If That's What You Want
"You're kidding me, right?" I asked my husband of four years after he dropped a bombshell on me. What was the bombshell you ask? Well, he told me he wanted me to have sex with other men!
"No, I'm not," he replied. "Frankly, I think it would be hot! I think about you with other faceless men all of the time. I don't know why, but it's something that really appeals to me."
I sat there staring at the man that I thought I knew after four years of marriage not believing my ears. We were both in our mid-twenties and I thought we were both happy...I was, at least for the most part. I wanted some more information about where he was coming from, so I asked, "Okay, suppose I go along with this stupid idea of yours, is this just a ploy so you can fuck some other women?" I rarely use words like fuck, so I know I got his attention.
"No, no! That definitely isn't my intent. I just want to hear about your experiences and, maybe, watch a few times. Do you know what a cuckhold is?"
I thought for a second and then replied, "Isn't that a man whose wife has cheated on him?"
"You're partially right but it isn't limited to being cheated on. Another variation is a man who gets aroused knowing his wife is having sex with others while he is marginalized in that relationship. That's what I want."
I shook my head and thought that this whole conversation was totally bizarre. While I sat there, Frank, my husband, stared at me expectantly like he was awaiting an answer. I didn't want to just say no out of hand, but I was pretty disinclined to participate in his request. So, I decided to buy some time and told him, "Wow Frank, I'm pretty shocked by all of this. My knee jerk reaction is just to say no. But, on the other hand, I don't want you to hate me for not going along, so I will think about your request. Okay?"
He smiled and said, "That's all I want is for you to think about it. I promise you I have no ulterior motives. Take your time and think it through."
I did think about what he wanted me to do and after a while thought that it might be kind of fun to have sex with other men. I had several partners before I met Frank and a couple of them were really great, but at the time I wasn't ready to settle down since I was still in college. Then there was Frank...he wasn't the best sex partner I ever had and as I thought about it he was probably the worst. I never had an orgasm with him during coitus because he had a propensity to pop too early.
On Monday while I was at work I must have looked upset because Matt, my closest work friend, sat on the corner of my desk and asked, "Um, Myra, are you okay? You look like your best friend told you he hated you, but we know that isn't true because I'm you best friend, so what's up?"
Matt and I hired on at the same time at our company, so we went through orientation and training together and became very close friends. We flirted a lot, but Matt knew I was dedicated to my husband, so things never got too carried away. As I looked at him I could see genuine concern on his face, so I said, "There's some weird shit going on at home that has me a bit upset."
Matt stood up and said, "Frank isn't cheating or hitting you is he?"
"No, nothing like that, but it is something Frank asked me to do. I don't want to talk about this here. Why don't we go to lunch together and I'll tell you about what he asked. I really do need to talk to someone about this."
"Okay, lunch! I'll meet you here at 12:30."
When Matt and I were seated in the restaurant and had ordered our food, he leaned across the table towards me and asked, "Okay, what's going on? I've never seen you so out of sorts before."
I took a deep breath, looked Matt in the eye and said, "Frank asked me to have sex with other men. He says it's not a ploy for him to have sex on the side or to frame me with an excuse to divorce me. He says he wants to be a cuckhold. Have you ever heard of anything as stupid as that?"
Matt was looking at me wide eyed and then asked, "Is he nuts?! If you were my wife I wouldn't let another soul get close to you! So, why don't you just tell him no?" I sat there in silence for several seconds and then he said, "You're actually thinking about doing it aren't you?"
"Oh, I don't know. At first his request just made me angry, but then I started thinking why not. To tell you the truth, Frank is a lousy lover. I can't tell you the last time I had an orgasm that wasn't self-induced, so maybe I can find a lover who's actually good in bed. It all just seems so weird though. Do you think I'm nuts for even considering it?"
"After you just told me you haven't had an orgasm with him, no, I think you should do it. You should have at least one good orgasm in your life that isn't from your own hand or a toy. I do think you need to protect yourself."
"Protect myself? How so?"
"Well, first of all, I think you need a signed contract that stipulates that if you do have sex with another man/men that he can't hold that against you in case he wants a divorce...or you do for that matter. I remember that you said you had to sign a prenuptial agreement, right?' I nodded. "Then I think you need to have that agreement voided and a postnuptial agreement drawn up stating that all property will be divided equally in case of divorce."
"But I don't want a divorce."
He laughed and said, "I know, but you need to do this so if he tries to fuck with you in any way that you won't be left bereft of money and so on. If he refuses to do this then I wouldn't go through with it. If he really wants you to have sex with others then he had better sign."
I thought about what Matt was saying and decided that he was right. I need to protect myself in case the whole thing goes south on me. "Okay, yeah you're right about that."