As we progressed in the relationship there were certain stages at which we were becoming more intimate that I felt compelled to reveal some of my peccadillos. Since there were some significant ones, I told Judy that she could walk away with no hard feelings. For me it was very liberating to not have to hide parts of me that would certainly come out. It would be perfectly understandable for her to say "No, that's just too much for me", yet I could in no way think less of her.
The most difficult reveal was one that I didn't think would be the most difficult. When I told her I was bisexual she literally stopped in mid-breath.
"I don't know if I can live with that."
"Why, are you afraid we might be looking at the same guy? I look at women too."
"I just don't know how this would work."
"If you think my male loving side is so strong that it would pull me away, you have to consider that is the possibility whatever someone's sexuality. If I were straight, that could pull me to another women. This isn't as foreign as you might think."
I had one thing that she still hadn't quite grasped that strengthened my bond to her, and that is that I'm a submissive. Judy was not a domme, but from our first sexual encounter she was aggressive and somewhat dominant. And she liked sex as much as I did. This was the best relationship I could have ever imagined and that's why I didn't want mess it up with hidden personality traits that would inevitably come out under the stresses in everyday life.
"Bisexual? Well that sure explains a lot," Judy said.
From the beginning, I explored Judy's body in order to find every possible pleasure point. She said that there was not a part of her body that I had not become familiar with. Being submissive, I only thought of her orgasm and how could that be made the most physically wonderful experience she could have. I adored her body from head to toe and all of the interesting places in between. Oral skills are my strong point. If oral doesn't accomplish everything for a person, man or woman, I'm close to useless to them.
I had toys that Judy was unfamiliar with and that kept things interesting until the novelty wore off. But my adoration of her body never lost its novelty. She thought my tongue was very talented, and it was joy for me to use it endlessly on her clit and labia. Her nipples were so sensitive that she could sometimes have an orgasm from just nipple play. She's multi-orgasmic so where we start might not be where we end up.
My nipples are very responsive also and Judy said that she didn't know men's nipples were so sensitive. I like nipple clamps, pumps, pulling and twisting. And Judy tried these, but she didn't care for them. She did learn how to work them on me when I used them. And she learned how to pleasurably torture my nipples. She learned how to slap my trussed up balls and cock and she began to loose her fear of hurting me by learning how to interpret my movements and vocalizations as to my level of pleasure.
Well, the big thing about being a submissive bottom is that I like to be made a bitch every now and then. Sometimes I like to be released from worldly concerns by just lying under someone fucking the cum out of me. We tried a strapon several times but Judy didn't get into it. She is not up for the femdom role, but she thoroughly dry-humps me whenever I am having an orgasm. So I use some anal plugs when I'm in the mood and Judy humps me strong. But for me it's really about her pleasure and if I have nipple clamps on and my nuts and cock bound tight with a cord I'm enjoying myself making sure she climaxes.