Why does my wife want another man?
I am a thirty-one-year-old plumber named John Saycheck. My wife Ruth is one year younger. Ruth and I were married and joined at the hip for the last ten years. We began our life adventure when we were teenagers. We both felt puppy love the first time we met. It developed into true love, and we married when I turned twenty-one. I have been happy with our marriage. We planned on having children when Ruth turned thirty this year.
Ruth
I have a tedious job in a dental office. My duties are humdrum. Life for me is dreary. We never go anywhere. John has his horse racing and his football. When I push, he takes me out to eat. When we were first married, he would take me dancing, restaurants, and occasional play. It slowed down to a trickle. I believe it's because he is pretty happy where we are, and that is that. The only highlight in our marriage presently is our sex life.
When we were on our honeymoon, both of us were virgins. My first experience was painful. John is the type of person who does not procrastinate but immediately attempts to solve a problem. We went to a highly recommended sex therapist. It was money well invested. After a few months of therapy, we were operating on all cylinders.
The main thing he taught us was how to communicate. We were always to pass on our desires. Even if we thought they might be objectionable to our partners. With practice, we both learned each other's buttons.
We both know we are above-average partners when it comes to sex.
I will come back to my current status. When I come home from work, I cook supper. John and I do not have a long conversation. He is interested in horses, and I am interested in books. Our jobs are never part of the conversation.
After dinner, John does the dishes. I watch the news. At about seven PM, I start reading, and John does his horses. We may watch one TV show together, but it's rare. Our taste is quite different.
At about ten o'clock, we go to bed. About once a month, we have excellent monkey sex, which both of us love. Maybe twice a week, we have soft cuddly sex. We both are too tired for monkey sex.
We had planned on starting to have children this year. I fear falling into a monotonous lifestyle that will only worsen after the babies start popping. I want to have some exciting events before that happens. Maybe make some significant changes in my life soon.
At this point, it is clear that I want something to change.
The office I work in has two doctors. A father and son share the office. I work for both of them. Every day I get an hour for lunch. I stop at a local diner, eat lunch and then go for a walk before returning.
One day I notice the young doctor, Ray coming into the diner. I wave for him to join me. We had an enjoyable conversation, which caused me to skip my regular walk. The next day he stops and keeps coming each day. I have to assume he enjoys my company. He is also a vicarious reader. We share the same music. Both of us love going to plays. The only significant difference is he is an introvert, and I am an extrovert. These qualities enhance our conversations. He is also handsome.
Ray has been married for two years with one child. His wife does not enjoy sex. That is the only part of his marriage he is disappointed. I explained how John and I straightened out our problem. He immediately suggested that I could help him get better in bed. I told him to get a therapist. He suggested me.
I was flattered. I told Ray I would not under any circumstances cheat on my husband." I liked Ray but not enough to risk my marriage.
Over the next few days, we covered the subject in depth. Ray recalled my conversation where I said, "I only had sex with my husband in my entire life." He suggested, "For excitement, I should broaden my experience."
Ray then came up with the idea of asking, "John to let me have a pass for just one weekend. A pass sounded pretty good to me, and I would not risk getting caught. Telling John that you wanted to experience another man before you started on the babies. That life was very boring, and you wanted to try it once."
I realized that John would not be pleased with this solution. Ray said, "Ask him he may surprise you. Some men want their wives to have some experience."
I spent some time thinking about it. I thought, "What the hell. The most he can do is say no."
A few nights later, after supper, I bought up the subject, "John do you think it would be possible for me to have one weekend off from our marriage?" He answered, "Are you talking about a weekend of infidelity?"
I replied, "Yes, but only one weekend and never again.
John said, "Do you realize that it could wreck our marriage?"
I said, "Never, only one fast fling without any attachments."
He said, "I have a list of reasons why it is a terrible idea. What if you fall in love with the guy?" Ruth said, "I been with you for years. One or two nights with someone else will not going to turn my head. My love for you is as real and as important and would never change."
John
"My answer is no! Never!."
"John, this is important to me. It will not hurt our marriage."
"You do not know it, but it has already damaged it. Do you wish a divorce?"
"No! Are you crazy?"
