Lisa Andrews, pastor of a small church, was a 38 year old woman with no children. She was five foot four inches tall, 124 lbs with blonde hair and blue eyes. She loved her work in the church and when she accepted a a call to become the pastor of a church in a Chicago suburb she jumped at the chance.
Joan was the music director of the church and she and the new pastor became colleagues and friends. Joan was a 41 year old brunette at five foot 5 and 130 lbs. She was married with two children. With her husband on the road because of his job and the kids busy with high school activities Joan had a lot of time to dedicate to the church and her new friend.
After nearly a year the two women had the opportunity to attend a conference for pastors and worship leaders at a church camp in Wisconsin. The two women decided it would be a great opportunity to rev up worship opportunities.
They drove up together and talked all the way about new ideas for enlivening worship. They registered and were delighted to find out that they would be sharing a two person cabin, like all of the other registered people.
After the first days activities the women were just bursting with ideas. It was a lovely night and Lisa said she was going for a walk just to unwind. Joan asked if she could join so the too headed out to walk among the pine trees of the camp.
They talked about worship and then the conversation moved to personal lives. Joan talked about the change in her life with hubby on the road and the kids being almost totally independent. She was feeling a bit unneeded and neglected. Lisa listened quietly asking probing questions now and then.
Then Joan abruptly asked, "Lisa, how come you never married? Did you think being a pastor would hard on a marriage?"
Lisa was quiet for a while and then said, "Joan, I trust you more than anyone else in this whole world. You are my best friend so what I tell you is between you and me." Joan crossed her heart and listened.
"Joan," Lisa began, "I, uh, well I uh never have been attracted to men. I always thought there was something wrong with me and then in college, well I had uhh an affair with my room mate."