants.
So after chatting to two guys for a while I went on two dates! Just coffee dates. Nothing special. I really just wanted to dip my toes in and feel comfortable dating again! The first date my husband came with me. We had a nice chat and it turns out he ended up becoming one of my regulars... but more on that another time. The second date was when I threw a curveball at hubby. I told him I want to go alone. So I got dressed up (nothing out there... just your regular working mum outfit), left hubby with the kids and headed off to my date! It was honestly just an innocent coffee date and nothing happened but good banter! I found my cheeks hurting from smiling and laughing so much. Tip: if you can make me laugh, your more than likely going to have me bent over with my panties around my ankle some time in the future
Well let me tell you once the date was finished I checked my phone and had 15 messages and 5 missed calls from hubby. I rang him straight back and the first thing I said was "I like this guy and I'm gonna fuck him"
He didn't respond. He was shocked. We chatted for a bit on the phone where I gave him every small detail about the date before I jumped in the car and drove home. I didn't let him touch me for a while after the date. I let him stew with his own thoughts for a couple of days.
Well after that coffee date, life got in the way as life with kids does. I had been messaging the guy from my second date on and off since the date. Just flirty banter. Nothing too naughty. He had gone away for work for a couple of days but as soon as he let me know he was back in town I let him know that I was definitely keen to get together ASAP. That's when he messaged me and said, "Let's do it tonight." I was sitting at work when he messaged me, but I was so excited I agreed.
This time I asked hubby to drop me on my date. The drive was practically silent... I mean we were both in our own heads...surely picturing what the night would have installed for both of us. I was nervous again...like a teenager on her first date. But I didn't need to be.
