My name is James Dalton Guillaume. My friends call me J.D. for short, And I'm a man with a dilemma. You see, I got issues with Black women. It's a love and hate thing between me and them. On the surface, I definitely look like a 'together' brother. I stand six feet two inches tall, broad-shouldered and well-built, with medium brown skin and curly Black hair. I was born and raised in the City of Cap-Haitien, Northern Haiti, but moved to the City of Ottawa, Province of Ontario, twelve years ago. I am twenty eight years old, and work for the Canadian Revenue Agency on Bank Street in downtown Ottawa. I hold a bachelor's degree in business administration from Carleton University and an MBA from the University of Ottawa. I made ninety six thousand six hundred and eighty six dollars after taxes in the 2010-2011 year. I live in a newly minted plush condo on Roger Guindon Avenue near the Ottawa General Hospital. It's a pricy neighborhood but I got to park my bright red Lexus somewhere safe, you know? Not bad for a guy who's fresh out of school during a recession, eh?
I attend All Nations Full Gospel Church in the City of Ottawa, Ontario. It's a beautiful and mainly African church where a Haitian brother like me can feel right at home. A year ago, I made an astonishing discovery. Throughout my University years, I mainly dated White women because I found sisters too dramatic and too loud for my taste. A lot of good-looking, educated Black men working in the public and private sector in America and Canada's big cities mainly date White women as well. The way I figure it, a Black man has enough problems on God's green Earth. You don't need the complications that a mean sister can bring. That was my reasoning when I asked out Deirdre Saint-Aubin at Carleton University during my freshman year. The tall, blonde-haired and green-eyed French Canadian simply took my breath away. She hailed from the City of Montreal, Quebec, but opted to study at Carleton University in Ottawa, Ontario, because she wanted to get away from her hometown.
Deirdre Saint-Aubin and I had some glorious years together. When I graduated from the University of Ottawa's Telfer MBA program, I told myself that I was ready for big things. I asked my longtime girlfriend to marry me inside East Side Mario's restaurant. And she turned me down, shattering my poor little heart into a billion pieces. Deirdre looked at me coldly and told me that while our time together had been fun, she couldn't see herself marrying a Black man. Even though we'd been dating for six years. How about that? She also told me that she was rekindling her romance with Keith Madison, the Irish guy she'd been dating when we met at Carleton University. Apparently, Keith was back in Ottawa after several years in the City of Calgary, Alberta, and he wanted her back. That day, I swore off White women. For real. White women are bitches, man. We Black men often accuse Black women of being gold diggers but White women are the original gold diggers. They really don't mess with a broke brother. Oh, my God. I made the same mistake as Tiger Woods. I chose a gold-digging White bitch over the sisters and I faced ridicule because of my mistake. That's how I ended up almost killing myself and landed on the couch of Dr. Barbara Williamson, an African-American psychiatrist and famous author who emigrated to the City of Ottawa, Ontario, from the City of Atlanta, Georgia, six years ago. Supposedly she now divides her time between the Province of Ontario and the State of Georgia.
Sitting on the couch, I bared my soul to this fifty-something Black woman who looked stylish in a nicely cut business suit. Dr. Williamson's office was packed with pictures of her family. I saw a light-skinned, older Black guy in a highly decorated U.S. Military uniform who reminded me of that preppy hotel dude from The Jamie Foxx Show. I guess that was her husband. And the younger Black guy in the picture must be their son. Cool. I found these pictures oddly reassuring. A Black female professional happily married to a successful Black man. Cool. Kind of reminds me of my parents. My folks, Lucien and Marguerite Guillaume live in the City of Montreal, Quebec. They're enjoying their retirement in the beautiful house I purchased for them in Montreal-Nord. It was the least I could do. I mean, my parents sacrificed everything for me. My father worked as a bus driver in Ottawa for ten years to feed his family. Working for OC Transpo, the bus company that transports people across the vastness of Ottawa, isn't easy when you're a foreign-born Black man. Yet my father did it because he wanted to take care of his family. My parents are really loving the Haitian-dominated neighborhoods of Montreal-Nord. My mother Marguerite Etienne Guillaume still works as a nurse practitioner from time to time, doing the odd shift at a nursing home when they call her.
Lately, I've been feeling trapped. A lot of Black women say they want a nice brother who's educated, heterosexual, unmarried, has no offspring and happens to be disease-free. I definitely meet the criterion. So why am I alone? In my division at the Canadian Revenue Agency in downtown Ottawa, there are exactly one hundred and thirty people. Nineteen Chinese guys. Eight Chinese ladies. Three East Indian men and five East Indian women. Four Arab women and one Arab man. Eleven Black women and eight Black men. The rest of the division is made up of White men and White women. That's the Canadian government's idea of racial diversity at the workplace. Most of the Black women at the Canadian Revenue Agency are dating White men or Hispanic males. Two of the Black women are gay. All of the Black male employees at the Canadian Revenue Agency, from Stephen, the tall young brother in the security uniform who attends Algonquin College part-time to Joshua, the older Black janitor, happens to be either dating or married to a White woman. I'm the only brother in this cutthroat environment who likes the sisters. I've got several pictures of Black American celebrities like Serena Williams ( on the beach), Alicia Keys ( in concert) and South African-born singing sensation Noni Zondi. I lust after big-booty Black women, big-time. So why am I often alone on a Friday night?