Laying Siege 3: Successful Marriage
Tammy Thomas here, my husband, Bill, is a cybersecurity specialist. I am a group leader in marketing for my company. My company sells mostly to large companies, my job is sales at conventions. I oversee the designing of the exhibit, and manage the sales plan at the convention. Bill and I are separated for about a week each month while I do my job wherever the convention is held. I have cheated on my husband at two of the past three conventions. I find competency to be the greatest sexual attraction. Jerry Stern, a new subordinate, has come up with ideas that have increased our conference sales by twenty to fifty percent. I have shown my appreciation for him and the bonuses in bed. I am forty six. Jerry is about ten years younger. I have two children, both of which are in college.
Is sex with Jerry so much better than with Bill? Physically, just about the same, emotionally you can not beat forbidden fruit. Am I going to trade Bill in for the newer model? I will have to look up Bill's blue book value. Actually if I traded, the forbidden fruit would be gone, and I would gain nothing sexually. I know anyway that Jerry is not going to saddle himself with me, but we have similar objectives. Moving up in the company is our similar goal. The difference is that I would be happy to retire as a vice president. Jerry is going for chairman of the board.
It seems that I am lousy at hiding my cheating. Bill called me out on it. He told me:
"Marriage is successful if you enjoy life along the way, and you die married. It is a grim kind of successful ending. I am not enjoying my life now."
I offered the solution:
"In six months, a position as assistant to the president will open. I have secured it for Jerry. In a year, they will let me take early retirement as a vice president. I am satisfied that this retirement will be a successful end to my business career. At that time, I will do whatever you want to make our marriage glorious."
Bill said that if you work conferences with Jerry for the next six months, our marriage is over.