When I first met Brenda I would never have thought of her as "dominant", let alone myself as "submissive". She came across as a strong, intelligent woman who knew what she liked, and that included sex. It was refreshing to be with a woman who let me know what she wanted, instead of expecting me to read her mind. And it was especially nice that her high libido had her initiating sex most of the time. What guy could complain about that? If that's submissive, then I guess most guys are submissive.
We were such a perfect fit for each other that before I knew it we were engaged to be married. It was during the engagement that we really tried to get to know each other a lot better. The fun part was sharing sexual fantasies. Feeling comfortable enough that she wouldn't think it an insult to her sexuality, I mentioned one of mine that I suppose is shared by a lot of guys; namely sex with two women, including the women having sex with each other. She wasn't offended, she just smiled, it was almost a relief.
One thing changed during the engagement, she wanted me to agree to no masturbation and no orgasm without her permission, even though I would be bringing her to one (or more) every time we were together. And she was quick to point out that her permission wouldn't be coming every time. This was a real shock to me. My first wife's idea of birth control was to bring me off one way or another till I shot a dry loads then I would be allowed to penetrate her and orgasm. So I was used to cumming quite frequently, certainly in every sexual encounter. In fact I had thought of myself being quite restrained by settling for only one or two orgasms per sexual encounter with Brenda. I questioned her about why she got to cum all the time and I didn't.
She just smiled and said, "Well for one thing, you always try to rush to the finish line."
"But I always make sure you orgasm," I countered. I thought I was a very considerate lover.
"Yes you do, dear," she answered patiently. "But I want to help you learn to savor our sexual meal, to extend the pleasure and enhance it for both of us, not just rush through it in order to wolf down the dessert. If you don't think you can keep your promise of no masturbating at all and no cumming without my permission, tell me now, and we'll make other arrangements."
"What 'other arrangements'?" I asked.
"Well that would be a chastity device for you, and if you weren't willing to go along with that, then I guess we'd have to call off the engagement," she said matter-of-factly, then added, "But I really hope you'll be agreeable, because I don't want to lose you, and I know if you trust me I can make us both extremely happy."
I agreed, and also promised to ask for the chastity device if I didn't think I could hold out on my own self-discipline. The next few weeks went pretty well. We'd see each other two or three times during the week then again over the weekend. Typically I was being allowed to cum on Saturday, but by Sunday I was horny again from bringing her to more orgasms. I had been blowing huge loads and thought I could actually feel my balls lighten when I came. I had to admit that the orgasms were better than any I had ever experienced in my life. Then the next Saturday Brenda dropped a bombshell, "You won't be cumming this weekend."
"But, I thought..."
She cut me off with a smile and a finger pressed to my lips. "Now, dear, you remember I told you I was going to be in charge of your orgasm, and teach you to savor. So no questions, and no complaints, OK?"
I reluctantly agreed, but was feeling a little depressed, it was just that I had so been looking forward to one of those big load orgasms, and my balls actually ached. Perhaps sensing these thoughts, Brenda cupped my balls lovingly, and said "Just imagine how much bigger and better it will be when I do let you empty them."
I tried to concentrate on that, but it was difficult. Eating her to a long, slow series of orgasms did distract me somewhat. Gradually the time between my orgasms was lengthened, and I actually began to focus more on the pleasure of the stimulation, which before had only been the lead up to orgasm. That allowed me to enjoy and prolong the pleasure. I even began to find myself getting some measure of sexual satisfaction from her orgasms.
All in all I was pretty happy with Brenda's plan, and had to agree that she had been right all along about what needed to change. I needed to remember that, because Brenda had a few more changes in mind. I was down to one orgasm every two or three weeks, when she announced that just for a while I would only be allowed to cum by her hand or orally - no penetration would be allowed. She assured me that this was not going to be a permanent arrangement, but wanted me to be comfortable with this. To help it go down easier at first, on the day I was allowed to cum I would be allowed as many orgasms as I could manage during our lovemaking. I was handling this OK, but two months before our wedding she handed me the biggest shock.