That night when we had sex while watching porn made me realize that I really desired a threesome. It wouldn't be something just to please Arthur, but an experience that I actually wished to live. The fact that it would be the fulfillment of my husband's greatest fetish would be a bonus, of course, but it would not be solely that or even the main reason for it to happen. It was now something mine, not just his.
This thought took my mind for a while. Weeks, maybe. It stayed there in the back of my mind, popping up from time to time, even at inappropriate times of the day... at the office... at the gym... at the supermarket... But, from a point on, I was consciously thinking about it, considering it in a rational fashion.
Suddenly, I couldn't help and began to look at other women in a new light: who would be our "friend" for one night? Who would I like to share with my husband? Who would I like to give pleasure to and receive pleasure from? Look at me... I always liked men... I always liked dick... considering licking some girl's pussy... considering a girl's finger into me... It was something new... And a bit terrifying, I'm not gonna lie...
But would I really go through with it? Or would it be another one of those things that we cherish but never realize? Like backpacking through South America, skydiving, or learning French?
This question started to torment me.
You see, I know that not everything I wish is good for me. It is like that in life. I am aware of this. Virtually everything in life is a matter of weighing the cost/benefit, the pros and cons. And it is no different in this threesome matter.
So, mentally, I made a list of pros and cons.
What would the negatives aspects be?
First: jealousy.
I can rule out that Arthur would be jealous of me with a woman.
What if I wanted to be with a man?
Well, this problem would be dealt with some other time. For the moment, I only wanted another woman. It was a common ground between my desire and my husband's desire. This made it easier. With regard to another guy, I would let myself think about it if the question eventually emerges.
But what about me? Would I be jealous of Arthur with another woman?
In ordinary circumstances, I am not particularly jealous. But this was an atypical situation.
What would it be like to see my husband kiss another woman?
I realized, oddly enough, that seeing him kiss another woman seemed more complicated than seeing him have sex with another woman in front of me. Kissing is something more passionate. Sex is flesh and blood. It is desire, not love. It doesn't necessarily have all that emotional connection.
Well, when you think about it, not all kisses have this emotional connection either. I myself have hooked up with and kissed guys I didn't want to have anything more than a flirting relationship with.
Ok, so maybe even some kissing wouldn't be so bad. But, better to avoid.
The best thing would be for me to have a certain protagonism, to take the lead in defining the limits of what my husband could and could not do. A make-out kiss, okay. More than that: no.
I thought that if it was just one night of sex, it would be very easy to discard this issue of jealousy, of emotional connection.
Having overcome this point, I went on to the next: how would this change our relationship? Would he only want to have sex from then on if it was like this?