Second Installment in the "Latina" Series of Erotic Tales
I am lucky enough to be married to the passionate Mexican lady whose story, "Latina," is the first story in this series. After telling her story, she thought I should tell you about our first time from the male perspective. As my wife has taken on the pen name Latina after her Mexican-American heritage, I have chosen the pen name Frank for myself, because this name shares both its first and last letter with the first and last letter of one of our favorite indoor (and outdoor) activities, as you will see from my story.
I have not always been as lucky in relationships as I am in my marriage. Although I am reasonably good looking, I do not fit the Hollywood image of a hunk. But I have something better going for me: I really care about the women in my relationships.
To hear the media tell it, every woman wants a committed relationship, and every man is scared of commitment. I can't speak for other men, but in past relationships, the opposite was true. Like the girl in high school who invited me to a dance, then showed up with another date. Or the coed I fell in love with in college, who began drinking and became abusive after her grandfather died. Or the coworker who was afraid of commitment because her ex-husband had dumped her for his secretary.
It is supposed to be every man's dream to date a model type. Well, I tried that once, too. This woman was tall, very nicely proportioned, with the reddest and most inviting lips, and gorgeous hair you just wanted to run your fingers through. She could easily have leaped out of the pages of any glamorous magazine. And I'll admit, at first, it was exciting to have a "trophy date" to show off. But after two or three dates, I realized that this was all she was, a trophy, all golden and shiny facade on the outside, but cheap, hollow, and plastic inside.
I would try to engage her in intelligent conversation about her personal philosophies in life, or about current events in the news. But she did not watch TV news or listen to news radio, much less ever read a newspaper. She would always turn the conversation to her hair, makeup, and clothing, the only topics she seemed to know anything about. She would never offer to share the expenses of our dates, and she had expensive tastes, so it started to feel like she was a gold-digger. The trouble was, although I am solidly middle-class, I didn't and don't have much gold for a woman to dig. And although she LOOKED like a model, she didn't have the confident air of success nor the refinement one usually associates with glamorous women.
I started to realize that her shimmering hair came from a shampoo bottle, and her red lips from a cosmetics tube, and there wasn't much of a real person underneath those cosmetic enhancements. She would spend much of our date criticizing my appearance and my personality, and she would even hand me written lists of things she wanted me to change about myself, such as dying my hair blond, covering my small bald spot with a toupee, and talking like a California surfer dude, which she found sexy. Rather than becoming interested in who I was, or finding a man who fit her image, she wanted to change me into her image of the ideal man. She would rant and ramble on like this until I was completely turned-off by her, and then at the end of our dates, she'd try to put the romantic moves on me, by which time I simply wasn't interested. After a few such dates, I wanted to scream from the sheer boredom of it all! I couldn't even stand to face her in person one last time, and I took the cowardly way out by breaking-up with her over the phone and hanging up.
I was raised to believe that sex is better in a caring, committed relationship. So as corny as it may sound, I saved myself for marriage. Sure, some relationships had involved heavy petting and oral sex (usually me eating her out, which I have always loved to do, although it was sometimes reciprocal). But without the deep caring for each other, these actions seemed somehow empty. And I had never yet "gone all the way" to intercourse.
After these experiences, I joined a dating service. There, you can read a written profile of the person's background and interests, and view a video interview, to see if there is something of interest BEFORE you start dating. Much more effective than pick-ups at a bar or a community dance. And the membership cost was high enough that only those seriously looking for a long-term, committed relationship would pay the fees.
After two years in this dating service, I had met some interesting prospects, but I had also been turned down for a lot of dates. I attended a seminar about defining what you MUST have, would LIKE TO have, and absolutely will NOT accept, in a relationship. After that seminar, I realized I had been willing to accept a lot of losers just to have female companionship, and I then wrote down my rules. I decided to become much more selective.
At that time, I was just starting to date a Filipino nurse who was short, dark complexion, looked terrific in tight shorts (which she wore often). She was highly intelligent, and we had great conversations. She knew exactly how to talk very sexy. She would call me up and say she was lying in bed wishing I were there beside her, naked, warm, and loving in her arms. But when we were together, she wouldn't even let me kiss her, and we never got beyond her removing those tight shorts to teasingly show me her skimpy panties (she was strictly look but don't touch).