Milking Your Man With E Stim

My last post was all about why it's so good for women to milk their man, and some techniques to get the most out of him. Prostate massage is the best method, but it requires some effort and may not work on all men, but there's a hi-tech way to milk him at the touch of a button :)

With Electronic stimulation or "e-stim", you can force a man to ejaculate without even touching his penis.

The aim of milking your man is to empty his sperm without giving him the pleasure of an orgasm so that he stays horny but is unable to do anything about it. Prostate massage is great because you can extract his sperm with almost no sensation at all (other than the relief of pressure in his balls) and the penetration of his anus reinforces his submissive role.

e-stim is a little different because it involves very intense sensation, but you can empty his sperm without any physical contact and without giving him the pleasure of an orgasm in return. The process is perfect for reinforcing your dominance over him. He will learn that being milked is only a process to relieve pressure in his balls, not to give him pleasure. You own his sperm and you will extract it when he has served you well.

So how do you actually use an e-stim unit to milk your man?

First you need to convince him to try it. If you have already milked him by prostate massage, it should be pretty easy. He will be used to the idea of being kept in chastity and that the only way to relieve pressure in his balls is to do what you want. Tell him that the only way to relieve pressure in his balls this time is by e-stim.

Once he is ready to get "connected", you will need to decide which controller to use. There are many different e-stim controllers available now. Some of them are designed for electronic muscle exercise (TENS units) and others are specifically designed for e-stim fun. The TENS units tend to be cheaper and easier to find. The e-stim units are usually more expensive, but have more options. I use a TENS7000. It's inexpensive, reliable and has enough options for plenty of variety without being too complicated. The manual control knobs are also easier to adjust than electronic buttons, particularly when things get "exciting".

Next you need to select the electrodes to use.

Most of the controllers come with a basic set of sticky pad electrodes. They are good to get started, but you will soon want to graduate him to more creative options. There are flexible conductive silicone rods that can be wrapped around his penis or balls. There are stainless steel rings, anal probes and penis inserts. You can modify a lot of stainless steel penis jewellery and chastity toys to e-stim electrodes by cutting the cord from a sticky pad and connecting it to the toy with some heat shrink tubing. I have made a special e-stim chastity cage for my husband this way. I can milk him without even unlocking his penis!

The combination of electrode types and where you put them is almost endless. Add that to the variety of settings on the controllers and the possibilities are limitless. I've found the best method for male milking is a combination of electrodes that makes the current run down the full length of his penis. A stainless ring around his shaft just below his corona combined with a larger ring around the base of his shaft and balls (eg the base ring for his chastity cage) is a good combination to get started. A sticky pad electrode attached between his balls and anus is also good for the second electrode because it will stimulate his prostate gland.

Sticky pads on the tip of his penis probably won't work because it is just too sensitive. The sensations will overwhelm the stimulation of the nerves in his shaft that trigger ejaculation. Likewise, electrodes directly on his scrotum are generally not a good idea because the sensation at high power is similar to having his balls crushed, unless of course he is into that!

The gold standard I've found for milking my husband is to insert a probe into his anus and a hollow stainless plug into the tip of his penis. The anal probe gets very close to his prostate and the muscles around his seminal vesicles that make him ejaculate. There are some commercially available TENS probes designed to stimulate Kegel exercises in women, but they are perfect for in a man's anus for stimulating his prostate.

The plug in his penis ensures that the current runs the full length of his shaft to stimulate the nerves that get him ready to ejaculate. There aren't many plugs designed for that purpose, but you can make one by attaching a TENS lead to a regular plug with some heat shrink tube. Of course the plug needs to be hollow so his sperm can pour out when you milk him. Just make sure the plug is a good tight fit inside him because if it slips out in mid session, he will get a big jolt right where it hurts most!

Of course you have to get the electrodes on (or into) your man. Understandably, most men are a little hesitant to connect anything electrical to their penis! But, again, if his balls are full, it won't take much teasing to go the final step and connect the electrodes.

Once he is all hooked up, the fun starts. Forcing a man to ejaculate with e-stim takes a lot of practice. It's a bit like giving him a hand job. A lot of things have to be just right or you are going to get a sore arm and no result. Just like the hand job, your work will be a lot easier when his balls are over full and he is desperate for release.

You need to take a few precautions when you are connecting him up. Like anything inserted into the body, electrodes need to be clean. That goes double for penis probes because the urethra is an easy place for bacteria to grow and the consequences of an infection can be serious. Sterilize everything before you start and avoid touching any part of the probe that will go inside.

One other thing to be careful about with e-stim is the size of electrodes. very small electrodes or electrodes placed very close together are a bad idea because they concentrate a lot of current flow through a small area of flesh and that can result in burns which can have serious consequences if they are internal. Stick to things that have contacts greater than about 1cm diameter and keep them more than 1cm apart.

When you're deciding where to put the electrodes, the general rule is anywhere below the waist. The heart and brain are controlled by electrical signals and interfering with those is a really bad idea!

One final caution is to make sure you turn the power off before you connect or disconnect an electrode to the skin. If the power is on at the moment of contact, even a low level will concentrate all the power through a very small area. That is something that your husband won't forget in a hurry!

Once you get your man connected and you turn on the power, you'll need to communicate very well until you find what works for him. Since you won't be touching him during the milking process, you won't get any feedback about what sensations he's getting or when it's too much. Once you find a combination that works, you'll get used to the subtle signs that tell you when his body can't take any more and when he's ready to give up his seed.

The options for settings and programs on the control units are seemingly endless and can be a bit daunting at first. Normal mode on the TENS7000 is basically a constant buzz and you can vary the power of the buzz with the control knob. The other modes are various automatic rising and falling patterns where you control the maximum power of the cycle with the control knob. The other width and frequency settings change the style of the buzz, but I've found the default settings work best so I don't change them.

I usually start my husband on SD2 mode (which is an automatic rising and falling power pattern), but when he is "ready". I know he's ready when his penis gets fully erect. I like to see his shaft rigid and his glans really bulging before I start the milking process.

When he is fully ready, I switch back to normal mode and slowly increase the power until he starts making the right noises. With the TENS7000, he can usually take about level 4 or 5 depending on where I have attached the electrodes to him. If he hasn't ejaculated within about a minute, I reduce the power for a couple of minutes to allow his muscles to relax and his nerves to rest. Then it's back up to 5.

If he has been well prepared, it usually only takes a couple of those cycles to push him past the point of no return. He starts to grunt and moan and his sperm begins to dribble rom the tip of the penis probe. Then it starts pouring out in a continuous stream until he is completely empty.

The view of his seed pouring out of his helpless engorged penis as I manipulate the controls on the TENS unit is a huge turn on for me. I often work my clit to an orgasm with my free hand as he is losing his sperm.

I usually collect his sperm in a cup to see how much he has produced and I sometimes make him drink it before I turn off the power if I'm feeling particularly wicked!

Of course I don't know exactly what sensations he is getting as he ejaculates, but I understand his bodily processes enough to know that the stimulation of nerves in his penis brings him towards an orgasm, but when the ejaculation starts, the muscles around his seminal vesicles are held in contraction by the electrical stimulation so they can't do the rhythmic spasms that give him pleasure in a normal ejaculation. They just push the sperm out of him until he is empty.He gets a super intense build-up without any physical contact then at the last minute I squeeze the sperm out of him by remote control using his own muscles. It's the ultimate ruined orgasm for him.

When he's empty, his penis gets super sensitive just like a normal ejaculation, but the intensity of e-stim sensations can take post orgasmic torture (POT) to a whole new level if that's your thing. I prefer to let him cool of and recover so I can easily get him back into his cage, ready for next time!