Fiancé's Doctor House Call: Part 3 of 3
Her Story
I'd been so busy with work and graduate studies I didn't make any weekend plans. Some of my friends had talked about going downtown to a new restaurant and hanging out afterwards, but I was tired of the same old routine. It would be another night of negotiating strangers; some were nice guys, some were too full of themselves or too pushy.
My phone rang. "I know, Mom, I'm fine. Thank you for reminding me I'm not getting any younger. There's nothing wrong with focusing on my career; it doesn't mean I'm not social. What? No, I'm not a lesbian. I'll visit you and Dad soon; let me get my life in better order. No, I won't be bringing someone for you to meet."
He walked by me in the graduate student section of the library; I sensed him looking my way, but I wasn't sure if he would approach me. He had kind eyes and a nice smile; he walked by me and went on his way. That's fine; I'm not here to socialize; I've got work to do.
After wrapping up my book search, I thought a coffee would be in order, so I headed out to the café at the entrance. Here's the guy with the kind eyes again. I was wondering if he's stalking me or if it's a coincidence. I smiled at him, and he spoke.
"I hope you found the book you were looking for."
With nothing to lose, I invited him to join me. I'm usually never this open to a stranger, but he had those kind eyes, so I gave him a break. We had a great conversation sitting outside the library, and I hoped he would get the courage to invite me out. I almost thought about extending him an invitation, but I couldn't. He found a creative way to get us together, an excuse to meet him that night at a comedy performance without the stigma of a first date. It seemed safe; I could leave or ghost him if he turned out to be creepy, so I gave him my contact information.
Spending time with him was much like coffee with him at the café. His company made me feel free and easy. He listened to what I had to say and was interesting himself to listen to. He had depth and character; maybe he wasn't as tall or attractive as my usual suitors, but I felt so comfortable with him. Besides, I could totally see myself banging him, and I knew he thought I was really attractive, but he never looked at me like a piece of meat.
This was refreshing because the last guy I dated was someone all my girlfriends drooled over. He had the body and looks; he was also very successful. Making love was a thrill at first, but I sometimes didn't feel he was making love to me, more like he was checking off his to-do list. I soon came to realize I couldn't compete with his Porsche and his ego. I felt like a pretty accessory to go with his Porsche. One day I decided I was done with him, and he didn't hesitate walking away.
The more I spent time with Mister kind eyes, the more I felt he was someone who made me feel better about myself. I was excited by the anticipation of sex with him for the first time. I put good, fresh sheets on the bed. I bought new underwear, nothing slutty but pretty. I even shaved my legs and spent extra time making sure every detail looked its best.
We were so naturally attracted to each other; I would get wet holding him close. This was making love, kind, tender, patient, and thrilling. I soon wanted to feel him inside me every chance we got. I knew he felt the same, and things were moving so quickly, but I didn't care; it felt so right.
He surprised me with a proposal on the beach at night. I said yes immediately and thought, what are my mom and dad going to say? They haven't met him yet, but I'm sure they will love him like I do. Soon we became focused on making wedding plans and meeting each other's families.
Saturdays at the yoga studio were good for my body and attitude, but I kept getting a sharp pain in my pelvis. I had bad menstrual cramps as a teen; being on the pill had helped reduce them. Then the migraines started. I was having a bad day when he found me in my bedroom curled in a ball. He looked so helpless, like he was feeling my pain and couldn't do anything about it.
I went to my OB/GYN to see what could be happening to me. I really liked and respected this woman; she was knowledgeable and very attentive. But I was disappointed when she told me I was fine and some pain is what women had to live with. I knew there had to be a better answer.
The next Saturday at yoga, I worked out next to my trusty friend. She's a young mom, and yoga is her me-time away from her husband and child. She noticed I was uncomfortable.
"Where were you last week? Everything ok?"
"Migraines and pelvic pain; not sure why, but GYN says it's nothing."
"No kidding, I went through the same thing about a few months after delivery. OB said, "Toughen up and get over it."
"Really, how insensitive."
"No kidding, but I didn't accept his answer; I found alternative care to fix my pain."
"How?"
"I did some research and found pelvic floor muscle balance is critical to a pain-free active lifestyle. The MDs tend to overlook the muscle group, but it's your body's foundation. Tense or weak pelvic muscles can affect men and women."
"Let's chat more after class."
Class was great, and I was able to manage the pain. As we began to chat, I was taken aback by what my friend described.
"Are you certain vaginal massage is a legitimate medical treatment for pelvic pain? It sounds shady. I bet some perv is the author of the theory."