(Note to the discerning reader: Throughout this story, the terms 'domme' and 'sub' are used to indicate active and passive roles in lovemaking. Please accept these as figures of speech and not a misuse of the technical, more specific meanings of these words in formal BDSM literature.)
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"It is possible to get here from there, but it is not possible to get there from here. I cannot return to my country."
My interviewer is quite confused, a state in which she will remain throughout the interview. I can only hope she records and reports my words accurately and fully. Our worlds are so different. She is pretty, with shoulder length dark hair and a light complexion for contrast. Her skin is pale, an effective palette for her on-camera makeup. She smiles at me and I wonder if she dressed to be so enchanting or if it was natural. Her blouse is a pretty fall orchid color, her skirt is an enchanting tapestry to match, drawing attention to her slender waist and full hips, away from her bust which she probably thought was small.
("I'll kiss those breasts today, or die", I thought.)
As she cannot think of a response, I continue.
"I appear to you as a woman, which engenders (!) all sorts of expectations and prejudices you associate with the trope you carry about my sex. In my country, things are a bit more complicated. Fortunately, that complexity is accepted and even celebrated. We are forced to accept that when we meet someone new, we know nothing important about them."
"How could things be more complicated about women or men than they are here?"
"Here, you would expect me to be heterosexual, or interested in intimacy with men, just based on percentages. Where I come from, the percentages are more balanced."
"Please, continue." Her mouth was actually open. I can see her brain flitting about behind her gorgeous green eyes.
"Consider all the possibilities. We include the desires of both members of the pair, for we mostly mate in pairs. There are six kinds of women who prefer to be intimate with other women. Your lesbians would understand the differences better than most members of your society, but we could never get by with a single word for a female-female pair."
"So, what are the variables that must be considered?"
"There are women that desire an equal relationship with another woman. They might explore dominance and submission but you would find that they share both roles equally. They would constantly try to service the relationship as true partners - sharing daily chores, responsibilities, and the emotional care for their partnership. The variations of this type include women who dress and act in a manner you would consider more masculine and women who would strive to appear more traditionally feminine. In all cases, the pair would present similarly in this type."
"So another type would be the more masculine appearing woman with the more feminine woman?"
"Yes, you're right, perfectly, but there would be variations which echo the overall scheme among men and among women."
"I think I know what you mean, but please elaborate." She was aroused by our discussion - something had struck a chord. Her eyes are now brighter, less confused, and there was a hint of moisture shining on her upper lip.
("I'll feel those lips on my clitoris, today, or else", I thought.)
"Well, either member of a pair can be more dominant, with the other providing more energy to service the relationship. One predominantly receives support from the other. This dynamic is most apparent during sexual intercourse."
"Now, I'm confused again."
"The more supportive individual is submissive during sex. The dominant partner is more active in offering affectionate physical stimulation. The supportive partner submits to the other's caresses and shows pleasure but in response to the efforts of the other. The supported partner takes pleasure directly from the more submissive one and is secondarily pleased if noting pleasure in the partner."
"This is complex."
"Even more so than you might think. Either the more masculine or the more feminine may be the supported or the supportive partner."
"Oh, my." If I wanted to seduce her, it was working. She was considering the possibilities.
"I think a demonstration is in order. We will make love and you may pick any orientation. We're both dressed as females, so let's use that as a starting point. Do you wish to be equals, or to select a dominant-submissive role?"
"Oh, I'm not sure if..."
"Your response indicates your lack of familiarity, which is supportive of a more submissive role. Have you ever been with another woman?"
"No, my relationships have all been heterosexual..."
"Then take the supportive, more passive role. Here, let me kiss you."
She leaned away at first, the moved forward to accept my kiss. Her lips were warm and full. I noted her eyes closed in concert with the passive role. Mine remained open to gauge her responses. I enjoyed her natural response to my kiss and one hand moved to her shoulder, then to her neck, which I stroked and then pressed her face more tightly to mine. Her hands moved to my chest (as they would for a male's kiss) but on me they found my breasts. She started with the unfamiliar sensation and began to pull away, but I kept kissing and moved her hand back to me. Her lips parted in submission and I moved my tongue inside her mouth. I explored a bit and caressed her tongue, trying to coax it back into me.
("Not yet", I thought.)
