I heard some people say that they don't think that big people have sex lives, let alone satisfactory sex lives. Whoever said these things is lying. Don't ask them. Just ask me, Bartleby Davidson. I'm a big and tall black man ( six-foot-three and two hundred and fifty pounds) living in Buffalo, New York. I'm a police officer in the city and I've put in ten years with the precinct. This story that I'm about to share with you is all true.
I met my wife Kimberly Dalton when I was eighteen back in 1980. Back then, I was just a young black man unsure of himself in the college scene. I came from a small town in Long Island and the scene around NYU was very different from what I was used to. I was looking for the dorms when I saw her. A very tall, large young woman. The girl stood around six-foot-one, big-boned, curvy and sexy, with a large, round butt. She wore a black shirt and blue jeans. Her long blonde hair was pulled into a bun. Her pale brown eyes looked at me appraisingly.
I approached her and asked her for directions. She was kind enough to walk me to the dorms. NYU was very different back then. It was fifty percent male and fifty percent female, with an even mix of black people and other minorities. Lately, the number of black male students in college has decreased and I'm not happy about that at all. I went into the dorm and settled in. My roommate was this guy named Paul Stanley. He was a tall, slim black guy. A really cool guy. Like me, he was studying Criminal Justice. While I wanted to be a cop, Paul wanted to be a lawyer. I didn't like lawyers but I thought Paul was a fine young man.
I would see Kimberly around campus. This girl was something else. She was probably the tallest female on campus. I asked about her. Kimberly played for the women's basketball team. She was a pretty good player. No one knew anything about her life off the court. She was a polite person who kept to herself. That's what most people had to say about her.
There were plenty of females on campus and I found them to be very pretty but I was looking for something special, you know. Now, I'm not the marrying kind or at least, I wasn't back then, but I wanted to go out with a girl who was okay. Most chicks I saw around campus were flaky. Chicks lived in cliques even at the college level. Cliques were annoying and so passé if you ask me. Of course, there was always a Queen Bee ruling them all. It seems that every girl I met fell into an unpleasant stereotype. The arrogant bitch. The conniving slut. The ambitious and ruthless geek. The shy but unstable bookworm. It seems to me that in their own way, they were all crazy. What's a brother to do?
I was looking for a woman who was smart, easy to get along with, not a psycho, not a control freak and also not a backstabber. I didn't want to date a princess who thought the world revolved around her or a ball-busting bimbo. I didn't want a slut either. I was looking for a good girl and I don't mean the repressed religious type. No, I was looking for a decent human being of the female persuasion. There didn't seem to be any around. After too many nightmarish dates from hell, I gave up.
One day, I got kicked out of the dorms for the weekend because someone on my floor was smoking dope and the Resident Assistant, an annoying black bitch, threw me out for three days. Where in hell was I supposed to go? I asked my friend James and he couldn't let me stay at his place because his annoying girlfriend Josephine was around. I had been there for the guy and he wouldn't even lift a finger to help me. You never know who your true friends are until you're in trouble.
I asked Roger Dalton, this big and tall football player I knew. Roger hesitated. I lowered my head. Not another rejection. It seems that I would be homeless. That's when someone walked into the room. It was Kimberly, the tall girl I had met months earlier. I had no idea that she was Roger's sister. Now that I saw them together, standing almost the same height ( he was slightly taller), I could see the family resemblance. Kimberly looked me in the eye and asked me what was going on. I told her my sad story. Someone was smoking dope in the dorms and the conservative Resident Assistant who hated my guts blamed me for it. I had no place to go. Roger had enough of me and was ready to show me the door. I walked out.
I was halfway out of the school when I heard someone calling my name. It was Kimberly. She walked toward me. I stopped. When she got close enough, she told me to follow her. I had no idea where she wanted me to go. She told me that she was going to find me a place to stay. She would let me stay at her place. I was very surprised. Why in hell was she helping me, a guy she didn't know all that well? She told me that it's what she would want someone to do for her if she were in that situation. I looked at this young woman, surprised. I didn't think people like her existed outside of feel-good movies. I accepted her offer, like I had any choice!
Kimberly lived in the women's dorm. Her room was small but Spartan. I liked it. There were bunk beds there. Her roommate, a Hispanic woman named Isabella was currently staying with her boyfriend Kyle, of the Men's Soccer team. Over that weekend, I would get to know this young woman who had saved my butt. Kimberly was a year older than I was and she was studying to become an accountant. She had a head for numbers. She was fiercely driven to succeed. I admired that about her. She was Roger's younger sister and they both grew up far away from New York. They were natives of a small town called Plymouth, down in Massachusetts. A tomboy and her super jock older brother, together in college. Wow!