My wife recently started working in the internal Marketing department for her company. Part of her duties is to meet with Branch managers from around the country both at the home office and at their branches to review with them the marketing campaigns and the services they have access to through the home office.
After a recent trip to a branch that recently brought in a new manager I noticed a difference in her. Many of her other trips seemed arduous and she complained about the managers being either un- interested or incompetent. This time, however, she was raving about the new manager and how motivated he is, how sharp and intelligent he is and how she thinks he will be a terrific addition to the company and that branch.
It was easy to tell she really liked this guy and was almost looking forward to working with him to re-invigorate the sales and marketing at his branch. I happen to work in a related industry and I had heard of this guy, Jim, from people who knew him. Most people believed he was a motivator and he had been very successful at his previous company. I was considering a change of employer myself and my wife suggested I meet with Jim just to bounce some ideas off of him. She gave me his number and when I called and told him who I was, he was very complimentary about my wife and said he would be glad to meet with me.
Not knowing what to expect and having never met him before, I was extremely impressed with the man. He is about my age, married with three daughters and a graduate of one of the military academies. He's about 6'1' tall with dark hair and a square jaw, very handsome with penetrating blue eyes. He is very charismatic, always looking directly at you when he speaks.
My wife didn't mention it but he is quite a big guy. He mentioned that he felt overweight and had not been working out regularly. He probably weighted about 250 lbs when I first met him. I saw him again not long after our first meeting and he had already dropped 10 lbs. This surprised me only because weight is always one of the first things my wife comments on when she is describing people.
After seeing him, I almost would have said he was fat, but she never mentioned that which in most other cases she always did. After meeting him I thought about it and I realized why she didn't mention it. The positive of all of the other positive characteristics I mentioned above outweigh (no pun intended) his weight and she doesn't see him as fat or overweight.
After our meetings my wife was very eager to discuss them, particularly what I thought about Jim.
"Isn't he great?" "Don't you think working with someone like him would be great?" These were questions she asked me.
"I love working with him, I think his branch is going to be really successful, they are already ahead of goals he set" she raved.
I mentioned that I really liked him and could see the charisma and drive she described. When I said he's a really big guy, bigger than I expected she replied, "Really, I didn't notice that". "I mean he is a big guy but I didn't think he was fat".
It was obvious to me at this point that my wife was extremely attracted to Jim. She often brought him up when speaking about work and her face practically lit up when she spoke of him. His branch hired a woman away from the home office and when my wife talked about this I could sense the jealousy in her voice. She wished that she had gotten that job! It's obvious she wants to be around this guy so one night we got into an argument about other people we see or know who we are attracted to.
We've had this dance for a while, on again off again. She knows I have a fantasy of watching her with another man and/or having a threesome. She has said different things at different times about it. Sometimes she says she could never have sex with someone unless she is in love with them. Sometimes she said she could do something like a threesome but the conditions would have to be perfect and it would have to include alcohol and someone she would not see on a regular basis.
Recently we have been talking while making love and she has brought up the subject. "You may not feel the same way if it actually did happen." She also said "what if I fall in love with that person?"
Don't get me wrong, I don't want her having an affair and I don't want her to leave me for someone else, but I think our relationship could survive her having intimacy with someone else. Full disclosure, several years ago I admitted to my wife that I had been unfaithful.
The twist was it was not with other women, but a man. I have had over my life a few relationships with other men where we performed oral sex on each other. I am not gay and do not want a relationship with a man. To me it was just sex, a release that we both wanted and there was no drama and no expectation of relationship. So because of this I almost want her to have someone else. Maybe it is selfish because I want to relieve some of my own guilt for cheating. I guess I rationalize it by saying; adults can just have sex for the sake of sex and it being enjoyable to both parties.
Truth be told, I have fantasized about a threesome with her and another man. What she doesn't know is that in my fantasy, I'm having sex with both her and the man.
Well, that is a long and boring background of what was going on in our lives when she finally did have sex with another man. It started innocently. She had planned to spend two full days working in Jim's branch. That week she was all a twitter with preparations for her two days at his offices. She was supposed to get there Thursday morning.
The plan was to meet all afternoon the first day, have a working dinner, meet again starting at breakfast Friday morning and then when would head back to the home office Friday afternoon. Although Jim's office wasn't that far away from our home, Jim suggested she stay at the Marriot hotel, just over the bridge from his offices. The home office would not have sprung for it since it is less than 50miles from home for her but Jim agreed to cover the cost from his branch budget.
You'd have thought she was getting ready for her first date that Wednesday evening. Trying on all sorts of different outfits, mixing and matching skirts and tops, it was like a fashion show.
"How does this look?" "Do you think this looks too casual?" She was really worked up about making a good impression on Jim.
She finally settled on three outfits to take and confirmed with me that I didn't mind if she stayed overnight. I had no objections knowing Jim lived near his branch and probably would not be staying at the hotel. She slept restlessly that night and awoke early the next day getting ready for her date- I mean- branch visit.