Lying here in bed this morning, my mind naturally returns to that magic day in my life like no other that I can recall. Just thinking about it again gives me that erotic tinkle running down my spine and focusing on my most erogenous area of my body. The clarity and detail that I recall is most amazing as I lie here and reminisce about the plethora of feelings the coursed through my mind and body for those several days in December of 2002.
Interestingly it all started because of my husband. His fantasy is to watch me make love to another man. We played this fantasy out over and over during our 30+ years of marriage with me seemingly playing along most of the times with less than enthusiastic responses on my part. With him however it seemed to be a deep desire and fetish that I simply didn't understand. Nonetheless he would occasionally tell me stories that had me hot and responsive way beyond our normal lovemaking.
I was shocked and surprised when unbeknownst to me, he signed me up for several casual sex sites with a profile indicating I was a hot middle age women seeking a casual affair with a hot man. Until that moment, I never really realized that such sites even existed and certainly would never have had the motivation or the courage to put myself out there.
I got my first e-mails from guys and thought there must be some mistake but the kept coming and finally my husband admitted to putting the ads on various dating sites. At first, I was shocked and I think I just pretended to be shocked as more and more guys wrote me suggestive and explicit notes.
I must admit to being somewhat of a tease and throughout my life have enjoyed flirting with guys and basking in the reaction they exhibited to my sexual being. I learned early in life that I was built for sex and my persona while being quite Midwestern conservative nonetheless had a tint of the sexual person the I felt deep inside was the real me.
Men/ boys invariably reacted to my innuendoes much to my great pleasure. I thrilled to the response I received from guys and basked in their desire for me. But, I was always a bit too straight to actually cash in on these responses and settled in on being a bit of a tease throughout my whole life.
These e-mails however affected me differently. The anonymity of the email format allowed me to open up my teasing and to take it a bit further than I ever felt comfortable with in real life.
After many email exchanges, a few guys actually caught my fancy. One in particular was an architect in Baltimore, MD and we enjoyed literally hundreds of sexy flirting emails for over a year. My husband was delighted to be the recipient of my heightened sexual responsiveness I acquired from flirting with Ted during that time, and I knew that he was enjoying me being "hot' much of the day as Ted wrote me very sexy letter in an attempt to get me to meet him for an afternoon of "fun".
The idea of meeting him sent me into an intense sexual tizzy constantly but for some reason I resisted all his propositions because I was a happily married woman and it just didn't seem to be the thing to do.
I did have sex with him however several times over the phone. Something I couldn't have ever imagined I would ever do. The first time, I actually initiated it when we were chatting on-line and I just got tired of typing so having his phone number, I called him. "ring, ring, you phone is ringing" I wrote. I don't know who was more nervous me or him as he answered the phone. I remember clearly, it was a Sunday afternoon and my husband was somewhere and his wife was out doing her real estate business. Ted and I were flirting on-line.
When I called him on the phone it was if we were long lost lovers. Immediately he took charge and before I knew what had happened, I was lying on my bed with vibrator in hand as Ted talked me through several magnificent orgasms. I had never done anything like this but it was really good. Later that day, I confessed to my husband what had happened and we had fantastic sex reliving my phone session with Ted that day.
After that first time, Ted talked me into several other sessions that always ended up with fantastic sex between My husband and I, but ultimately that phone sex thing just didn't do it for me anymore and we drifted away from continuing on that path.
But my relationship with Ted grew over the next year or so. He became more than a lover and I actually began to love him in a way that was obviously different than the love I felt for my husband. I asked myself lots if it was possible to love two men at the same time and I don't think I ever resolved that conundrum in my mind but looking back I think that I truly did love Ted while loving my husband at the same time but in a different way.
Ted was intelligent, funny, sexy, and very attentive. Hardly a day went by when I didn't receive a nice note from him telling me that he was thinking about me and desiring me. He made me feel sexy, important, and beautiful. My husband had been my husband for 30+ years and our relationship was significantly different. With Ted, I felt like he appreciated me and desired me 24 hours a day.
As my relationship with Ted grew, my life with my husband was very hot as well, but I think it was hot because of Ted. I shared most of my communications with Ted with my husband and it always ended is some great sex but it left me a bit cold thinking about the fact that my husband was most sexy when he was fantasizing about me with another man. I don't understand how that works but it certainly seemed to work for him.
Then the perfect storm hit me at a time when I was most vulnerable. I remember it clearly. It was just before Christmas in the year 2002. My husband had to travel to Germany and Holland for about 10 days and left me alone at home in Virginia. Christmas had always been an intense family time for us and here I was away from my family in Kansas and my husband was in Europe. I was alone and I was lonely.
At the same time, I was doing well in my business and it happened that my mentor was having a seminar on Sunday in Philadelphia about 4 hours drive from my home. It also seemed that subconsciously while my husband was away that my communication with Ted became more frequent and more intense. I let slip that I was going up to Philadelphia for the seminar on Sunday. I never even gave a thought to the fact that I had to drive through Baltimore to get to Philadelphia but Ted picked up on that immediately.
At first he just suggested that I stop in Baltimore to have lunch with him on the way but he pushed further to have me spend the night in Baltimore on Sat and drive on into Philadelphia on Sunday morning. At first I rejected the idea out of hand but he had several days to work on me and as the days went by and my husband was in Europe, my resistance weakened.
So in the end, I agreed to meet him in Baltimore on that Saturday in December 2002.
When I finally agreed, I immediately went into a serious psychological meltdown. Should I go or should I not go. I had a couple days to decide and I can't tell you how conflicted I was during those two days. I must have changed my mind hundreds of times as I considered all the ramifications of my decision.
My mind was conflicted but my body certainly was not. I walked around in a constant state of sexual arousal for at least 48 hours. At night when I crawled into bed, I could not sleep thinking about what it would be like to lie next to Ted and have him do all the things he had written to me and spoken to me about on the phone. Each night, I was forced to take matters into my own hands along with my trusty vibrator and relieve the sexual tension that was ever building.
Finally the night before I was to go meet Ted the next day, I was a basket case. I wanted to do it but didn't want to violate my wedding vows. Despite the fact that my husband and I had talked often about me making love to another guy, it was just a fantasy and this was real. I don't think I slept at all that Friday night knowing what was to transpire the next day.
Saturday morning broke bright, and cold. I awoke early (I really don't know if I even slept) but by 6:00 am, I was wide awake and scared to death. I had so much going through my mind from what to wear to whether to go or not. I had to make a decision.
As I stood under the hot shower early that morning, I could feel my body awaken to the desire I knew awaited me in Baltimore. I don't ever remember feeling so sexually aroused and aware of my needs. This day represented a new horizon of life that I had never contemplated before a few weeks or months before. I was married early in my life and my husband was my one man. Here I was in my 50's contemplating having a sexual affair with another man. It scared the crap out of me while at the same time creating the most intense sexual desires I had ever experienced.
With the hot water running down my back and me soaping my most private parts, I made the final decision that I wanted this. Maybe I was being selfish but I wanted to experience what lay ahead of me that day and damn the consequences.
The first decision was made, now what to wear. My closet was filled with clothes but nothing really that I would describe as sexy "having an affair" kind of clothes. I wanted to look really sexy for Ted but what. I had some sexy thong panties that would work but I really didn't have a sexy bra to match so that stressed me out even more.
I surveyed my closet and amazingly, out of the corner of my eye, I saw the soft leather pants that I had purchase recently. I loved the way they fit and my husband always complimented me on how sexy my butt looked in the leather pants so I made my mind up that black leather pants was the armor I would wear for Ted. I had the perfect sweater top in a red cable knit mock turtle that was silky soft and very sexy as it accented my rather large breasts.