We had been married 5 or 6 years. The sex was good but not surprisingly not as good as when we were first together. We were still both trying to keep it fresh. I had raised the fact that there was a dark side of me that fantasized about watching her with another man. I knew if she said yes I would be nervous about it. She was never upset by me raising it, but said she could not imagine being comfortable with it actually happening. She said she didn't want a stranger involved but could not face a friend after sleeping with them.
One thing we did both enjoy was very mind bondage. I would tie her hands above her head and to the headboard of the bed. She enjoyed this and asked me to blindfold her as she could then use her imagination to fantasize. I told her that I would not talk to her or ever ask her what her fantasy had been. We were able to use most of our favorite positions as she could turn over and her legs were free to move.
It was during one of these sessions that I realized that she was miles away in her head and would not know who was making love to her. It registered that her issue with involving a friend was not being able to face them afterwards. I sounded her out quietly about this issue but realized she was worried about both how she would feel and how the friend would feel. I could not get the possibility of involving one particular close friend of ours into one of our bondage sessions. No I could not do this, as our friend would be seeing her afterwards.
I could not get the idea out of my mind but knew I did not have the answer. It was at a social work event with my colleagues that Joy met James who was visiting from our Scottish office. He was lively and they spent the evening sitting together and laughing lots. When we got home Joy admitted that she found James really exciting and attractive. I said we were unlikely to see him again as he was only working in London for his last two weeks with the company and was then moving to France. She apologized for flirting with him and said she would make it up to me the next time we made love.
I suggested that we could have a bondage session but I could tell her what she had to fantasize about. The next day James sought me out to apologies for monopolizing Joy the night before. I said that Joy had enjoyed the evening and I had no problem with it. He said it was a shame they would not see each other again as he found her exciting and very attractive. Somehow he managed to say this and leave an unknown question hanging in the air.
It took me two days wrestling with myself before I admitted to myself that I had a plan. Joy had mentioned James casually a couple of times and I asked if she wanted me to arrange for us to meet up with him. She looked flustered when she said she would like that. I said I would see if I could sort something out. James face lit up when I mentioned that Joy was keen to meet him again. His positive answer raised more questions than it answered, as if he was wondering what I was suggesting. I knew if my thoughts could turn into actions it had to be now. It was a high-risk strategy but laid out what I was thinking.
"I can think of a way that you could have sex with Joy, she could preserve a pretense of innocence and I could enjoy seeing my wife enjoyed by another man."
"I am intrigued what are you suggesting Bob?"