A True Story
The Sadist gains pleasure from inflicting pain & humiliation. Sexually speaking, it is not a pain that damages or truly harms another. That would be an extreme perversion of the Sadistic. Nevertheless, the Sexual Sadist enjoys extreme pleasure in the mastering and domination of another.
The Masochist finds pleasure in receiving pain and humiliation. A sexual masochist feels a sense of release and enthrallment that he/she willingly submits to pain and humiliation for another.
It took me a while to realize that I was a sexual masochist. My wife is not very sadistic sexually, so I have had to learn to develop this within her by letting her experience the pleasure in it.
We began by role-playing for one another. We would have vanilla sex mixed with romance and emotion - her favorite. Then, she would play the role of the Domina and me the slave - at my request. I would provide her with a few stories that would help her see a Dominatrix in action and let her know what ideas from the story she was free to use. She became pretty good at this. I had the joy of seeing her in her black, shiny leather, braless corset, along with black stockings or crotch-less hose, a luscious pair of red or black high heel pumps, black lace gloves, and one of my belts in hand! She looks awesome in this clothing! I gained great pleasure falling to my knees and kissing her feet, eating her pussy, and burying my face into her ass, all at her command. Slowly we progressed with these scenes and the pleasure increased, first for me, then later for her.
On one occasion I was on my back on the floor and she was sitting on her throne chair, while I kissed and massaged her feet - one was near my crotch, the other at my lips. My throbbing cock began dripping pre-cum onto her hose covered feet and I apologized and asked her she wanted me to clean it off with my tongue. Yes! That was a beautiful scene and I have enjoyed it hundreds of times since. Cumming on her feet and licking it off became the ultimate for me. It still is one of the great thrills to experience.
Knowing she had a thing for men's bodies, I began purchasing Playgirl for her when we would role-play. Somehow, over the course of time, I worked a vibrating dildo into our Dom/sub scenarios (how I introduced that to my, at the time, vanilla wife, I do not remember!). She began fantasizing about ex-boyfriends and we worked that in. The day I became a cuckold is etched in my brain. During a domination session, she was humping on the dildo as I massaged her feet and she slid it inside her wet pussy. She began humping faster and faster and came with reckless abandon. Watching her do that was very exciting, but then I asked her if she fantasized during her orgasm. Her reply sent me into orbit. She said that she was fooling around with one of her ex-boyfriends while I watched, and then he slid his cock into her - not part of the plan. But, neither could resist and they both went wild. In her fantasy, he came inside her, without protection, and caused her to erupt into one of the hottest orgasms of her life! The excitement for me was indescribable. It was overwhelming. I was on my knees stroking myself, while she sat on our couch, legs crossed, making me kiss her feet as she told me this. I asked if I could cum on her foot imagining her with her boyfriend and she permitted it. I exploded like never before. The first few spurts must have shot 4-5 feet past her foot and the next few onto her upper leg, almost all of it missing her precious foot that I loved to clean. Without knowing it, or having ever heard the term, that was the day I became a Cuckold.