Noun "compersion": /kษmหpษสษn/
1. Vicarious joy associated with seeing one's partner have a joyful romantic or sexual relation with another.
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New Year's Eve is over-rated. At least that's what we'd both often felt. Everyone has this idea that they need to party 'just because' and then there's lots of yelling to countdown the final 10 seconds of the current year. Most of the time those celebrations are entirely forgettable...Except for that one time we decided just to head out to a dinner for two at a local french restaurant.
Nicole, my wife, was born in France; the daughter of a Count with a family tree stretching back centuries and the vineyards and property appropriately passing from generation to generation. Nicole's nobility upbringing manifested itself in an extrovert personality, think sparkling conversation and never a dull moment, matched with an elegant style, think Chanel with pearls and the family crest on her pinky finger. Befitting the intriguing background, Nicole inherited a classical beauty you might already be envisaging; Grace Kelly looks, 5ft 7in, thick strawberry blonde hair, an incredibly elegant and sexy smile and sparkling blue eyes. My wife is also endowed with a wonderfully shapely playground of a body which she had often demurely downplayed, being of the opinion that men are only attracted to supermodel types; this evening she was to be proven wrong.
I'd booked a booth table at Mon Ami Gabi, classically french, bustling and lively but I knew we'd get great service and excellent food. We planned an 8.00pm dinner knowing that we'd probably avoid all the crazy drunk drivers and be heading home before midnight. The maรฎtre d' greeted us and inevitably a rapid-fire conversation in fluent french passed between him and my wife; in any event he escorted us to one of their most intimate tables and introduced us to Pascal who would be our waiter for the evening.
Pascal attentively brought us our glasses of champagne as we perused the menu and leaned over Nicole to answer her questions and make his recommendations. It didn't surprise me that my wife chose her favorite Escargots, which Pascal had assured her were "just like home" while I ordered the Little Gem salad. On Pascal's advice we both ordered the Trout Almondine and I chose a Chablis 1er Cru "Les Vaillons" which I knew to be not just a great wine but also from the region where Nicole's family originated.
"You know he was flirting with you." I stated more as fact than question as we toasted the champagne.
"Who?" Nicole replied, acting naive but with a telling grin.
I laughed. "Your new friend Pascal was unnecessarily close leaning in to guide you through the menu. I suspect he was far from disappointed at the view down your dรฉcolletรฉ."
"Oh I doubt it, he's half my age anyway. But I love that you're a little jealous!" My wife replied breaking out one of her huge smiles, eyes and all.
Before I could answer Pascal arrived with our first course and another hefty dose of attentiveness as he made a conscientious point to shake out Nicole's white linen napkin and carefully place it across her lap.
Alone again, I picked up our conversation where Nicole had left off. "Not jealous, but I'm pretty sure he would have liked to have stroked his hand across your knee when he laid that napkin down."
"I'm flattered if he would really be interested in me, but I think he was just being nice."
The conversation turned to other things as we enjoyed our food, staff came along and cleared plates, until Pascal returned to top up our wine glasses and make conversation with us. Nicole joked with him in french and whispering some sort of conspiratorial riposte Pascal touched Nicole's shoulder, his finger tips resting gently, almost imperceptibly, on the bare skin above her navy off-the-shoulder Ralph Lauren dress. Despite the laughter, we had both noticed.
As we turned to our main course, I raised my eyebrows at Nicole. "See. Don't tell me you didn't feel his touch lingering on you just now." I teased.
Nicole blushed slightly but beamed with delight. "It does a middle-aged woman good to have her ego stroked. You should be proud to have such an attractive wife."
"Oh I am. And I also think that, like most men, he'd like to be stroking a lot more of you than just your ego." I winked back at Nicole, causing her to blush just a tiny bit more.
"You're so sweet! But I think that would really make you jealous." My wife suggested.
"I wouldn't be jealous. Firstly I'm proud and happy that he finds my wife so attractive. But more importantly I'm turned on by your pleasure; it's a wild concept but I love to see you, to look at you, to watch you at any time, in any...uh...situation."
Nicole looked around confirming we were out of earshot then nevertheless lowered her voice. "I know we've played these fantasies but do you think you could ever really do it?"
I nodded and explained "Well, I wish for you only happiness, pleasure and enjoyment and my love for you is so great that it's actually a small step to allowing you the freedom of one-off physical pleasure. The idea is actually incredibly erotic and jealousy doesn't exist if I'm there and you have permission to indulge freely."
"I still don't know if I could." Nicole replied. "Besides, flirting is one thing but that doesn't mean that a young guy like Pascal would want to actually do anything with an older woman like me."
I noted that Nicole wasn't excluding the possibility entirely. "You underestimate how sexy an experienced mature woman is with curves in all the right places and knowing exactly what she wants. I guarantee you that if the opportunity would arise for you then so would Pascal."
"How would it even happen?" My wife asked. Then "Oh my gosh, I've had one glass too many. I don't know what I'm even saying."
We laughed together and clinked glasses. "Cheers!"
Wait staff appeared out of nowhere to clear our plates and Pascal returned once more to top up our glasses and offer dessert. Politely handing Nicole the menu he looked my wife directly in the eyes "Everything is wonderful but Madame should really have the profiteroles! They are full, soft, and the sauce tastes delightfully sensual."
Nicole nodded in the affirmative, smiling her gorgeous smile at him. "Sounds wonderful. I'm all in."