Living with a secret is hard.
I never thought anyone knowing this secret would impact my life, but I was wrong.
Ever since I'd met my wife, she has thought I was completely straight. I never told her that I wasn't. Ever since I was a kid, I've always wondered if I was also attracted to guys. I had questions, but growing up it always seemed binary, you were either gay or you were straight. I was very attracted to women, so I decided I wasn't gay, and that was that.
Until I learned better.
I remember watching porn as a young adult and being curious about cocks and asking myself why I got hard looking at them, but figured "hey, seeing anyone naked does this to every one".
Once I got older, I realized that no, that doesn't happen to everyone and maybe I AM interested in men and their cocks. Unfortunately that realization hit after I was already married to the love of my life.
Don't get me wrong, I don't to change anything about my life now, but I wish I'd learned this about myself when I was young, dumb, very single and could have experienced it. C'est la vie.
So since I'm already hitched, I can't act on these impulses. On the other hand it would also be great to just be able to be live a full life in the open and have her accept that side of me.
The idea of telling her is terrifying. What if she doesn't like that part of me? Would that be worse than keeping it quiet? I could just keep this a secret forever. I totally understand the fear of coming out.
THE TURN
Since I realized this about myself, I'd been much more open with hints. When watching movies my wife would say something like "But I thought he was gay" to which I would reply "Well, maybe he's bi, some people just like both".
Or when she would comment on a male actor, I'd agree and say "Yeah, dude's really hot".
At first she gave me inquisitive glances, but lately I think she had started to internalize some of my comments.
That all led up to the fateful day she would learn my secret.
We were cuddled up on the couch watching a movie. The very muscular, good-looking main character removed his shirt. His skin was glistening in the light bouncing off his abs and chest muscles. He turned and gave a look that could only be described as sultry.
"Damn, he's got a nice body. Good face too" I said.
She replied "Definitely... I've always thought he was hot".
"Definitely agree." and after a pause, with butterflies in my stomach I tested the waters and jokingly said "I wouldn't say no to him."
She chuckled and after a pause, she turned to me and said "You wouldn't?"
My face turned a bit red as I looked at her and smiled.
"So if he went to kiss you'd kiss him back?" she replied.
"I don't see why not!"
"Really? You'd kiss a guy?"
"Sure, if he was good looking."
"So... are you attracted to guys? You've made a few comments here and there."
"Well, my type is attractive people."
"Oh... but you're attracted to women."
At this point I was getting a bit nervous. This could go one way or another.
"I mean yeah, I... I definitely am. But... there are also some really good looking guys out there too. And I mean, I would try it."
"Hmm" she said as she turned away nodding. I could only imagine what she was thinking.
I continued "Put it this way, if I was single and met a girl and turned out she was trans and had a penis, that wouldn't be a deal breaker for me."
"Really? So you'd be with someone even if they had a dick?"
"Sure, I don't see why not. I mean... if they were attractive, I'd give it a shot."
"Huh, I don't know if I could be with a trans man, I'm just not attracted to vaginas, they don't do anything for me."