I met Marge, my wife of 20 years, my freshman year in college. It was fortunate for me that I did, having been raised in a small fishing village I found university a bit overwhelming. Marge picked up on my anxiety our first day in class. She was my rock and steadying hand. I was on the Boxing team, and she made all my matches, and I wasn't certain if it was because she liked boxing or watching me get the shit beat out of me.
I was devastated when I found out she wouldn't be back her sophomore year, her dad had passed, and she went home to support her mom. Marge got a job as a bookkeeper, and we stayed in touch. I started visiting her regularly and her mom took to me right at away. I was always a guest at her moms house and overall, Marge and I behaved. Our bonds and feelings for each other were growing stronger all the time. Her mom died right after we were engaged, so immediately after we were married, we moved to Philly for work I had landed a great job with my fresh caught engineer degree.
Well, two kids and 17 years later, life was good. Marge was a very dedicated mom and wife, I could not have asked for more. When our youngest hit 15 Marge approached me with going back to work. As with all things in our marriage, we beat it around and discussed it and agreed on it. She quickly found a job at a new branch office of a large cooperation. She was thrilled. After about six months, she was moved up to the corporate managers staff, and they started paying for her Accountant training.
Needless to say, Marge was thrilled, and I was certainly happy for her. Needless to say, the boys and I saw less of her. We were supportive and tried our best to provide as much support as we could. In addition to her required courses, she was taking a woman's study course. About six months after that course started, her attitude changed. It's hard to put a finger on, but she just got more difficult to deal with. It just seemed like she didn't have as much respect for me or my opinions as she used to. The old days of bouncing ideas off her were gone, she no longer seemed interested in my "little" problems.
I felt as though she was slipping away, I had no idea what to do, she would start speeches about a male dominated world and go on forever. It became very difficult to even carry on a conversation with her. Where had the Marge that I loved and married gone? I was out of ideas, I was almost in mourning for the old Marge.
I was really excited, one of the bosses gave me four tickets for the Olympic boxing trials that coming weekend. I showed them to Marge, then my world collapsed.
"Marge, I got tickets for the trials, you me and the boys can all go."
"Well, I can't go, I have a date Friday."
I was at a loss for words, I know I didn't hear her right. "You what?"
"Have a date Friday night and I won't be home till Sunday morning."
"What the hell are you talking about, Marge?"
"I'm declaring my independence and freedom, George. I am a free woman."
"Your married!"
"That's just a male contrivance to keep women subjugated."
"Have you thought about what this will do to us?"
"Well, a strong man would not have any difficulty with an independent woman."
Suddenly, it registered on me just what she was saying. I could feel my anger rising I was struggling to regain control, You want to fuck another man, you want to commit adultery? "
She started on another psychobabble speech, I couldn't take it. The rage must have hit my eyes, she shut up, and I could see fear flash across her face. I jumped up and she jumped up and back. I was choking on my words, I could hardly get them out.
"You do this, and we are done, I will be back to pick up the boys on Friday." I turned and walked out.
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Marge
That's not how it was supposed to have gone. He scared the hell out of me for the first time in since I've known him. He was supposed to be accepting, I thought he was strong enough to handle it. I decided I needed help, I called one of my sisters in the struggle.
"Cindy, it's Marge, he went into a fit of rage, I feared him."
"Not to worry Marge, for many men that's the normal first reaction, trust me he will come around."
"I don't know, Cindy, I'm scared."
" Relax it will work out, trust me." with that she hung up
I wasn't convinced but damn it I was going to see it through.
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George
I went to the gym and beat on the heavy bag until I could no longer lift my arms. I showered and rented a motel room, I needed to be alone. The next morning, I called my cousin Ellen, who referred me to a divorce lawyer here in town. I had an appointment with him right after work.
'So you're sure a divorce is what you want?"
"Yes, if she goes through with her plans for this weekend."
"You know I saw your box in the Olympics."
"Wow, Mr Keller, I'm surprised you would remember."
He just laughed, "You could have been a contender."
"We will draw up the papers and have them ready Monday afternoon."
"Thank you sir, not quite sure how much of your time I can afford."
"You relax son, an excellent friend of mine got divorced over the very same thing, besides I owe your cousin some favors. We will stretch your dollars.
I left there with a splendid feeling.
I stopped after work Friday and Marge didn't even come down to say hello. So, the boys and I headed out. We got home around 11 and Marge wasn't home yet. I knew then my marriage was over, and my life would be forever changed. I sat up till three and the tears flowed freely. I couldn't help it. The worst night of my life. Saturday morning I took the boys to the gym and did some work out and sparring, both boys were aspiring boxers. I took the boys to dinner then to moms house and asked her if the boys could stay with her a few days till things got sorted out.
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Marge