Her view: Lying on her back with her legs spread wide, she marveled at how much she had learned about her relationship and her partner and his needs. Pillows were stuffed under her ass to raise her off the bed and her legs were tied around the thigh with just enough cord to comfortably pull them apart and back so her cunt was comfortably on display. She appreciated the reduced strain to keep her legs apart. Between her legs was her spouse of many years nibbling on her clit. As the pleasure starts to rise she knows that she is actually the person in control here. Although she seemingly is the one tied up she knows her partner is caged and without any control over his orgasm. She gets to play on her terms.
You see, through joyful experimentation she has learned of her partner's desire for her guidance in day to day sexual encounters. At first she found this confusing and it did cause some distraction in their relationship. But as time moved on she was able to find ways that pleased her and her partner.
Now she is much more comfortable in deciding when and how she will enjoy the pleasure of an orgasm and it is not always tied to her partner getting "in the mood". She has learned she can enjoy orgasms in many places and times. It might be in the morning, in the shower, or even on the patio. He is somehow always ready now and she merely needs to decide she is ready. Her partner is now wonderfully attentive to her whole body and not just focused on her pussy. She spends many nights getting backrubs and having lotion spread all over her body. She appreciates the attention and sucking of her breasts. She loves the touching and attention when she is out shopping.
Partner View: Kneeling on the bed between her legs he slowly circles her clit. He has found over the past few months that she likes it slow and in circles. The pleasure is in pleasing her. He has been guided to circle her thighs with a special purple cord and then tie her legs so they rest comfortably behind her. She loves to have the pillows piled so her ass is easily spread and her pussy easily licked. She enjoys feeling her pussy being stretched and open. She has a special desire to be in this position and her moaning says he is doing just fine. He feels his cock getting hard but sadly the cage keeps it out of reach.
After explaining his desires a few years ago the two of them have been working on ways for him to please her. One of the first and most important ways was the introduction of the chastity devices. You see she wants to be desired and it turns out that he was being a bit selfish as many men can be. In times of stress the idea of taking the time and effort to be romantic succumbs to the desire to reduce the pressure on his cock. The sad truth was he was whacking off as a time saving measure but in reality was missing out on so much. Efficiency is not everything!