"Okay! We've made it through budgeting, planning holidays, household chores, thoughts on having kids, thoughts on raising kids, and now there's just one topic left in your premarital counseling! Are you two excited?"
I couldn't believe it! In just one week I would be marrying the love of my life. Julie is really is the best thing that could have ever happened to me. She's smart, funny, not afraid to stand up for herself and lead the way, and of course she's drop dead gorgeous. From the moment I first saw her in the university library I knew I needed her in my life no matter what. Strawberry blonde hair and piercing blue eyes, with just the lightest little smattering of freckles on the bridge of her nose... It's been a long, hard wait to finally marry her, and these past eight weeks of premarital counseling have been the longest, but soon we'll be together forever.
"You bet I'm excited Dr. Murphy! I think we're going to have a long, happy life together. Don't you, Jules?"
"I know we will! Thank you for all your help so far, Dr. Murphy. Jonathan here's been a little antsy if we're being honest, but you've really helped us feel prepared for this marriage."
"And that's the goal. Now, speaking of preparing for the marriage, our last session will be a little more... intimate. I understand you're both virgins, correct?"
"That's right, Dr. Murphy. We both have really conservative folks, and we've been saving ourselves for marriage," I said.
"And I think that's admirable. But, it does mean you'll have a little bit of a learning curve for the honeymoon. Happy sex is an important part of a happy marriage, and you only get one real honeymoon, so it's important for you to be open and communicate with each other. Communication will be your biggest friend in your sex lives, just like it is in every other aspect of your marriage. So I'm going to leave the room and give you some privacy. It will be just you two; no one else. I want you to take an hour and talk about what you think you'd like. Do you like being in charge or being more passive? Do you like trying new things or keeping a routine? Questions like those will give you a lot of clarity, and those preferences may change, but you want to be sure to communicate throughout your life together. So many marriages face conflict over the bedroom, and that conflict can easily be avoided."
"But, Dr. Murphy, can't we just talk about it after we've done it? I don't know about sharing those things now, when we're not even sure what we really like. You know?"
"Jonathan, I know this is personal, but marriage is personal. Sex is personal. Trust me, neither of you wants there to be any surprises. I'll be back to end our session in one hour. Good luck!"
"So... Johnny... do you want to go first or should I?"
