"I have to go to Vancouver next week," I announced to Anne as coyly as I could while she sat pedaling her stationary bike and working up a sweat. It must have been the grin on my face that told the whole story because she immediately said without so much as a hint of a smile: "Go without me and you're dead. And I mean so dead." I leaned over and kissed her lightly on the lips; they were soft and warm and salty. "That's a harsh thing to say to your loving husband," I whispered in her ear as I nibbled her lobe, "before he tells you he has two tickets." She turned her head; our lips met in a deep, soft kiss as our tongues explored each other's mouth for the millionth time.
I knew she would be excited about going to Vancouver. Our friends Debbie and Dave lived there. It was with them that we had both become fully bisexual. They had come to Toronto once and the four of us had spent the most beautiful weekend of our lives exploring our bisexuality. Anne and I loved being bisexual. It was the fullest possible expression of ourselves as sexual beings. We felt natural, whole, completely at home in our own skins.
The most surprising thing that both Anne and I discovered as we lived through our thirties was that our sexuality seemed to be constantly evolving into a mix of hetero- and same-sex desires that had not been present in our teens and twenties; conventional heterosexuality was soon no longer a complete definition of our sexualities. Our bisexuality was something that grew in each of us with the passage of time and something each of us had to come to terms with alone. Anne and I had grown up like everybody else thinking male and female were simple polar opposites that attracted like magnets or, like the half bodies described by Aristophanes in Plato's Symposium that wander through the world seeking their other half; discovering the other half was 'love'. (But Aristophanes was a comic writer and one cannot help but wonder whether this theory was presented as a joke.)
Before we met each other, we had dated other people heterosexually and had our first sexual experiences heterosexually and didn't think any more about it. It was only in our thirties that our desires seemed to expand to include a new desire, the desire for some sort of same-sex contact. Anne compared this experience to encountering a stranger living within her own house, a stranger she got to befriend and know and then love. To me it was more like the Invasion of the Body Snatchers; my heterosexuality was slowly transformed into bisexuality and ultimately completely replaced by it. My fantasies became more and more about being with a couple where the man was bi; I never really had any desire to be alone with a man. I knew I wasn't gay because I had no desire for the gay lifestyle or even to be with gay men; I simply wanted to add some same-sex play to my underlying heterosexuality. I now considered myself to be about 80% heterosexual and 20% homosexual; my sexuality was now just larger and richer and more diverse and extended to include same-sex pleasures. The problem now was to find a woman who understood this and defined her own sexuality in the same way.
We both found independently that we wanted to live according to our new sexualities but to do that we had to find a new kind of partner. Having the courage to recognize this made our social relations more difficult. One couldn't just ask whether a potential date was bisexual or would be comfortable with my bisexuality. Any hint of homosexuality still carried a stigma for a man, even though same-sex activity between women was rapidly becoming much more acceptable. Nevertheless, neither of us wanted to attract labels in a world that still seemed so uptight about sex. Because it was too time-consuming to just sit back and passively hope someone would turn up out of our normal round of social and business activities, we had both turned to an online dating service where we could anonymously explain our desires and screen the answers. And, voila, we found each other. We both knew what we were looking for before the first date!
Anne's bisexuality gave her a depth and complexity that was a powerful element in my attraction to her and made our relationship richer; and she felt the same way about me. Bisexual love by definition must include others and we found we wanted to give each other the gift of same-sex and even heterosexual pleasure with others. Right from the beginning there has never been a moment of jealousy since everything we did with others we did either in the presence of each other or with the other's consent. Each wanted the other to experience whatever was necessary to be a sexually whole person. One of my strongest desires was to see my darling with another man or woman she found attractive, especially with another man. She loved seeing me with another man or sharing me with another woman. Dave and Debbie had allowed us to indulge these desires because they also shared them. Debbie and Anne had had a relationship before Dave or I met either of them. It was their complete openness to same-sex play that had permitted Dave and me to explore our bisexuality and to become our complete bisexual selves.
Since our first weekend together, we had seen them only once and that was at their wedding. Debbie had asked Anne to be her maid of honour so we flew out for the wedding but they were so busy we only had very little chance even to talk to them. After the reception they went off immediately on their honeymoon and we came straight back to Toronto. It was now more than a year since we had played together.
For Anne and me, our bisexuality was not something we wanted to indulge in all the time. We saw it as a need to be indulged every now and again as a kind of treat to be enjoyed when the spirit moved us but a need nonetheless. At the moment, Anne and I were totally happy just enjoying the intimacy of our deep love for each other. But I could tell by her kiss that she knew Vancouver meant Dave and Debbie and a weekend of the bisexual pleasures we hadn't shared for a long time. Anne had been hugely turned on by Dave and I had often brought her to screaming orgasms telling her fantasies about what I would like to see her doing with Dave.
We had kept up email and telephone contact and with our two Vancouver friends and were aching to get together. A couple of times the four of us were on the phone and stroked ourselves off to wild fantasies. They had put us onto some bisexual web sites and we had suggested some chat rooms to them. During one of our phone conversations, Debbie, who was the most aggressive of the four, complained that it was hard being bi and living so far apart. Had we ever thought of looking for another couple? We all loved each other but they would understand if we needed some same-sex play and found somebody else to fill in between our own meetings. You know, just to meet the needs of the flesh! We said we hadn't done anything but had to admit we were both very bi-horny. I was dying for Dave's cock in my mouth and Anne was constantly fantasizing about sucking Debbie's gorgeous breasts and eating her incredibly soft, sweet-tasting pussy. We said we could understand their needs too and it would be OK if they found somebody out there. In fact, we all had to admit it would be great if we could all play with another couple at the same time. Thinking of six people together at once made us all start fantasizing and stroking ourselves again until the phone lines were carrying our screams back and forth across the country.
Anne and I got off the phone that night realizing our relationship with Dave and Debbie had been carried to another level but we weren't sure about all the implications. All we knew for sure was that the seed of something had been planted and we liked it. How it would grow, no one knew. We went to bed incredibly aroused and made love stimulating each other with fantasies until we fell asleep exhausted in the wee hours.
Debbie and Dave: Looking Fabulous as Always
I flew out to Tuesday evening by myself and Anne was to follow Friday night. I stayed in a hotel downtown and was very busy spending long hours with clients in and around Vancouver and over in Victoria and only saw Dave and Debbie for a quick drink late Thursday evening. They were as beautiful as ever and it was fabulous to see them but we didn't go any farther since we were all very tired and, besides, we really wanted Anne to be with us. They did tease me a bit, however, saying they had met a couple they would like us to meet. That was all they said: no elaboration, no hints, no plans. Anne and I were to check out of our hotel Saturday afternoon and spend Saturday night at their luxury condo.