Then there is Gary. Backstory: I was living with Betsy and Jim in a two bedroom apartment. During the summer after my first year at school, I needed an apartment, Jim needed a roommate. We worked together at the mall, so he asked if I wanted to move in. When school started back, I decided to stay in the apartment and skip the dorm.
David and I went our separate ways from there. Shortly after school started, a friend of Jim's, named Betsy needed a place to crash. She started sleeping in my king bed as a matter of convenience. She was married, and her husband was still living in CA. I wasn't that attracted to her. She was a hairdresser and a little wild. I was slightly afraid.
Not long after moving in, October time frame, Betsy came home drunk. And horny. After an hour of drunk sex, she passed out. In the morning, she awoke and apologized.
I said it was fun, and not to worry. She then asked if it could continue. She was always horny, and she couldn't stand it seeing me walk around half naked. I figured if she was OK with her marriage vows, I was cool with it. She was trying to figure out how to lay me since she moved in.
Jim announced he was out of the closet at Christmas time. Betsy pulled me aside and told me, thinking I might 'freak out' that Jim was gay. My response was that I had no idea he was IN the closet, considering how flamboyant he was. And that I didn't care, it was cool. She didn't know about David and I wasn't about to tell her.
As a gay man, Jim was sort of flaming, and it was not a big turn on to me. Plus he had more hair on one square inch of his chest than I had on my whole body. Totally not into him at all, but he was OK as a roommate.
With his coming out came gay friends coming over. There was a gaggle of them, and they were all nice, but I really was not into the gay scene. There was Antoine and Stephan, the inter-racial couple, and there was Jeff, a guy that went to school with Jim. Betsy liked to go to the gay bar with them, as did Sue, I guess you would call her a fag hag that started showing up as well.
They seemed to be over at our place a lot after they were at the bar. I worked two jobs plus school, so hanging with them was a luxury I never really afforded. I went out maybe a dozen times. Jim started bringing home some guy from South America, Philipe. He spent the night every once in a while for a few weeks. He was so quiet, he never really talked much. Not sure if it was language or shyness, but he was the opposite of Jim. After two months, he never came back. Jim said he had to go back home to South America.
If they went to dinner and I was off from the mall job, I usually went with them, the restaurant we hung out at was next door to the bar I worked at, and I could catch dinner before work. It was one of these occasions that Sue was bringing Gary to meet Jim after Jim's break-up. Gary moved back to town from another state, to get a job cutting hair in town. There we were all drinking, eating and chatting when he walked in, and immediately you could tell, Jim and Gary were not going to be a couple.
Jim was flamboyant, but seemed to like his partners quiet. Gary was the opposite of quiet. As a hairdresser, he had this long wild mane of hair, with many colors to it, mostly dirty blond with several different streaks. He stood about 5'6" or so, with a very trim build. He had blue eyes and a nice looking face. He was very open about his gayness, and there was no question he was out. But he had a very quick smile, and a sparkle in his eye.
We all sat at two tables the 8 of us plus a few other friends, all to meet Gary, and he ended up sitting next to me. Everyone knew Gary was being brought to meet Jim. had no intention of doing anything with Gary. That part of my life was not something I was pursuing, besides, sleeping with Betsy was going great.
It was a no strings attached situation that I had no intention of changing up. There were really no guys in my life since Dave, and really, I had a good thing with Betsy, unattached sex when I wanted it. But for some reason we chatted a lot more than some of the folks thought we should have.