My name's Vincent, I'm a 26 year old Singaporean who moved to Australia when I was 18 to study Accounting. By most standards, I'm fairly average - except maybe a bit fitter than your typical Asian guy. I hit the gym everyday, standing at 170cm and consistently weighing 60kg with around 14-15% body fat. However, despite achieving a body good enough for sports magazines, and forking out a small fortune on dating app subscriptions, I found myself disillusioned with the Sydney dating scene. Eventually, I gave up its beautiful beaches to explore other horizons.
Though I climbed the actuarial ladder faster than most, I decided to move to Melbourne, accepting a slight demotion for a $150k salary as a risk manager. I settled into a nice high-rise apartment with some financial help from my parents. It became quickly evident that the Melbourne social scene was as frigid as its weather.
I turned to online dating sites and that's where I met Linda. She lived in the Philippines and after 3 months of chatting, she was ready to move countries, marry me, and start a life together. She was a couple years younger and I did grapple if she was a bit too young, but Linda was easy going and consistently initiated our conversations, which also helped me come out of my shell.
I suppose my financial status might have played a big part in Linda's parents pushing for our marriage. The moment they saw my apartment during a virtual tour and learned about my job, it seemed like they would have sent her off that very moment if they could.
As I turned my camera to the towered skyline, offering the view from my living room, Linda's parents gasped, their eyes wide with surprise, as they watched from a crowded local internet cafe. In the background, kids huddled around other computers, watching their friends play, eagerly waiting their turn. It was only daytime on their side of the world, but moths were already fluttering around the cold fluorescent lights above them. Meanwhile, my parents still haven't received word of our marriage to this very day.
Making friends immediately became easier after getting married. It was something I've constantly struggled with, despite already a few years in Australia. Overnight, Linda and I were a curiosity at meetups, effortlessly drawing sufficient attention, as opposed to when I used to attend alone, resorting to nerdy groups in the back corners, embellishing my stories through gritted smiles, desperate to engage with others who merely tolerated my attempts at conversation.