My name is Jake, and this is my story about coming to terms with a small penis.
There are approximately 100 million men between the ages of 18 and 65 in the United States.
Statistically, 85% of erect penises are below 7 inches in length.
The average erect penis length is 5.6 inches. The average flaccid length is 3.61 inches.
Why am I listing these statistics? Well, for most men who fall in the average range, this is no big deal. For the big guys, they're probably beaming and proud of the fact that they're well-hung. But for us little guys, there's real humiliation in knowing we're small and because of this, we don't want to be outed. We'll use restroom stalls, instead of urinals. We're less likely to hit on gorgeous women, lest they discover our tiny dicks. So we settle on the mediocre women -- the uglier ones, the chubbier ones, the older ones. Or we go home from bars and nightclubs alone.
My erect length is barely 3 inches, so it's not at all impressive. Soft, I have a "button penis." It's maybe 1.25 inches long. Stretched, I get maybe 2.5 inches. This means that MY penis is approximately 2-3 inches shorter than average both hard AND soft. Growing up, I used to be teased in in the locker room after gym class or football practice. There was a significant amount of ball-busting when I went through basic training as well.
So...If 85% of penises are below 7 inches, with 5.6 inches being dead average, there are STILL 15% who are OVER 7 inches. Getting back to the 100 million men in the U.S. thing -- that means there are around 15 MILLION guys out there in the USA with penises over 7 inches. Divide that into 50 states, and you get an average of about 300,00 men with 7, 8, 9 inch (and maybe BIGGER) cocks in EACH state. Not that Vermont, Wyoming, Alaska, etc. have that many well hung men - they're spread out, and per capita, there are probably more in larger cities and more densely populated areas - but you get the picture.
Although I knew I was small growing up, I first realized this gross disparity in the dating world after going through a divorce with my first wife. We'd initially met in college, and neither was very experienced. When pressed, she admitted other men she slept with were larger, but that my size did not bother her. Despite this, we had a decent amount of sex when we were dating in college, although it tapered off to weekly or every other week after we got married. She told me that she wasn't a very sexual person and almost never masturbated, but that she did climax easily during sex. After we started having kids, it dwindled to a few times a year at best. Now in our forties, with 4 kids and stressful careers, our nearly sexless marriage had long lost the love and the fire could not be rekindled. So we parted ways on good terms.
At 43, I started casually dating and making up for lost time. Although I was getting a lot of dates, the super attractive women would inevitably lose interest after we started taking things to the next level. I seldom got to sleep with the hot ones, as after a make out session while feeling each other up, or starting to go down on each other, they'd discover how small I am. Even the average-looking women, and the less-than-average-looking women and the chubbier ones knew they could find someone bigger down there. There were a couple of women who remained interested because of my skilled tongue and lips and my enthusiasm for eating pussy who tried to make things work.
One woman came straight out and told me that she liked me, but I had a small dick which was no good for her in bed. Next time we got together she brought a gift. "Here," she said. "Open it up. I got it from an adult bookstore, especially for you." At first, I thought it was a large dildo. But then I realized it was a penis extension sleeve, designed to slide tightly over a smaller erect penis and through suction, stay on to allow thrusting. It worked, and she got off, but she soon grew tired of it and told me she wanted to find someone else. She DID like me, and would consider dating me seriously, but she said she reserved the right to see other people if we stayed together. Although she expected me to remain faithful to her. It WAS kind of a turn-on, I passed on the offer.
I continued to casually date, keeping busy with my kids, my work, and my hobbies, but still occasionally meeting women for the next couple of years. I'd say that I got laid every month or two, if I was lucky, but I ate a LOT of pussy. I even had a couple of regulars who never let me fuck them, but always wanted muff-diving sessions. Both of them had since gone on to date other people, but confided in me that 'though their boyfriends were well-endowed and the dick was good, they never went down on them the way I did.
Like men who have their preferences for women with big tits or big asses, there are lots of women who prefer larger cocks. Not all women do, and there are some who are happy with the man the cock is attached to, regardless of size. But for a lot of them, size is everything. As I found out with the woman who bought me the penis extender, and as I later found out with my soon-to-be 2nd wife, Shay.
Shay is 37. She is very sexy and curvy. And when I say curvy, I mean it in a GOOD way. Likes her margaritas and tacos, but goes to the gym. Hourglass figure. Taller -- around 5'9" with size D breasts and a nice round butt. Maybe 180 pounds. Flat stomach. Nice legs. Pretty feet. Sexy eyes. Pretty face. Nice hair. Minimal makeup. When we met, she was enamored with me. She held off on my advances for almost a MONTH. Although we went out weekly, and made out at the end of our dates, we did not sleep together for several weeks. Our sexual chemistry was on fire! She LOVED the way I went down on her, and talked dirty to me when I fucked her, telling me I did it SO well. She did not seem to mind that I was less than modestly endowed. Sometimes, on nights when I knew I wouldn't see her because I was working an evening shift or our schedules didn't line up, she'd stop by after work, and beg me to eat her out before she went out with the girls, to the gym, home to do housework, etc.
After dating her for a year, I went out and bought an engagement ring and proposed. She accepted. Within the next two weeks, we talked more and more about our future together. And that's when she came clean.
She told me she loved me, but that since we'd been together, she missed the feeling of being, "filled up," during sex. I asked her why she was telling me this since when we were intimate, she'd tell me I did it SO well. She confessed that while no man had ever fucked her as passionately as I did (and that I DID fuck her well, or as well as I was able to), she still yearned to be stretched and filled like she had been by so many of her previous lovers. Although she orgasmed from oral very quickly, and I satisfied her in THAT department, she REALLY climaxed from vaginal sex. Those orgasms made her cum HARD.
We had so many other things in common -- we both enjoyed watching football, going to the gym, finding new trails to hike, dogs, and we were both well-liked by each others' friends and families. She felt safe with me, respected, loved, and I'd never made her feel like anything other than a lady. She very much wanted to marry me and start a family. However, she was not enthusiastic about missing out on the kind of sex she had gotten used to in her single life once we were married. She admitted that she'd lost her virginity at 16, when she was a sophomore in high school, to her first boyfriend, who was a senior. At the time, being young and inexperienced, she thought it was normal that her boyfriend had a thick penis that was almost 9 inches erect. She later found out, after they broke up when he went away to college, that all men were not hung like that. She never had problems finding men to date after that, and sometimes, she'd casually date more than one man. But usually, if those men were not at least in the 7 to 8 inch range, and relatively thick, she lost interest in the sexual aspect of their relationship. Of course, those who could eat pussy well would fare better in keeping her interested longer, but usually that interest would wane.
