There's this guy I work with, Jason. We don't actually work together - I'm in accounting, he's in shipping - but we run into each other fairly often, and for a while now we've been having lunch together a few times a week. We're sort of an unlikely pair, really. Jason is 23, I'm pushing 50, he's straight and I'm gay, he's a big sports fan, and I couldn't care less. Although, I do try to keep up on his favorite teams, just to be able to have a decent conversation with him if the subject comes up. So what's the attraction? Well, I don't know if Jason considers me a mentor, exactly, but he seems to value my opinion, at least on some subjects. We've become close enough that he sometimes comes over to my place on weekends, especially if one of his teams has a game on TV. His wife, Susan, doesn't like sports, at all, and would rather not have him watching games at home. Her loss, my gain.
So Jason was at my place Saturday, watching what he said was a really important game. We had a few beers while the game was on, and when it was over he didn't seem especially anxious to leave. We chatted for a while, nothing worth repeating, then he said, "You're gay, right?"
"Right," I answered. Common knowledge.
"So, you're into anal?"
"Not always," I said. "Depends on who I'm with."
"Well, when you do, which one are you?"
"You mean top or bottom? Again, depends on who I'm with. I'm what they call versatile."
He took a few seconds to process that, then said, "OK, but when you're the bottom, doesn't it hurt?"
"Not if you do it right," I said. "What's with all the questions?"
"Well," Jason said, "I've been trying to get Susan to try anal with me, and she finally agreed. But then she said it really hurt, and now she doesn't want to do it again. Ever. So maybe we didn't do it right."
"It's not really any big mystery," I said. "You just need to take your time, and use plenty of lube."
From the look on Jason's face, I might have been speaking a foreign language. "Lube?"
"Sure," I said, "lubricant. Look Jason, let me 'splain something to you. When a woman starts to get turned on and wants to have sex, her vagina starts getting wet. Maybe you just call it pussy juice, but that's a lubricant. So when you actually get started, you slide in pretty easily, because she is already wet. Lubricated. You with me so far?"
"Yeah," he said, "I guess."
"OK," I said. "Here's where lube comes into play. When you're talking anal, there's no natural lubricant. You have to provide it yourself. Now in the old days, people just used petroleum jelly, and that worked. But then we found out that didn't work too well with condoms, so a few personal lubricants came out. There's one that's pretty popular with straight couples, so you can probably find it in your drugstore."
Jason said, "Yeah, I've seen that. I always wondered what it was for."
"Well," I said, "it's not just for anal. Sometimes a woman doesn't get wet enough, or a couple just likes the sensation. I guess some guys probably use it when they jerk off. It's not really the best for anal though. Gays usually want something more heavy duty. There's a lot of brands out there, but you probably won't see them in the drugstore. I get mine at the adult store."
"OK," Jason said, "you said the thing is to take your time and use plenty of lube. So, how's that going to work?"
And I'm thinking, "Fuck, he wants the whole tutorial. Now what?"
"Well Jason," I said, "let's imagine I'm going to fuck you. I'll walk you through it, step by step, and you can ask any questions you want."
He gave me a suspicious look. "Strictly hypothetical, right?"
"Sure," I said, "absolutely. It's just that it will be easier for me to describe with a real person than with some abstraction. Plus, if I describe it with you, you might be able to imagine how Susan is feeling when you do it with her."
He thought about it for a few seconds, then said, "Yeah, that makes sense. I just don't want you getting the wrong idea."
"No problem," I said. "Ready?"
Jason took a deep breath, then said, "OK, ready."
"OK," I said, "first I'm going to give you a little head, just to get you turned on and in the mood for some excitement. Then I'm going to turn you over and rim your ass for a while."
"Rim my ass? You mean with your tongue?" I just nodded. "Isn't that sort of unsanitary?"
"Not if you keep yourself clean down there," I answered. "I can always get a washcloth if I have to. You've never done that with Susan?"
"No way," he said. "She'd freak out if I tried it."
"Too bad," I said, "she'd probably love it. So would you. Anyway, moving on. I rim your ass for a while, and you start feeling really, really good. You start wondering what it's going to feel like when I actually start fucking you, and you can hardly wait to find out. So, your ass is getting relaxed and loosened up, and when I think you're ready, I drizzle some lube into your butt crack. I spread it around with my fingers, and little by little I work a finger into your ass. OK so far?"
"Yeah, I think so. It's not going to hurt?"
"Shouldn't," I say, "I'm going real slow, being as gentle as I can. So, I work a finger into your ass, gently, just a little at a time, and you're liking it. Wanting more. I slide my finger in and out, finger fucking you, and you're starting to get into it. When you are loosened up enough, I might try two fingers at once, maybe even three. Mainly I want to feel you getting loose, relaxed, ready for the main event."
"The main event," Jason said. "You mean your cock."
"Right," I said, "when you're ready for my cock, that's the main event. OK, so let's say you're ready. I get a lot of lube on my cock, and some more on your ass. I start to work my way in, a little at a time. I push in until I feel resistance, then back off. I go again, just a fraction of an inch deeper, and back off again. We go through this routine a few times, maybe five or six, and then your sphincter opens up and I'm inside you. Just an inch or two at first. You might feel some discomfort at this point, OK? I wouldn't call it real pain, but sort of a burning, stinging sensation. That only lasts for a minute or so, then it goes away and you start feeling pretty good. When you're ready for me to go deeper, you'll let me know. You don't have to say anything, your body will do the talking."
"OK, but what if I don't like it after all? What if I want to stop?"
"We stop. No problem. If I kept going after you wanted to stop, that would be rape, right?"
Jason looked kind of shocked. "I didn't stop when Susan said it hurt."
"Well," I said, "that's between you and Susan. But for future reference, if your partner wants you to stop, you stop. No questions asked, no argument. If I was really fucking you and you wanted me to stop, that would be the end of it. Period."
Jason had to think about that for a minute. "OK, got it. But let's say I don't want you to stop. What's next?"
"OK," I said, "you're ready for me to go deeper. So I push in another couple of inches, still not all the way, just letting you feel my cock inside you. I slide in and out a few times, you start getting into it, and then I pull out all the way and get more lube. This time you're lubed up pretty good, and relaxed, so I slide in all the way, till my cock is buried deep inside you. I hold it there for a bit without moving, letting you get used to the feeling. Then I start fucking you, nice and easy, so you feel my cock moving inside you, just a couple of inches each way. And at this point I'm waiting for you to ask for more."
"So you want me to ask for it," Jason said. "What, you want me to beg you to fuck me?"
"I wouldn't say beg, but if it's right, you're going to get verbal. Not begging, but telling me to fuck you deeper, harder, faster, whatever. You might tell me how good it feels, or how big I am (even though I'm not really), what a good lover I am. All I'm saying is, if it's right you're going to really get into it."
"This is all doggy style, right?"
"Not necessarily," I said. "I like to start with you lying flat on your belly. You're more relaxed that way, so it's easier to get started. When you're ready we can switch to doggy. At that point you will be ready for some more intense fucking. I might give you a pretty good pounding, if I think you can take it. Then at some point I'll want to flip you over on your back, and fuck you face to face. I'll put a little bit of lube in your hand so you can jerk off while I'm fucking you. You need to see how great it feels to cum while you're getting fucked. It's so amazing, I can't begin to describe it."
"Cool," Jason said. "You're going to cum too, right?"
"Sure," I said, "you couldn't stop me if you tried."