Author's Note:
The Loving Wives stories and comments seem to indicate many people think "One size SHOULD fit all!" Some believe that in all marriages both partners MUST remain sexually monogamous, then the couple will be happy ... well, at least tolerating each other, for the rest of their lives. And there are others who believe everyone would benefit if the married couple just learned to open up and share sex with others. Many people can't seem to recognize that others may have different legitimate reasons for the way they behave. Time and experiences change people, and they handle their lives differently due to their past experiences.
This is a story of FUN sex and loving couples, with my favorite swinger couple, Ted and Jan. It will reference their earlier exploits, some of which can be found in previous chapters and standalone stories. But you don't need to read those earlier stories to fully appreciate this one.
This story includes a (possibly?) monogamous couple, so I hope everyone might find at least one character in this story you like, rather than dwelling on others you hate.
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Our oldest daughter, Jennifer, and her husband along with their kids live almost a two-hour drive away from our suburban home. And we were driving to their house today for a grandchild's birthday party.
My gorgeous wife, Jan was sitting in the passenger seat beside me as I drove. She was focused on her iPad tablet playing some card game, a variation of solitaire. We were on the road for well over thirty minutes when she casually asked, "So, what are you thinking about?" as she continued to play her game on the small pad.
"The usual," I easily replied, not going into any details. After over thirty years together, she already knows the answer, and I know she's expecting it.
"Sex, right?" she asked, as if she needed to be reminded.
"What else is there?" I replied in a sarcastic tone. "All I have is the road ahead to stare at as I drive, and my mind just wanders in its own direction."
"Well, I'm not giving you 'road head', so get over it," she said, destroying my hope for a blowjob. "You can either calm down by thinking of something else or feel frustrated all the way there." Then she teased by asking, "Are you thinking of what you missed with Maggie at that last house party?"
"Bitch!" I said in a determined tone with a hint of anger. "You just enjoy tormenting me, don't you? We agreed to stay together at that party. When Maggie came on to me, I tried to get your attention so we could go to a bedroom together. But after five minutes of you continuing your banter with the others, without even letting me join in, she found someone else to play."
"I was talking with Jim, Maya, Derek, and Arlene, trying to get us all together as a group. I thought you'd like to play with Maya or Arlene."
"And how'd that work out?" I asked sarcastically.
"It's not MY fault Maya didn't want to play with you," Jan said defensively.
"Maybe if you spent less time talking and MORE time listening," I said, again admonishing her, "you might have picked up that Maya wanted YOU, not me."
"I'm not Bi!" she quickly added defensively. "I wanted to play with their husbands."
"But Maya wasn't talking to me or Derek," I pointed out. "She was focused on getting close to you and talking just to you. And Arlene was just hanging back, trying to get you to focus on her husband, Derek. I think she wants to see that he's satisfied before she gets with anyone else at those parties. So, you left me to stand on the sideline most of that time until Arlene loosened up."
"Okay," Jan conceded. "I'll try to pay more attention to who you are with and try staying closer to you at the parties."
"We might host our own house party," I pointed out a minute later as I calmed down and thought more about it. "So far, we haven't invited more than one couple at a time to play at either of our houses."
"I don't like the way our house here in the suburbs is laid out for those larger parties," Jan said. "It's a little small. I don't want to set up the kids' old rooms for swingers to use. And the living room isn't big enough. Maybe we can use the mountain house retreat. It has the larger great room with several bedrooms and baths ready for guests. We could use that unless we've invited the kids for a weekend."
"There's an idea," I admitted, thinking of the possibility of using our remote vacation property. "But it's more than a two-hour drive from here, and that wouldn't be practical with the couples we know to drive that far for just one evening."
"We have enough rooms there," Jan observed "We could invite three or four couples to join us for a weekend, and they could stay overnight."
"Okay," I said. "Think about who you'd like to invite and when. We might put something together in the next month or two. But we'll see if anyone has any parties coming up at the Bar Group meet-up on Sunday."
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The Lifestyle
We occasionally attend group meetups with other couples at different local bars. These meetups are with friends we met through an online web site for adult activities. One or two couples will pick a bar or restaurant they know which has the right venue, usually with a private room, and they send out an invite to the group. We show up around 2:00 on a Saturday or Sunday and socialize until around 4 or 5:00. We each buy some drinks from the restaurant bar, order some snacks, and spend the afternoon talking and getting to know each other, usually in a secluded side room. And sometimes couples will leave together for more private fun at one of their houses or a nearby hotel.
Jan and I started these adult friendly activities after the last of our kids was out of the house, and it was a rather eye-opening journey. We have been in this swinger lifestyle now for almost two years, and our experiences have expanded. Jan's attitude has changed from "No way!" for Bi or girl-girl activities, to lightly touching, followed by her probing another woman with her own fingers and looking closely, to sucking on another woman's nipples. She was no longer averse to other women touching or going down on her. And she was now willing to look at online profiles of couples with a Bi female.
My own sexual preferences haven't really changed, I'm still straight, having no interest at all in other guys. But I'm at ease seeing my wife with other guys and even sharing women between me and another guy at the same time.
The other thing we've noticed with this sharing is when couples get together, it's far more complicated than just a guy and girl meeting to find out if they're compatible. Now it involves four people and all the combinations and permutations of feelings. When I find a woman at a swinger party, I wonder;
'Will Jan like the other husband? And would she like seeing me with this woman? Am I getting along with the other husband, or is he looking annoyed or angry at me talking to his wife?'
Now multiply that by four, because everyone is thinking those same thoughts about each other. Then at these group events, add in one or two other couples, and you see where this is going. It becomes exponentially more difficult to find two couples or a group of more people who all feel the same towards each other at the same time. And seeing your own spouse sucking and fucking someone else is not something most people are inclined to easily accept, particularly if it's with someone you don't like. So, it takes the right 'chemistry' between everyone to form a group of
'friends with benefits'
.
Jan and I usually go to these bar group meetups now for just drinks and conversations, without expectations of getting together right away. We would meet a few new couples. Then we head home to discuss our own impressions between just the two of us to sort out the possibilities. After Jan and I agree with each other, we'll message another couple to see if they feel the same way to set up potential playdates.
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Bar Meet-Up
The next Sunday, Jan and I were at the Bar Meetup with our drinks in hand as we entered the side room where the group was meeting this time. I stood off to the side looking around the large room, realizing we knew more than half of the people there from past meetups. We never played with most of them, the 'chemistry' just not quite right for whatever reasons. But there were two couples there with whom we previously shared more intimate moments.
I was innocently standing off to the side talking with a woman we knew, Brenda. She was a petite redhead in her early forties, and she and I spent some very intimate time together twice. Jan and I met Brenda and her husband, Barry at a house party. Then we invited them for an overnight stay at a family vacation house we have in the mountains, because the four of us just clicked.
As we talked, Brenda and I both noticed a new couple we hadn't seen at our group's meetings previously. The woman appeared to be in her late thirties, wearing skintight jeans, knee-high black stiletto-heel boots, and a blue silk low-cut blouse. She was a few inches shorter than my wife, Jan. But those heels brought her up to a nice height. Her long dark hair framed her face, and I could get lost just staring into her dark brown eyes.
Her husband looked to be in his mid-forties, about six feet tall, 180 pounds, with greying hair almost like a "George Clooney" look, which I knew Jan finds very attractive.
While Brenda and I talked to each other, we couldn't help but notice the newcomers, because the young woman excitedly wandered among the groups of people in the room. It was her first time with this lifestyle bar group. And she acted like a kid in a candy store with the freedom to talk to anyone about socially taboo subjects.
When Sarah joined us, she just blurted out to me, "Do you know how hot you are?" her eyes wide in wonder. "I would really like to do you!"
Brenda almost burst out laughing at that, then said, "Oh, you'll really like him!"
"You two have been together?!" Sarah asked, as if surprised.
I wrapped an arm around Brenda's waist and pulled her close in front of me and she pulled my head down for a rather passionate kiss, before turning back to Sarah.
"Oh, I know him very well," Brenda replied, as she laid a hand on my chest and smiled at her.
Another tall, well-built blonde, Claire came over to join our conversation. Jan and I have known Claire since she and her husband, Ken invited us to our first house party in this lifestyle. They asked us to stay overnight with them and another couple before the party the next afternoon.
Sarah turned to Claire asking, "Don't you think he's hot?"
"Oh, you won't be sorry with Ted!" Claire replied.
"You, too?" Sarah asked, her voice rising in surprise.
