Chapter 4: Annie E.
It had taken twelve months to progress from a naïve young mother who had known no man except her husband, to a woman who realized she had the ability to direct her life on her own. Before, Tom was my only source of how the world really worked. Now it was clear that things could be quite different for me than anything I had ever imagined. Growing up, I always saw myself as the typical wife and mother, raising kids, supporting my husband in his career, joining the PTA and being a faithful typical wife. I never imagined being with other men or using my body to influence a man's behavior. My wardrobe was conservative and I hid my body with my clothing. I only owned one "sexy nightgown". It was just a semi-sheer black gown, nothing really sexy at all. The rest were flannel or heavy robes. That was the way life was before I slept with Bob and then Herb.
As I explained earlier, it started with my husband's fantasies about other men and me. After he had a brief affair, he encouraged me to experiment. After much fantasy role playing with him, I finally slept once with Bob, a friend of ours. I began to open up sexually after that, role playing with and for my husband's pleasure. We used a dildo, and I would pretend out loud, to be fucking guys we knew as we made love. Not quite a year after Bob, I slept with my neighbor Herb two times in just a week! We had already developed a strong non-sexual friendship and were soul mates. This let me see a side of myself I didn't know existed.
I could do anything I wanted and I could control what happened with me sexually. My husband knew about both of these men and encouraged me to continue. He got tremendous sexual gratification from my affairs. This became a source of great psychological pain for me. I wondered if he loved me, or would one day hate me for what I had done. How could he send a woman he loved to another man's bed? After I slept with Herb, Tom got kinkier in his requests for fantasies. He wanted to have a threesome with another man and me. He wanted fantasies about me with multiple partners! These things had never even entered my mind. I had a hard time making up fantasies about them because they were so different from what I had always thought about sexually.
Herb and I continued our friendship, but I didn't go to bed with him again right away. Tom gave me several opportunities over the summer, but I never felt quite right about it. The fantasies with Tom were giving me lots to think about, and after the second time with Herb (when we did everything possible), I just didn't think that I would do it again. Herb and I talked about sex and our fantasies too.